oh this discussion is so intense... i love it. i agree with Fraught that God isn't male or female... i don't think God has a physical body that even remotely resembles our own.
I also agree with the Hebrew parallelism being the root of much confusion. but i'm only talking about my own experience, and the nagging suspicion that any translation I ever read is going to be skewed by human error.
God is perfect. Humans are not. So God could give humans the perfect understanding, but the minute one human tries passing it on, it becomes tainted. That's my perspective. And as it relates to this argument: it doesn't matter what the scripture says, UNLESS you can talk to the person who wrote that scripture and figure out what they were actually trying to mean when they said it.
The rest of us are left with a milllenia old puzzle that we're trying to decipher, and everything we figure out is skewed by our own human imperfection, which is different in every individual. It makes scripture very sticky. God didn't write the scripture-- God TOLD it to a human and a human tried to use words to explain what it meant. Imagine if a physicist tried to explain mathmatical quantum theory to you and you had to explain it to your friends-- all they would get is a pale shadow with barely any comprehension of the math involved. A parable, really, that YOU created.
The only thing that seems really clear to me is that love is the answer, and God gave us love to teach us this, and all of us must embrace that wholly-- because every time we do, it brings us good things. This is pretty much a universal law of physics I think... its sort of like magnetism. If you love someone, really truly give them love, it makes them connected to you. Even if they don't know how to give love back to you, they are interested in doing so-- something deep inside them is attracted to what's going on.