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You can see an example of unpardonable sin in King Saul. He had a knowledge of God and was at first chosen by God, but he became so proud he didn't want to listen to God anymore. He wasn't sorry for his sin and didn't repent, even though he had many chances, so he stopped listening to the Holy Spirit. God shows mercy even to those who have a mature knowledge of Him and fall into sin. For example, King David. King David was considered, "a man after God's own heart," yet he committed adultery and arranged to kill the husband of the woman he slept with. When King David was confronted with his sin (unlike King Saul), he realised how bad it was and he repented. Sin is only unforgivable when you stop listening to the Holy Spirit! In Mark 3:28, 29 when Jesus spoke of blaspheming against the Holy Spirit, He was trying to warn the scribes (some of the religious leaders) of His time about their danger of eternal damnation. They could see Jesus' power in person, and had plenty of evidence of his divinity and goodness, yet they were accusing Him of having an evil spirit. If they had so much evidence, but they still refused to believe in Jesus, what would be left for them? Jesus loved the stubborn, rebellious religious leaders and tried to show them over and over again the way to life! You can see that most of them constantly resisted the Holy Spirit in the face of almost overwhelming evidence. If Jesus showed so much love, and gave so many chances to those who would eventually murder Him, do you think He will turn away from you, just because you fear you have said or done something bad by accident or impulse? Jesus understands our humanity, and how we suffer from anxiety and depraved thoughts sometimes. In Isaiah 53, when you read the meanings of the original language, you will see that He carried our anxieties, griefs and depravities on the cross.

Thank you everyone for your insightful and thoughtful answers. I want to apologise for taking so long to reply and show my appreciation! We have been very busy! I have decided I will ask him in advance what he would like me to do when he is upset, such as giving him space and taking out the kids. I will also not take things too seriously and try to have more fun and playful moments together, as his love language is quality time. I am also praying that we can find a more suitable day job for him with regular hours and I am doing job-searching on his behalf. Thank you very much again and God bless you all.

@Willa thank you for your beautiful, uplifting and understanding reply. Yes, I have noticed that my husband almost never cries. He does have the belief that men should never cry, which I find really sad. I really wish he would cry and show his emotions sometime. He is in his forties and has been saying lately that he feels he hasn't accomplished what he dreamed of doing with his life. He has a really high standard for success. He doesn't just want to have a good job. He wants to be really rich and have the best of everything, especially because he suffered as a young child from not having enough. He sees every lack as a reminder of his childhood. As per your advice, I am going to do everything I can, to show love to him and support to him. Sadly I can't become a businesswoman and earn lots of money for him, because I don't have that gift! I am a boring person when it comes to money. My favourite thing is just making sure bills and debts are all paid. I am the one who does all the bill-paying because he doesn't do the "online" thing, but I know that his work is causing stress because he does a lot of night shifts. He has been switching between day and night shifts for more than ten years right now. He is about to do extra study to try and get a day job, and we are praying and job searching right now. I also offered for me to get a full time job in teaching so he could stop doing night shifts, but he doesn't want me to be the main income earner. I'm actually worried that he could have a physical sickness that could be causing his mood swings, or be suffering from PTSD from his childhood. Thank you so much for your prayers - prayer is powerful! And thank you also for the lovely Bible verses

Thank you so much for your understanding comment. Thank you also for your prayers! Yes, we need a lot of prayer It is so true that we tend to hurt the ones closest to us the most. I will have to keep and eye on this and see if I am doing things that would hurt my husband's feelings. Also, I have stopped watching T.V. I had postnatal depression, and stopped watching secular movies, T.V. and news and it helped me a lot too! My husband still loves movies so it is a bit disappointing to him that I don't want to watch secular movies with him anymore. The song lyrics that you shared are beautiful. Thank you and God bless.

