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I'm 18 and I've been in a almost perfect relationship. He treated me like a queen and I treated him like a king. I was so happy and people would "envy" us bc we were "perfect." His past and how he was raised is very different and difficult to explain just say it's hard and not normal. He got responsibilities at an early age and learned how to stick up for himself and the people he loves. My case my parents are SUPER strict. Primarily my dad. Now i know people always think he's evil bc he doesn't let me have close friends, go to others houses not even family members, parties, hang out, sports, and fully express myself...but I know he does it out of very good intentions. I love my dad but I love this man, Jose. We broke up twice bc he felt he was pressured by my situation to be fully settled and that made him feel like he has to go right into commitment in order to be with me and he's not ready to settle a family. Since his childhood is bad he says he doesn't want his family he builds to go through the same. I know he still loves me bc he still proves to be loyal and he's still trying to better himself and bring himself up when once before his family had told me he wasn't like that before he met me. My question is, should I move out in order to be happy with him and just have the opportunity to hug him and let him know I'm there to lean on and help and love and take away the stress and pressures? He's really really down right now bc he's not able to see me and not situated and "good enough" for my dad so it's hard for me to tell him not to worry. I feel like God has confirmed he's the one for me bc he opened my eyes to recognize his loyalty to me even have not been together. I love my dad I really do and I don't want him sad or to think he didn't do a good job as a dad. He's difficult to talk to and he doesn't even know about me and Jose. But I also really really love Jose and don't want him sad either or think he's not good enough. I'm 18 and he's 19. Im really not that happy being home and a block away is the love of my life sad and I can't do nothing about it. I get mixed messages of wether or not I should move out, not only for him but for myself as well bc I'm not happy here and I feel I can be more in the outside world. What should I do?