Thank you for your reply
I don't know if it's the fear as such, as I just have to get on with speaking one to one, a group or getting up on a platform on a rare occasion, it's just the inner discomfort and lack of confidence. I would never dream that I was obsessed with myself, I'm not that important. I do want to serve others, but my lack of social skills simply gets in the way
I make no assumptions, just observations.
Maybe the root is fear. Either way it would be nice to not have to deal with it quite so intensely.