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Yes I am a Christian and I have respected her wishes its has gotten hard though. At this time we are unable to be legally married, however I feel I might be against it even then. I do not feel it takes a goverment official to tell you, you are married. Marriage is a covenant between yourself, your spouse, and God. Thats where our contradiction liews. I have vowed myself to her plan to be with her forever but am completely against a marriage license. People will argue that the bible commands we are to follow "the laws of man", however there is no such law that requires a marriage license. When marriage licenses were created they were actually created with evil intent, which was to prevent interacial marriages. When you put in that way marriage licenses don't seem so God-like. On that same note, our state recognizes common-law marriage, so in that case if we have made our committment with ourselves and with God, and the state recognises it then where lies the issue. I apologize about going off on a rant, we go to a larger church and our pastor tends to push questions off to counselors who don't tend to help much. Well... if a piece of paper is nothing more than a piece of paper - why would it matter if you had one? It certainly does help as far as sharing legal responsibilities and property and succession rights of heirs, etc. Are you already married to someone else ? I have many medcal issues, 72 surgeries and counting. The loss of healthcare coverage would be disasterious. Both financially, and health-wise, as my neurologist does not see patuents without it. Right now I have benefits through the military and keep those until I'm 25 or married.

Yes I am a Christian and I have respected her wishes its has gotten hard though. At this time we are unable to be legally married, however I feel I might be against it even then. I do not feel it takes a goverment official to tell you, you are married. Marriage is a covenant between yourself, your spouse, and God. Thats where our contradiction liews. I have vowed myself to her plan to be with her forever but am completely against a marriage license. People will argue that the bible commands we are to follow "the laws of man", however there is no such law that requires a marriage license. When marriage licenses were created they were actually created with evil intent, which was to prevent interacial marriages. When you put in that way marriage licenses don't seem so God-like. On that same note, our state recognizes common-law marriage, so in that case if we have made our committment with ourselves and with God, and the state recognises it then where lies the issue. I apologize about going off on a rant, we go to a larger church and our pastor tends to push questions off to counselors who don't tend to help much.

Okay so I have run into a real crossroads, I have been seeing this woman for about a year and a half, we are engaged and have a child together. Intimacy has always been an issue between us, for many reasons. I want to be intimate too much, I'm very openminded, etc. Anyways for the first year of our relationship, we were intimate often, and slowly it went downhill. The about 5 months ago, she announces that she is going to be celibate till marriage becuase of her new found fatih in God. I don't want to bring the issue up with her, becasue I know how I felt when I started to change my life, and I felt like people were attacking me. It just seems really convient time wise if that makes any sense. I even feel I would be more inclined to accept it if she were actually trying to change her life, but same girl except for the intimacy. I'm lost, I love her, I want to be with her. We can't get married yet becuase of some medical insurance issues. I'm lost. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks to all.

I have been a lets just say more than one engagment, never wanted to date just seemed to go from one serious relationship to the next. The woman I am with now, turned my life around. She has brought God into my life and helped me accomplish some amazing things. A few months after we were together, I knew she was the one. But I wanted to know how to treat her, what god meant for man to do woman. I found many answers in many books but none helped me more....than "Love & Respect" and also "Cracking The Communication Code : Love & Respect" Both are very good and gave me a whole new insight on how I had been doing things and how I had been doing them wrong and for the wrong reasons. However it also strengthened my belief that she was the one. Anyways, just my take on things. And as far as the statistic for divorces goes, I'll qoute a New York Times article, and that being that 95% of all statistics are made up. Again my take on things. Have a good one.

I agree this is america....we elect our politicians and top officials to do our bidding when it comes to taxes and things of that nature. When they fail us shouldnt we be allowed to have them removed from office. Kidna sounds like "taxation without representation" to the fullest.