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Hi there! It's Thomasabishek and I'm new to this forum...Well, to introduce myself, I'm a Christian, but definitely not a perfect one. Still learning and hopefully, one day I will be a better Christian than I'm right now. My first question here isn't about anything specific in the bible, but, nevertheless, I require some spiritual guidance. I fell into sin by developing a relationship with an unbeliever (atheist to be exact). I even ended up engaging in pre-marital sex with her. After a year of dating, we broke up because she had commitment issues and I think there was another man involved. It's been almost 4 years since the break up, but we've managed to keep in touch. I have asked god for forgiveness for my sins and he has also been helping me through the break-up. Of course, it hasn't been easy and I still do occasionally have some thoughts about her, but I would confidently say my guard is up. In fact, I even refused to get back with her once, though she asked me to. But my question here is, should I continue being friends with her? I'm still getting over her and I've accepted that I cannot get back with her for my own spiritual well-being. But, I feel sorry for her sometimes because she's been through some tough times and that is part of why she is the way she is. I still have a general sense of love, concern and care for her. Extra Info: I've also establshed a very strict set of guidelines regarding our interaction. I've told her that communication will only be through phone calls and very brief physical meetings once a year (she lives about 400 kilometres from where I stay, so that shouldn't be a problem). She is also dating someone right now, which I've learnt to accept and though it is a mildly upsetting, I'm generally okay with it.

Hi there! My name is thomasabishek and I'm new to this forum...I was born a christian, but was very far from being one. I recently started my walk with Christ and am working towards being a better Christian My first question here isn't about anything specific in the bible, but, nevertheless, I require some spiritual guidance. I fell into sin by developing a relationship with an unbeliever (atheist to be exact). I even ended up engaging in pre-marital sex with her. After a year of dating, we broke up because she had commitment issues and I think there was another man involved. It's been almost 4 years since the break up, but we've managed to keep in touch. I have asked God for forgiveness for my sins and he has also been helping me through the break-up. Of course, it hasn't been easy and I still do occasionally have some thoughts about her, but I would confidently say my guard is up. In fact, I even refused to get back with her once, though she asked me to. My question here is, should I continue being friends with her? I'm still getting over her and I've accepted that I cannot get back with her for my own spiritual well-being. But, I feel sorry for her sometimes because she's been through some tough situations and that is part of why she is the way she is. Also, I still have a general sense of love, concern and care for her. Extra Info: I've also set very strict guidelines regarding our interaction. I've told her that communication will only be through phonecalls and brief physical meetings once a year. She lives 400 kilometres away so, hopefully, that won't be a problem. She is, as of now, dating another man. Though it upsets me mildly, I'm pretty much okay with it. Anyways, would love to hear what you guys have to say about this. Maybe God will talk to me through you people. Looking forward to your replies.