If your goal is to be a better christian, thomasabishek, (as you have stated in your interest section) then you need to develop a relationship to Jesus Christ and also put that relationship over any other relationship. The term "christians" basically meant "those that follow Jesus" or "follow the way." So to be a christian one must follow Jesus, but in order to follow Him, one must see Him and hear Him; you cannot follow a person you neither can see, nor hear.
Therefore to be a better christian you need to develop a relationship to Jesus himself. Get to know Him personally. Understand that He loves you, and cares about you; that He indeed can fulfill a mans deepest needs and longings.
To develop and have a relationship to Jesus is not difficult, because He is perfect in every way.
He is perfect in Love (He gave His own life for us, and that whilst we still were sinners).
He is perfect in Knowledge (He knows you better than yourself).
He is perfect in Strenght (He protects us and is our safe haven).
He is perfect in Wisdom (He always know how to help and gives us precisely what we need).
He is perfect in Splendor (Which means that He as the rising morning Sun surely will fill you with true joy everlasting, and scatter whatever darkness that might be in your life).
In short: Jesus is not only good; He is far more than better; in fact, He is 100 % perfect. And He can be your cherished treasure for ever and ever if you only want Him to be.
God bless you, and may the peace, guidance and grace of God follow you always, and entirely, until you enter heaven itself. To be with Him, and your brothers, forever.
