dancing and music will not please everyone...either too loud, too worldly, too dull, and so on. someone will be offended whatever you do. The priority must be to honor the Lord. The pastor is responsible for the flock under his care
Ezekiel 34:2
“Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: ‘This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Woe to you shepherds of Israel who only take care of yourselves! Should not shepherds take care of the flock?
Pray "God is within her" for your pastor, and to God for Proverbs 3:5-6 to come alive for you