I can relate to your friend and how she must be feeling.I've gone through all of that but what makes it harder is that we a a racial married couple and his cultral background is way different from mine,even though we have gotten through a lot together the passed abuse still seems to affect me emotionally.I turned to doing the wrong thing due to the fact that I felt so alone and unloved I'm ashamed of myself ontop of it all.guess I'm still hurting and pushing it towards it all