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To all of my real Christian brothers and sisters who have read my post and responded in love, shed light from a BIBLICAL standpoint (not their own) and gave examples of experiences, letting me know I am not alone, I sincerely appreciate your kindness, as well as, your warm welcomes to this platform. I will also take all of your advice into consideration going forth. I pray that God will bless each of you in abundance. To all who were judgmental, condescending and acting, "Holier than Thou", The Lord Jesus Christ can see right through each one of you. Your are not real Christians, no matter how sweet, inviting and church-going you claim to be. Everything you do is to make yourself look good in public. I know your type. Wolves in Sheep's clothing. You can fool people, but you can not and will not deceive The Most High. Keep responding and arguing by yourselves. I am done with this discussion and I am done with you. I actually feel sorry for you all. I'll pray for you. My conscience is free and clear. At this point, I will no longer be following, or responding to this post that I have created. I walk away with no regrets. My life is composed of so much more than this topic. God bless, JesusIsLove

You seemed to miss the part in my original post when I mentioned how I gave the lady a token of my appreciation during Christmas, and how I did try to reach out to her in other ways. She simply overstepped her boundaries. I have a right to say who does and does not come onto my property, and whom I do and do not choose to share my life or time with. You're entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine. God bless. Yes, you do have any right that you wish to enforce but does that make it the right path? A person is not there just at Christmas time, what would happen if GOD said,. not receiving prayers today, not listening, come back next week? Do you think Jesus would have said to someone , sorry you have overstepped your boundaries, don't have time today? We are called to be Christ like , 1Jn 2:6 He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked. I did extended kindness to this lady even after Christmas by engaging in friendly conversation with her and exchanging phone numbers with her so she could call me if she needed me. I suggested that she call me and did tell her she was welcome at my home as well. I expected her to use common sense and have common courtesy, knowing that it's impolite to come and ring someone's doorbell without calling to let them know you are coming first, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. That is why I gave her my phone number. Besides, I don't live alone like she does, and I have other family members to consider. She should have thought about that as well. She never called me at all. Not once. She decided to manipulate the situation by coming to my home unannounced and stalk every move I made otherwise. I posted all of the above originally. Please read my original post before passing judgement on me and trying to make me out to be unreasonable in God's eyes. That's the tone you have set. Have you ever been stalked, sought after and manipulated by anyone you tried to befriend? If not, you don't know how this feels, and only God can judge. Not you or anyone else. Even if you have experienced this, your way and my way of seeing and doing things are obviously, totally different. That's why God made everyone individually. We are not the same. I am more than aware that we are to be there for others whether it is Christmas or not. I gave that scenario because during that time frame, my family and I were still considered newcomers to the neighborhood, had only spoken to her from a distance, and began to notice and appreciate the fact that she did acknowledge us. We also felt sorry for her. I made it a point to reach out to her, at the suggestion of my mother. It just happened to be Christmas at that particular time. Plain and simple. As far as I know, there is nothing in the bible that says we need to allow others to manipulate us. We are to forgive trespasses, which I have done. I have also asked God to forgive mine. Furthermore, every situation and person that enters our life is not always of God. That's why he gives us discernment so we can protect ourselves from people who take advantage of our kind nature. Again, you're entitled to your opinion and I am entitled tom mine. Truthfully, God's opinion is the only one that hold weight. If He disagrees with me, and he just might, HE will let me know and I will take heed to His advice. I will not argue this any further. Keep going if you wish.

I understand what you are saying, and you are correct. The Lord Jesus Christ does sometimes bring forth uncomfortable situations in order to try and change us for the better and make us like Him. Also to show us the errors of our ways. I am open to that, and in other responses I've given to Biblical advice such as yours, I did acknowledge this. I made everyone aware in my original post, that I spoke to the The Lord Jesus Christ in prayer, and asked him for forgiveness regarding my actions toward my elderly neighbor. I take from this, God may have been trying to teach me to step outside of my comfort zone, and befriend a lonely, elderly person. In my defense, as I have been saying repeatedly, I tried that. The lady began overstepping her boundaries and becoming fixated on me in a peculiar way. That was when I chose to turn her away. Not anytime before this. I was more than willing to be her friend, within reasonable boundaries. I do believe that God gives us opportunities to show kindness to others in need, but I'm also believe that God does not necessarily require us to be a doormat for people to walk all over and be manipulated. Sometimes, it's quite possible that certain situations, as well as people, are not sent from God, and he tells us when it is time to step away from that person and/or situation. Especially when He sees that we have put for an effort to be as kind and generous as we can be to others. Thank you for giving Biblical advice. God bless.

