Keny

Hello brothers and sisters,

I really need your advice on dealing with discouragement, loneliness and laziness. I feel lonely because I have zero social life, my family works but I don’t so I get bored all day. The only source of entertainment is my phone and tv. I feel discouraged cause I desire to spend time with my family but they’re not committed to it so I gave up. I am also very lazy because I have no motivation to do anything when I’m sealed home. 

Hello fellow brothers and sisters! I wanted this to be an encouragement. As we all know, we are living in the last days. Days and weeks are getting shorter and seem to be passing by so fast as trouble in this world increases. From life experience and by seeing others I have noticed that life has actually been much more difficult than in the old days. Now it's not just overcoming the world that has become a problem but overcoming ourselves as well. So I challenge you guys to pray earnestly no matter what and be strengthed! For our our father is coming soon! Don't lose hope no matter the circumstances!

Brother in Christ

Keny!

3 hours ago, johnthebaptist said:

I always found it fun to answer questions in class, if I knew the answer.

I used to do that before! As I grew older, I didn't want to be the know it all, so I just stopped answering questions. Another reason why I stopped is because when I kept to myself and let others anwer, I noticed I seemed to do much better on tests than just answering questions. Although when I do have questions I ask sometimes. I just don't want to keep to myself and then have problem talking when the teacher calls on me!

Hi! Keny here. As you all know school has already started for many. My school has started as well. I just wanted prayer because I feel bored and feel like life just goes in a circle going to school then home then school! I also need advice because for some reason I don't participate in class because I am afraid of what others think about me! I have no friends in any of my classes as well which pushes me to be reserved. Any advice and please pray!

Your brother in Christ

Keny!

10 hours ago, Iamnikki said:

I used to have stage fright... In my case, I overcame it by doing it more often.. When I was young, what I did was I don't look at the audience but at the wall at the back ? it worked as I started.

I would also pray, for courage from the Lord. Even upto now. Whenever I speak infront, I would think that I will do it for the Lord and with the best I can. And I would hold on to Joshua 1:9

This is how I overcame mine. Praying for you brother! 

If I ever did something I would like to do things I am passionate about but teaching is not.....so

1 hour ago, missmuffet said:

If you are not comfortable speaking in front of people don't subject yourself to the stress. It may not get easier.

That's the thing! I read that if you don't subject yourself to your fears you will never grow out of it!

2 minutes ago, Still Alive said:

Are you under 25?

I am a teen so yes!

1 hour ago, JustPassingThru said:

Hi Keny, ...may I ask, ...are you young?

I ask that because as you mature and go to work you will gain confidence in yourself, the more you learn and become adept at what you do, ...the more you will see what Father has accomplished through you.

However, until that time and if you are born again, ...here are some verses you need to appropriate into your heart:

According as He (Father) hath chosen us in Him (Jesus) before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him (Father) in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to Himself (Father), according to the good pleasure of His (Father) will, To the praise of the glory of His (Father) grace, wherein He (Father) hath made us accepted in the beloved (Jesus).  Eph 1:4-6

Look at the blessing you already possess, ...you are chosen, holy, blameless, adopted, it was an emotional choice to adopt you because Father loves you, you possess His Grace and the icing on the cake is, ...you are accepted just as you are right now and not what you will become in the future!

May I humbly suggest you replace those thoughts of everyone is looking at you with these spiritual Truths/facts. 

Lord bless

Alright. Thanks! I am young by the way. I am actually confused why you call my reaction. Because I accept myself and everything. Do crazy things with my friends but don't care what others think. However I just kind of think ( which is sometimes true) that people are looking at me. When a person actually stares at me, it's much easier to handle because I can stare back at them. Though sometimes they just don't seem to stop staring. However when you have a feeling that someone is staring at you but can't respond is quite frustrating!

3 hours ago, Billiards Ball said:

I think it's time for some Christian counseling, have you spoken with your church pastors about this issue?

No because there is no one around where I am comfortable talking to. 

7 hours ago, missmuffet said:

Do you think that you have a serious social anxiety issue? Do you have a low self esteem?

