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  1. They are leaving me out of things and I don't feel it's right. It's hard to be happy for him because it's the inlaws who are providing money and other resources and I can't do anything of equal value and I'm losing my son because of it. I'm not grateful to God for those financial blessings because they have power over my son
  2. No. I don't agree with that. I never forgot my parents and I still help them out as they are both in their 80s.
  3. The influence of money won't lose it's importance over time. His in-laws are already planning college funds for the kids. They are winning there and I don't have any means to help my son's family or his kids. Sadly, money has power in this world. I won't be able to make an impact on his life.
  4. I really hate that saying and I don't agree with it all. Again, that saying plays into the double standards. Yes, I do believe both adult men and women should establish their own households, but I don't think the wife's side should have be favored more over the husband's side of the family. That is just unfair and cruel that women's families get precedence over the husband's sides of the family. People like you who push that stupid and ridiculous saying are one of the many things that is wrong with society.
  5. Why should I let this go? I will always love my kids and be their dad and I don't think it's right that you are telling me to let it go. DOn't you think it hurts me that my sons are forgetting about me? I worked my ass off for years to support them monetarily and also emotionally. I did a lot for them and I don't think I should accept them drifting away.
  6. My third child is a girl. I remember all important dates and i also fix stuff for my son and daughter-in-law.
  7. I'm a widower with two adult children(23 and 26) and a teenager(16). My oldest son got married last year. The woman he married comes from a wealthy family and as a result they are able to give my son and his wife a lot of things. My late wife and I had a lot of financial struggles because she had multiple sclerosis. We were never able to take family vacations anywhere and our kids never went to stuff nearby like sporting events, concerts, and amusement parks. My son's in-laws take them to concerts, NFL, MLB, NHL games, and vacations. They went to Hawaii two weeks ago and I have to admit that I was very sad seeing their pictures on Facebook and Instagram. Part of it kills me because I wasn't able to give my kids nice vacations and other events. My son spends a lot of time with his in-laws and not much time with me. It's hard for me to discuss this with many people because I get accused right away of being an intrusive in-law. I see a lot of double standards in our society regarding adults and their parents. It's seen as perfectly fine for parents of an adult woman to want to spend time with their daughter, spouse, and kids. But, when parents of an adult man want to spend time with their sons, they are seen as overbearing, intrusive, and pushy. In addition to trying to talk about my issue, I've done research and I have seen websites like DWIL on babycenter, WeddingBee, WeddingWire, and various sites where women talk about hating their boyfriends or husbands' families and it seems like our society basically encourages that kind of behavior. On Wedding Wire, there is a thread of women happily talking about leaving their in-laws from wedding and pre-wedding activities. While I know some people can be mean to their daughter-in-laws and son-in-laws, it seems when the opposite happens like son-in-law and daughter-in-laws leaving out their in-laws or being mean to them, it's just accepted and women especially don't get called out for mistreating their in-laws. My other son is 23 and this is starting to happen with his girlfriend. His girlfriend and her parents take them out constantly to concerts and games. I invite them to BBQs at my house and I'm always turned down because they are off somewhere with her parents and family. I'm tired of being mistreated by my sons, older son's wife, and other son's girlfriend. I'm upset that our socieyt basically thinks it's ok for women to leave out and be mean to their in-laws. My son's wife just annouced that they are expecting their first child and I'm already upset because I know I will be left out of that child's life for different reasons. I won't be able to give that child nice gifts like my son's in-laws will be able to do. I'm really hurting these days and I don't know what to do.
  8. scott864

    Hello

    hello fellow newbie
  9. Hi I'm Scott from Oregon. I look forward to posting here.
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