dwinkjr Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 62 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,430 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/04/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1981 Share Posted March 28, 2005 It is very possible he is cheating and still wants you with him, why? he wants his cake and to be able to eat it to. If he can keep you around for security and to keep his kids in his life, plus go out and do what he wants when he wants with whom he wants, why not? i would suggest adressing this openly, if he still continues to deny it and you still think he is lying to you, then I would follow the suggestion of hiring a PI. God Bless, Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted March 28, 2005 What is a PI going to do, just follow him around and show pictures of him cheating if he is. If you want to stoop to his level and sneak around, then go for it. If you address him firmly and he still denies it, tell him you are leaving him because you simply don't trust him. By doing this, you might beable to get the truth out of him. If he doesn't want you to leave, he will hopefully be hom=nest with you and if he shows no feeling, then you know the answer. My opinion! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dwinkjr Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 62 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,430 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/04/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1981 Share Posted March 28, 2005 What is a PI going to do, just follow him around and show pictures of him cheating if he is. If you want to stoop to his level and sneak around, then go for it. If you address him firmly and he still denies it, tell him you are leaving him because you simply don't trust him. By doing this, you might beable to get the truth out of him. If he doesn't want you to leave, he will hopefully be hom=nest with you and if he shows no feeling, then you know the answer. My opinion! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well there are children involved if I have read this correctly, there is also the issue of the estate. If a divorce is going to be the course of action it is very helpful to be able to prove the spouse is in violation of the marriage vows. Also I would personally want to have proof just for my piece of mind. God Bless, Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted March 28, 2005 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dwinkjr Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 62 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,430 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/04/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1981 Share Posted March 28, 2005 Many years ago a co-worker of mine had thoughts that her man was cheating on her. She has no solid proof just little things, like him going out at night, buying new clothes, talking to women, acting different. She let it go for a little while and she never confronted him. One day she did and he denied it. She still had her doubts and hired a PI and the PI followed him around for a bout one month. The report: He wasn't cheating but had a night job bartending to bring in some extra income. He never told his lady this due to the fact that she probally wouldn't approve or feel bad about him having to work two jobs. The women he talked to were women he sees at the bar. When the guy found out that his lady didn't trust his word before, he needless to say was hurt. I know this isn't the case with every situation but I stated in my other post about not doing the PI thing yet because of this. I can only hope and pray that you will find the truth you deserve and that he isn't cheating and this is all just a big misunderstanding! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Umm he was lying to her none the less and therefore should of expected to not have his word trusted. God Bless, Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted March 28, 2005 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Budman Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 407 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/09/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted March 28, 2005 Just my two cents.... I've discovered that once you can't trust the person you are with, it's over. warm regards -bud Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted March 28, 2005 Just my two cents.... I've discovered that once you can't trust the person you are with, it's over. warm regards -bud <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Now my two cents.....trust can be earned back! It is hard and takes time but it is all in the person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Budman Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 407 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/09/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted March 28, 2005 Now my two cents.....trust can be earned back! It is hard and takes time but it is all in the person. It will never really be the same. warm regards -bud Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted March 28, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted March 28, 2005 Now my two cents.....trust can be earned back! It is hard and takes time but it is all in the person. It will never really be the same. warm regards -bud <{POST_SNAPBACK}> With some people no it won't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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