I used to have self esteem problems. Though now I am better and I don't consider myself to have social anxiety even though at times I do get tense speaking to strangers. Which I think is normal. Sometimes I think that the problem is I want to not have problems. Even though that's never gonna happen. I just have problem accepting that I am going to be worried, self conscious etc. In life. I just don't know how?!

7 hours ago, missmuffet said:

I would be honest with your youth group teacher. If you can not do it I would tell that person "No". Some people are people pleasers and they do not know how to say "No". 

I am not trying to please anyone. In fact I don't like being the center of attention. I am more towards leaning on the no side rather than yes. But since I have stage for ght should I just speak up in front of people only if I have no choice? 

36 minutes ago, Iamnikki said:

I used to have stage fright... In my case, I overcame it by doing it more often.. When I was young, what I did was I don't look at the audience but at the wall at the back ? it worked as I started.

I would also pray, for courage from the Lord. Even upto now. Whenever I speak infront, I would think that I will do it for the Lord and with the best I can. And I would hold on to Joshua 1:9

This is how I overcame mine. Praying for you brother! 

To be honest the only reason I considered it was because I saw it as an opportunity to face my fears. Unfortunately though, since I am going to be facing them and it's a small room I would have no choice but to look at them. Also I am not going to be standing up if I was to do it. I like your advice to look at the back wall. 

Hi again!

I need help or advice. So this doesn't happen every day but occasionally I seem to be self conscious. It's not that I think of myself as less. More like if I am talking with a friend my mouth just tenses up and I start talking a weird way or I stop talk. This happense even when I am walking on the sidewalk. I feel that it's all in my head that everyone is staring at me. Which has started becoming a problem because I started getting uncomfortable. I have read a lot of advices out there that say tstop caring what other people think about you but I can't seem to stop. I want to be selfless and not focused on myself but God and others. I don't want to care about what others think about me. Not that I stop being myself. I do a lot of crazy stuff and don't care what others think about it. However it's my facial reaction that bothers me. When I speak or smile I don't do it in a relaxed and I don't care what you think of me way.

Help! 

Keny

Hi!

I just want advice. So recently my youth group teacher has been asking me to help him out by teaching. He says that I have great knowledge of the Bible and it would be nice to share that with the youth group. I said that I will think about it and that I might or might not be willing. At this point it's my mouth that's speaking not the rest of me. I don't know what to do because I am willing to share what I know with the youth group but I have issues. First off teaching is not really my thing, unless I am forced to. It would be fine if it was like in a discussion and I say what I would like to say. Secondly I don't want to be the one speaking and even though I don't see myself as a shy person. I do have stage fright, which doesn't help this situation. Honestly I don't know, I would like to say no but for once I would like to face my fears( easier said than done).

I have prayed for you!

Spend time with God and let him speak to your heart! I went through the same situation. I had fear and anxiety. When I decided to spend my time with God, the Lord spoke to my heart. I suggest you read the book of John!

Brother in Christ

Keny !

Hello brothers and sisters!

I would like to ask you to join me in prayer for the youth and for God to reveal his presence in America! We need to fight the spirit that is trying to destroy America by calling on the name of Jesus!

Brother in Christ 

Keny !

Hello brothers and sisters in Christ!

I just wanted to ask what are every day challenges to do to get better at public speaking, socializing and be selfless?

If you know any challenges your welcome to post some links( if it's allowed here)

Thank you

Brother in Christ 

Kenny

15 minutes ago, BeauJangles said:

No, there's nothing wrong with that. But Keny, Jesus died for you. What more proof do you need? 

Then why do people test God?and why do even people in the Bible test God?

5 minutes ago, BeauJangles said:

Keny, it's not out of the question that the Lord could indeed speak to you audibly, but I know He does impress upon us in ways that we can comprehend with our mind's understanding. 

C'mon now bro, do you really doubt this? 

1 John 3: 1  Behold, what manner of love the father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God:  KJV

Revelation 3:20  Behold I stand at the door and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come into him, and sup with him, and he with me.  KJV 

Of course no don't doubt about that, but my question is why hasn't that happened yet so I thought  I test God to prove it! Is there anything wrong with that?