My husband and I are both Christians, Lately, my mostly loving husband seems to switch personalities, from loving to fuming at the drop of a hat. Just like Jekyll and Hyde. Background: He had a traumatic childhood, with poverty, not enough food, a violent alcoholic father, being sent to boarding school at a very young age. He is also very disappointed that he hasn't achieved "success" in a worldly definition. Lately, his anger seems to be getting worse. I was feeling a little bit scared this morning, although he has never physically harmed me or our kids. My question is, what kind of boundaries would be appropriate, and how to actually enforce those boundaries? I don't want him yelling loudly and swearing in front of the kids. I can only imagine it is really scary for them. This morning I asked him to help our daughter get ready for school so we wouldn't be late. He started yelling at me because her shirt didn't look totally clean. I said to him, "I don't want to keep discussing this when you're speaking to me in an angry tone of voice." He got much angrier, yelled louder the same thing over and over again and swore a couple of times. I was a bit scared, and I drove away and talked to him by text message. He finally calmed down and said sorry and seemed like he had completely forgotten about his previous anger. The only problem is, he had a tantrum just a few days ago, which he also seemed to just ignore later on. His anger outburst last Thursday was over me being happy that I was asked to write for a Christian magazine. He got furious about me wanting to write for something that wouldn't pay well. I told him I want to do it with my spare time and I don't care about the pay. He doesn't answer to me for his spare time. He was fuming. He growled, gripped the steering wheel as if he had claws, and drove faster. I told him when we stopped that I'm not accepting that threatening behaviour and if he does it again I will take a taxi or insist on being the driver. However, he insisted he wasn't being threatening, and he didn't speak to me for the rest of the night. He shut himself in with the T.V. and watched it way beyond when I fell asleep. I am finding the angry outbursts to be emotionally consuming. I get sick more easily due to the stress; I miss out on sleep and I find it harder to focus on quality activities with him; our kids, and even just having time to look after myself. I don't have much spare time in the day since I do the majority of caring for the kids due to his work being so busy. Some days I only see him for one or two hours in a 24-hr period, so we are also praying for him to find a different job. I am taking on some casual work to try and help him feel less stressed too. I just want to do things for him out of love rather than to try and placate him, or avoid a temper tantrum, and I want to set good boundaries with sensible consequences. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you!

Hi @Sanctum, I have also suffered from extreme depression and wished at one point - or thought - it would be better to die than to keep living like this. But if you are willing to try everything you can, research about how to get out of depression and put everything into practice- looking after yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually and socially and trusting that God will not give you more than you can bear, then I know that you can emerge even happier than you have ever been before, and you will look back on your dark days of depression, and feel that every day of feeling "normal" is amazing. Obviously I don't know the cause of your depression, but the most life-changing thing for me was that whenever I felt depressed and anxious, I would focus my mind on reading the Bible, and on filling my mind with good, pure and true thoughts only. Bible, prayer-lists, true inspirational stories, sermons and music. That was my only mental focus. When I read Isaiah 53 about Jesus bearing all our sorrows and sicknesses and studied it deeply, I felt Jesus' peaceful presence taking way my anxiety. I also did everything I could physically. I ate three nutritious meals a day, drank lots of water in-between, exercised every day, and got sunlight. I had restful time before bed with no study and just a relaxing hot shower/bath before sleeping. I rang people when I felt lonely. Whatever makes you feel relaxed and like you're not just sitting and stewing in your thoughts. I got a lot of ideas for the physical treatment of depression from a book by Neal Nedley called "Depression, the Way Out." It's very simplistic but has a lot of ideas for improving health and mental wellbeing. There is plenty of stuff for free online too. Your brain is a part of your body so you need to do everything you can to support your physical health so you will have the mental energy to re-direct your thoughts. Have you reached out to others and told them you are feeling depressed? I did this straight away the second time I suffered from depression because the first time was awful. My behaviour seemed silly to my loved ones at times because I didn't tell them what was going on and what I needed help with.

Don't be afraid. Look at how many times God gave chances to even the most hardened sinners. For example, Pharaoh, Jezebel, and many more. The unpardonable sin is when you stop fearing God and you completely block out the Holy Spirit so that you don't want to ask for forgiveness anymore. If you are still worried about sin and you are still asking God for forgiveness, then you are not committing the unpardonable sin. 1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins..."