LonerAndy Posted July 17, 2020 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 693 Content Per Day: 0.42 Reputation: 396 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/28/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted July 17, 2020 On 4/9/2019 at 9:01 PM, shortangel said: ok I don't know if this belongs in the Women's forum is it wrong to fanatasize about your future Christian husband??? I mean if you are going to wait until he finds you to marry him why can't you fantasize about his muscular chest & broad shoulders, I hold my pillow at night & fantasize about being close to my future husband, is that a sin???? Yeah, I don't think so. Lusting, blaw blaw blaw.... obviously there's some line there between dreaming of a future, and lusting after an some perfect sensual hunk. But honestly, who does not ever think about their potential future spouse, unless they never intend to marry? I don't even intent to marry, and I've thought about what my future Asian dark eye'd Japanese wife with long lovely hair, would look like.... I'm kidding. Sort of. Yeah, I just think as long as you keep it clean and sinless, I don't see a problem with it. I can't honestly imagine a Christian person praying for a spouse, and never thinking what that spouse might be like. I will say this, because someone else mentioned it. Keep your expectations as low as you can. Routinely, research shows that the women who are most happy in marriage, are the ones that have the most reasonable and most practical expectations. The ones who think some man somewhere is going to meet all their wants and needs and desires, are always the most miserable in marriage. Same is true for men, but they are for whatever reason less likely to have over-the-top expectations. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shortangel Posted July 18, 2020 Group: Senior Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 839 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 634 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/12/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted July 18, 2020 thank you for shareing your perspective Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uri Posted July 19, 2020 Group: Junior Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 97 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 27 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/17/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted July 19, 2020 In my old self I'd check out my interest. Now I have an interest that I won't even look at. I respect her as God's daughter and my duty. And I grab my pillow while thinking of her heart. Hopefully I'll enjoy the rest later, but that isn't even on my radar. It's on my anti-radar because that's where the snares are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shortangel Posted July 19, 2020 Group: Senior Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 839 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 634 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/12/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted July 19, 2020 thank you eeveryone for your perspectives, i'm going to ask the Mods to close this topic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uri Posted July 19, 2020 Group: Junior Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 97 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 27 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/17/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted July 19, 2020 5 hours ago, shortangel said: thank you eeveryone for your perspectives, i'm going to ask the Mods to close this topic Wow, sorry. Maybe I should look at dates before responding. I was juuuuust short of a good answer by 15 months! Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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