2 hours ago, BeauJangles said:

Trying to test God is not a very wise plan. 

Deuteronomy 6:16  Ye shall not tempt the Lord your God, as ye tempted him in Massah.  KJV

I am not trying to to test God. I really want to ask God to reveal himself to me so that I could hear him(audible). I know that testing God is not right, but what if I want to ask God to prove that if he really wants to have a relationship with me. If he's there listening to me to reveal himself to me. Is this testing God the wrong way? If God encourages us to test then why would that be out of unbelife?

Here is just a question along with my thoughts, that I would love to get answers to!

I know that a lot of places in the Bible say do not put the Lord your God to the test. However I found a verse Malachi 3:10 

Bring all the tithes into the storehouse, that there maybe food in my house, and try me now in this,"says the Lord of hosts, "if I will not open for you the windows of heaven and pour out for you such blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it.

Now I realized that this is a different kind of testing. We see here that God is asking us to test him. I also realized it was talk about offerings. Now I kind of question is this kind of testing by faith that makes it different from the other type of testing?

There are two stories I would like to contrast

First one

When Jesus was tempted by Satan, Satan told him if he was the son of God to turn the stone into bread. But Jesus replied to Satan you shall not put the Lord to the test( I am not quoting the same exact thing, just keeping it general). Now in this story we know that it's kind of absurd to ask God to turn stone into bread ( not saying that that can't happen). Obviously God was there with a purpose and Satan was to deter him. So in this case it would be like when Satan again tested him by telling him to throw himself and that God will send his angels to save him! The way I understood this kind of testing is putting yourself in a situation on purpose to ask God to get you out would be testing God! which is wrong!

Now the second story

We read about this man named Gideon. An Angel approched him telling him he will save isreal at of the hands of the midianites. Now keep in mind that a lot of the times it says the Lord spoke to Gideon...so Gideon decided to put the Lord to the test three times. First one was when the Lord set fire Gideon's offerings. The second time was when the Lord made a dew on the fleece and not seen on the ground. The third one was vice versa. So my thinking here is Gideon asked him or tested him so that he could have faith in him and be encouraged. 

However, if we were to test God the way Gideon did in which kind of situations are we allowed? What are your thoughts on the difference between these two? If possible use examples?

Thank you and God bless!

Your brother in Christ

Keny

2 hours ago, dr3032 said:

In school, you don't have to worry. Were you paying attention when that other guy was up there talking? I feel like when people realize that other people are kind of taken up in their own little worlds, the prospect of messing up and being judged for it just looks silly. Who cares what they think, anyway? Most people are idiots.

As I like to say, if you don't want to fall, then don't look down. You just have to make sure that you've got your presentation in order. I should hope, at the very least, that this isn't a group project. I remember having to do a group presentation in school, and when the teacher called on my group, I was the only one who went to the front of the class. My group was laughing at me and they were like, "yeah, we didn't really do any of the work" so the teacher just told me to give my portion of the project. I had stage fright too, so I stammered and stuttered on about drunk driving while feeling embarrassed. I only realized years later that the only ones who needed to be embarrassed were my group members.

So true! It's kind of funny remembering the times when we were supposed to give presentations. I remember myself just half listening to what the people were saying. Most  of the times I try to go first because if the teacher was going to grade our notes on other people's project, I would have something to write. so I would pay attention. I always wonder can't subjecting our root of stage fright  make it go away or do we constantly need to put ourselves out there. Most people that have gone through many uncomfortable situations still seem to have stage fright!

2 hours ago, Debp said:

Well, don't worry about that now.   Next time just be pleasant with someone.   If you don't feel it's a good relationship, that it would hinder your relationship with God....then feel free to not go further with the friendship.

How do you be pleasent? My first instinct would be to ignore and let them figure out that I am not interested

It's actually for school

1 minute ago, Debp said:

Why don't you ask if she is a born again Christian?   If she isn't, you don't have to date her.

Was I wrong to ignore?