thomasabishek

Hi All, Sorry for going MIA all this time...anyway, I wanted to thank you all for all the wonderful advice you've been giving me. I will continue to pray and seek counsel from God on this issue. I will also pay heed to everybody's advice here. Other than that, the present status of my relationship with this woman is the same. I continue to talk to her over the phone and I did meet her a few weeks back (I was visiting her city for some work related stuff and we just thought we'll catch up). However, I did not experience any major temptation. In fact, I even took her and a mutual friend out to dinner and things were pretty okay. I haven't shared the Gospel with her yet, because I don't think I'm in a position to do so as of now. She is a hardcore agnostic/atheist (depending on her mood LOL) and my sinful past definitely does not set the right tone. I thnk I will need to work on my own Christian identiity first, before I start sharing it with other people.

GerdaHannah, You should not cut your association completely, because you have started a commitment to God, and you might be able to help her to know God better and also His son who died as a Great Ransom to save up from everlasting death, John 3:16. If you are sincere, she will not be good association, at least for a while, so when you see her talk about your faith in Jesus, and if she listens to you it might be that salvation could come to her from you, 1Tim 4;16. If you speak about Our savior each time you see her, you will be able to see whether see is interested in God or not. If she shows that she likes to hear you speak about spiritual things, she may have a good heart, and nothing can bring two together closer than a mutual faith, and sharing that faith and a study of God's word together. So make sure you have something spiritual to talk to her about the next time you see her. Look into the scriptures and find something especially interesting and be ready to share it with her. If she shows interest, it will draw you together, if she is not interested she will stop coming around you, and that will help you to end your close association, 2Cor 6:14-18, Prov 13:20, 1Cor 15:33. Makes sense jtartar!

Hi Gerda, Thanks for the advice. Talking to her on the phone has never been a problem. I don't get any of those romantic or lustful thoughts, so I guess I'm good in that department. As far as physically meeting her is concerned; that was a mistake I made once or twice. All the memories came back and I was majorly depressed for a few days. So, now I've decided to never meet her physically again and she agreed to it too.

Hey Guys, Thanks for the great advice. All of you. I would also like to mention that, we broke up almost 4 years ago and it took me around 2 years to get over her. But I'm doing good now. The reason I asked for advice is because I wanted to know what the Christian thing to do would be in such a situation. I guess most of you are in line with what I felt was the right thing to do. And as far as physical contact with her is concerned, I've completely banned it and she's fine with that too. I just keep in touch with her on the phone. She usually calls me for a regular chat or if she wants some advice.

First of all, there is nothing to be ashamed of here. If you like full figured women, go ahead.. that's your preference. Nobody has the right to say anything about it. I suggest that you ask god for more courage in helping you accept who you are. I like full figured women too and in fact, I've prayed to god to give me a nice, godly, full figured wife!

Hey rlfanni, Sorry to know about what you're going through man. It must be horrible. Nonetheless, it is the consequence of your own sin and you have to deal with it. As far as your decision to stay married or to divorce is concerned, the bible is very clear on that. Divorce is against God's will. You should just stick to the wife and kids. I'm not too sure on this, but, I would suggest some sort of monetary support to the other woman, since you did father a child with her. It sort of becomes your duty. But then again, I'm really not too sure. You should pray about it. And a wife who forgives her husband's adultery is an angel. I would give my right arm and maybe a leg to have a wife like that. I hope God provides me with one just like yours. Will keep praying for you man!

Hey GerdaHannah, I went through the same thing...in fact, it's been 4 years since my break-up but I'm still getting over the "woman of my dreams" ...anyways, I've noticed that having a nice social life can support the process of getting over a broken relationship...try surrounding yourself with close friends and family members who are supportive. Above all, keep praying to God and asking him for strength.

~ Praying~! Thanks FresnoJoe...I'll need all the prayers I can get.

Hey guys! thanks for the warm welcome...

I believe that the primary purpose of marriage is sex and procreation within a controlled, godly environment. Man and Woman get married to enjoy sexual pleasure within the right context and to breed more humans. It is designed to provide a healthy and godly support system for children, as well as husbands and wives themselves. In heaven, you wouldn't need this because there is no need to procreate. We would all be immortal and have direct access to god himself. There also would be no need for sexual gratification as we won't be possessing our human bodies. We'll exist as spirits in heaven.

I really can't say I've seen apparitions or demons, but there have been times when I've felt an evil presence. I just usually pray or keep the bible next to me. I try to focus on more positive things. The presence usually leaves almost immediately.

Ok, sorry about that!

Hi there! My name is thomasabishek and I'm new to this forum...I was born a christian, but was very far from being one. I recently started my walk with Christ and am working towards being a better Christian My first question here isn't about anything specific in the bible, but, nevertheless, I require some spiritual guidance. I fell into sin by developing a relationship with an unbeliever (atheist to be exact). I even ended up engaging in pre-marital sex with her. After a year of dating, we broke up because she had commitment issues and I think there was another man involved. It's been almost 4 years since the break up, but we've managed to keep in touch. I have asked God for forgiveness for my sins and he has also been helping me through the break-up. Of course, it hasn't been easy and I still do occasionally have some thoughts about her, but I would confidently say my guard is up. In fact, I even refused to get back with her once, though she asked me to. My question here is, should I continue being friends with her? I'm still getting over her and I've accepted that I cannot get back with her for my own spiritual well-being. But, I feel sorry for her sometimes because she's been through some tough situations and that is part of why she is the way she is. Also, I still have a general sense of love, concern and care for her. Extra Info: I've also set very strict guidelines regarding our interaction. I've told her that communication will only be through phonecalls and brief physical meetings once a year. She lives 400 kilometres away so, hopefully, that won't be a problem. She is, as of now, dating another man. Though it upsets me mildly, I'm pretty much okay with it. Anyways, would love to hear what you guys have to say about this. Maybe God will talk to me through you people. Looking forward to your replies.

Hi there! It's Thomasabishek and I'm new to this forum...Well, to introduce myself, I'm a Christian, but definitely not a perfect one. Still learning and hopefully, one day I will be a better Christian than I'm right now. My first question here isn't about anything specific in the bible, but, nevertheless, I require some spiritual guidance. I fell into sin by developing a relationship with an unbeliever (atheist to be exact). I even ended up engaging in pre-marital sex with her. After a year of dating, we broke up because she had commitment issues and I think there was another man involved. It's been almost 4 years since the break up, but we've managed to keep in touch. I have asked god for forgiveness for my sins and he has also been helping me through the break-up. Of course, it hasn't been easy and I still do occasionally have some thoughts about her, but I would confidently say my guard is up. In fact, I even refused to get back with her once, though she asked me to. But my question here is, should I continue being friends with her? I'm still getting over her and I've accepted that I cannot get back with her for my own spiritual well-being. But, I feel sorry for her sometimes because she's been through some tough times and that is part of why she is the way she is. I still have a general sense of love, concern and care for her. Extra Info: I've also establshed a very strict set of guidelines regarding our interaction. I've told her that communication will only be through phone calls and very brief physical meetings once a year (she lives about 400 kilometres from where I stay, so that shouldn't be a problem). She is also dating someone right now, which I've learnt to accept and though it is a mildly upsetting, I'm generally okay with it.