ncn Posted June 30, 2012 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 6 Topic Count: 406 Topics Per Day: 0.09 Content Count: 5,248 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 1,337 Days Won: 67 Joined: 08/07/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted June 30, 2012 I'm hesitant to re post on this topic again because I know that it's an emotional subject. I would just like say however; I don't like to label or draw up a list of those illness that qualify someone for nursing care in a home. In fact it frightens me. Personally, I think in an ideal world we would all wish to live out our last days within our respective families. Sadly, we know that this is not always possible. Perhaps and this is just my opinion. When we can no longer look after ourselves; when we no longer have a good quality of life living on our own, when old age has gone beyond the sensible thing to allow us to live on our own and no other per course is open, then; we need the care and attention that can be given in a nursing home. I just hope that it never becomes the norm to say that this or that illness or infliction warrants a nursing home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peacefulwidow Posted June 30, 2012 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/12/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/29/1955 Share Posted June 30, 2012 (edited) Personally, I think in an ideal world we would all wish to live out our last days within our respective families. Sadly, we know that this is not always possible. Perhaps and this is just my opinion. When we can no longer look after ourselves; when we no longer have a good quality of life living on our own, when old age has gone beyond the sensible thing to allow us to live on our own and no other per course is open, then; we need the care and attention that can be given in a nursing home. I agree. I also want to apologize to the board if I gave the impression that the diagnosis of a particular illness or affliction "warrants" nursing home care. I do not. I agree with the poster I quoted that it is the ability to look out after ourselves, not the affliction,determines the need for nursing home care Edited June 30, 2012 by peacefulwidow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncn Posted July 1, 2012 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 6 Topic Count: 406 Topics Per Day: 0.09 Content Count: 5,248 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 1,337 Days Won: 67 Joined: 08/07/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted July 1, 2012 Personally, I think in an ideal world we would all wish to live out our last days within our respective families. Sadly, we know that this is not always possible. Perhaps and this is just my opinion. When we can no longer look after ourselves; when we no longer have a good quality of life living on our own, when old age has gone beyond the sensible thing to allow us to live on our own and no other per course is open, then; we need the care and attention that can be given in a nursing home. I agree. I also want to apologize to the board if I gave the impression that the diagnosis of a particular illness or affliction "warrants" nursing home care. I do not. I agree with the poster I quoted that it is the ability to look out after ourselves, not the affliction,determines the need for nursing home care Please don't feel guilty and no need to apologise; I'm sure everyone including myself understood your post. It's just that I have a invested reason for stating that which I stated. (At times I can come across as pedantic and for this I apologise) GBU you peace and I'm still praying for the OP's situation, it's not an easy one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark2005 Posted July 2, 2012 Group: Nonbeliever Followers: 1 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 720 Content Per Day: 0.10 Reputation: 32 Days Won: 1 Joined: 05/13/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/27/1966 Share Posted July 2, 2012 I'm in a similar situation. My mom is 86 and suffers from Alzheimer's Disease. Dad had been her primary caretaker most of the past decade. Then Dad had a heart attack and had to go to a nursing home and eventually died last February. Mom couldn't be alone, so she went with him. I quit my career and moved back to their city in January to oversee their care and estate, which is pretty much a full-time job and then some. Mom improved enough that I took a gamble and brought her back home to live last week. I'm very worried, but willing to give this a try for several reasons. Hired a part-time home health aide to do things I cannot do. It's very stressful. I want the best for her, but am not sure how to best help. She has moments where she is very lucid and pretty normal for an 86-year-old and then has moments where she talks crazy, threatens to kill me, etc. So anyway, I do feel your pain. I've been dealing with this for only six months and just now brought her home to live with me. So I have no idea how this will affect me long-term. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncn Posted July 2, 2012 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 6 Topic Count: 406 Topics Per Day: 0.09 Content Count: 5,248 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 1,337 Days Won: 67 Joined: 08/07/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted July 2, 2012 I'm in a similar situation. My mom is 86 and suffers from Alzheimer's Disease. Dad had been her primary caretaker most of the past decade. Then Dad had a heart attack and had to go to a nursing home and eventually died last February. Mom couldn't be alone, so she went with him. I quit my career and moved back to their city in January to oversee their care and estate, which is pretty much a full-time job and then some. Mom improved enough that I took a gamble and brought her back home to live last week. I'm very worried, but willing to give this a try for several reasons. Hired a part-time home health aide to do things I cannot do. It's very stressful. I want the best for her, but am not sure how to best help. She has moments where she is very lucid and pretty normal for an 86-year-old and then has moments where she talks crazy, threatens to kill me, etc. So anyway, I do feel your pain. I've been dealing with this for only six months and just now brought her home to live with me. So I have no idea how this will affect me long-term. GBU Mark, you and your mother will be in my prayers, a brave decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I'm in a similar situation. My mom is 86 and suffers from Alzheimer's Disease. Dad had been her primary caretaker most of the past decade. Then Dad had a heart attack and had to go to a nursing home and eventually died last February. Mom couldn't be alone, so she went with him. I quit my career and moved back to their city in January to oversee their care and estate, which is pretty much a full-time job and then some. Mom improved enough that I took a gamble and brought her back home to live last week. I'm very worried, but willing to give this a try for several reasons. Hired a part-time home health aide to do things I cannot do. It's very stressful. I want the best for her, but am not sure how to best help. She has moments where she is very lucid and pretty normal for an 86-year-old and then has moments where she talks crazy, threatens to kill me, etc. So anyway, I do feel your pain. I've been dealing with this for only six months and just now brought her home to live with me. So I have no idea how this will affect me long-term. Praying~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnOrangeCat Posted July 6, 2012 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 57 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,407 Content Per Day: 0.27 Reputation: 1,826 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/24/2009 Status: Offline Author Share Posted July 6, 2012 I'm in a similar situation. My mom is 86 and suffers from Alzheimer's Disease. Dad had been her primary caretaker most of the past decade. Then Dad had a heart attack and had to go to a nursing home and eventually died last February. Mom couldn't be alone, so she went with him. I quit my career and moved back to their city in January to oversee their care and estate, which is pretty much a full-time job and then some. Mom improved enough that I took a gamble and brought her back home to live last week. I'm very worried, but willing to give this a try for several reasons. Hired a part-time home health aide to do things I cannot do. It's very stressful. I want the best for her, but am not sure how to best help. She has moments where she is very lucid and pretty normal for an 86-year-old and then has moments where she talks crazy, threatens to kill me, etc. So anyway, I do feel your pain. I've been dealing with this for only six months and just now brought her home to live with me. So I have no idea how this will affect me long-term. I think you're on the right track with the home health aide. The more help and support you can get from others the better, because it's honestly too big a job for one person, and caregivers need space and time to themselves too. And thank you all for the prayers and advice. APS has been keeping us in the dark about what they're up to, but so far my grandmother's health is relatively alright. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnOrangeCat Posted July 26, 2012 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 57 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,407 Content Per Day: 0.27 Reputation: 1,826 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/24/2009 Status: Offline Author Share Posted July 26, 2012 Hello. Just a little update to this situation. After a long delay our case worker finally came over. She said in another month or two the case may be closed so long as my grandmother remains stable in the nursing home, so she'll be able to come home then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted July 27, 2012 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted July 27, 2012 You can only do what you CAN do; it sounds like you're probably in over your head now. Get some help with this. You need a few hours a day "off." The Lord bless you for your care and concern for your mother. + Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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