Imamom

Do you remember the saying when we were children "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me".? As an adult I realize that this is a totally false saying. Broken bones will heal but words cut to the core.

Been there, done that. All I can do is hope you do not make the same mistake I and as I see many others here have made. I have been married 17 years, separated for 2. The additional stress that is in a relationship when one is a believer and one is not is enormous. There were times when I found myself taking off my Cross just to try to please him, resulting in terrible guilt and misery, and therefore adding to the problems. He never felt that a change toward Christianity needed to be made in him (too many rules to follow) and if I wanted us to work out I'd have to be the one to change. I'm glad I woke up, let go and am moving forward in my spiritual growth. I sure do have a lot of mess to fix now that I had been lost for so long. I have to learn who I am all over again. Be patient, God will send you the right someone when the time is right. The Bible says do not be unequally yoked, and that's the best I can advise for you. Thank You God for opening my eyes that I can learn to live again, that I can feel your love and the peace that comes from knowing you through Your Son, Jesus Christ.

I appologize if it sounded like I was being harsh, it wasn't meant that way. The Minister has explained to me how many would be very offended by the topic alone, let alone a desire to act on it. I understood that you were prewarning me of the reaction that might occure. In my comment I was only stating that error has at no point been part of the issue. Due to your original post to me, when I talked to the minister I was prepared for the possibility of my feelings being hurt. Thanks.

I nor anyone ever said that I was baptized as an infant in error. Had I been more mature when I was confirmed I'm sure I wouldn't have an issue now. Hubertdorm, I plan to use the next couple of months to learn more and grow in my faith. I suppose one of the gifts God has bestowed upon me is patience. I know I could have this done in another congregation. I have an past acquaintance who is a Pastor and I'm sure he'd do it. There is comfort in it that my Pastor shows me the understanding and willingness to do this eventhough it is not tradition. I have such a great thirst for the Word in me, the more I drink it in the thirstier I am. I believe that God is truly working on me.

Wow! I sure appreciate the interest that has been taken in my time of confusion. I have spoken with the Minister at the church I attend. There is no such thing here as being baptised again, however a reaffirmation or rememberance of my baptism is possible and probable. I feel comfortabe having this done as a reaffirmation or rememberance. Because truth be known I do not remember my baptism and I am very ready to affirm myself to my Lord. The Minister I have been speaking with has been very understanding to me and very open to what I have to say, and I truly have found that to be a comfort. There is no means for an immersion in my church, however she is willing to do this for me in the river. I do not want to cause physical discomfort to the one who is willing to do this for me so we will waite until the weather breaks. In the meantime she will be available to me as I am on this journey to discuss the questions I bring, and I do mean discuss which is awesome. I was afraid I would be just told (as was when I was young) how things were and that's that. I was saddened to hear how many people in my church would be offended by the way I am thinking and the way I know in my heart that I will proceed. Maybe sometimes people become so cought up in their doctrine that...I don't know....They make someone feel bad for wanting to do something they feel convicted to do....something they feel God is calling them to do. I have a real relationship with Jesus now. Something I didn't really have before. I need to acknowledge this before the Lord. And I don't think its a bad thing.

I am glad to see this topic. I was baptized as an infant, confirmed as a youth and have partaken in the service of communion. However, lately I have been struggling with it all. Please let me state that I have no problem with the thought of infant baptism, though I have recently asked my pastor for more clarification. I have a strong desire to be baptised as an adult. I want to be immersed. It's not that I denounce my baptism or confirmation, it's that I have realized that I have nat taken these actions as a personal experience. These actions were taken 1. (baptism) of my parents choosing and 2. (confirmation) in obedience to my parent rather than God. I think that if I were more mature when I was confirmed that I would not be struggling with the issue at this time. I simply feel that I have not of my own desire gone before christ in baptism. I will continue to read in this thread as you call it in the days to come.