You seemed to miss the part in my original post when I mentioned how I gave the lady a token of my appreciation during Christmas, and how I did try to reach out to her in other ways. She simply overstepped her boundaries. I have a right to say who does and does not come onto my property, and whom I do and do not choose to share my life or time with. You're entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine. God bless.

Well, this is strange for me because I was not raised with an, "Open Door Policy". My family and I have never run an open house for people to feel free to come by whenever they choose. We require people to visit on our terms, by notifying us via telephone first, because it is our home, not theirs! Good for you if you feel the need to allow people to dictate your time. I WILL NOT allow anyone of any age to make me feel obligated to them. Even though she was the only person in the community that was friendly to me and my loved ones when we first moved in, that does not give her license to be manipulative and overbearing. Also, just because she is my elder and very lonely, does not make her innocent. Older people are not exempt from being held accountable for their actions. God does not play favorites, and he sees everybody for who they really are and what their true intentions are. When you mentioned, and I quote, " An opportunity to show the love of Jesus to a lonely person", had you fully read my original post, you would have seen that I tried that in the beginning. My mother advised me to take her a token of appreciation this past Christmas. This woman was the one who insisted that I come into her home, and she walked me through her entire house, showing me all of her personal belongings. That, in my eyes was not nescessary or appropriate. She did not know me well enough at all, and vice versa. Not long after that, this lady began overstepping her boundaries and stalking my every move! It was extremely awkward and annoying. Maybe YOU would enjoy that, but I did not. Also, what makes you so sure she looks at me as a daughter? Her ways and actions suggested to ME that she thought of me as someone she could take advantage of. If you have never been through this, YOU have absolutely no idea what it's like to feel sought after by a person who has become fixated on YOU in an unhealthy manner. Especially someone you barely know. YOU are assuming that she is a sweet, innocent and harmless, little old lady. I have dealt with her, and if I barely know her, YOU most certainly know even less than I do about this woman. Easy for you to be so judgemental. YOU have an, "Open Door Policy", I DO NOT. As far as me needing her one day, I do not depend on PEOPLE, I depend on GOD to provide for me and my family and watch over us. I was not raised to be a clingy and needy person. The Lord Jesus Christ has always, always been there for me and my loved ones, through thick and thicker. I know He will continue to be there. People come and go! I do not owe her coffee or anything else. Besides, she has never offered me or my loved ones anything except intrusiveness. I refuse to be a doormat. Thank you. Proverbs 25:17 Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee. Verse 17. - Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; literally, make thy foot precious, rare; Septuagint, "Bring thy foot sparingly (σπάνιον) into thy friend's house," The proverb seems to be loosely connected with the preceding, as urging moderation. Do not pay too frequent visits to your neighbors' house, or make yourself too much at home there. You seem so angry and defensive. Trying to tell people off who don't agree with you, or post things you take issue with, is not a Christ-like attitude. When you post your personal problems here, expect people to respond. Who are YOU to tell ME what a Christ-like attitude is?! I never asked anyone to agree with me, I asked for good, sound, Godly advice, which I was not given by you or the other individual you are defending.

If you don't want opinions or others' points of view, don't post your problems. I gave you mine and I will continue to post on any thread I please. Oh, btw, this IS a Christian forum and Christians DO have opinions. I think I understand your post for what it is. Yes, I did post my issue seeking advice. GODLY/BIBLICAL advice. Thank you very much. Not someone giving WORLDY advice, suggesting that I never acknowledge the existence of this woman again, as you said. Do you honestly think your advice to me was from a Christian standpoint? You even said you were going by the way YOU would handle it. Think about what YOU said! YOU did not give advice that comes from the Bible/God's word. Again, it was WORDLY. Furthermore, I did not tell you not to respond to other threads. I asked you not to respond to mine, since we obviously do not agree. Even if you do continue commenting on my post, it doesn't mean I have to accept what YOU say! As far as, "Understanding my post for what it is ", as you said, you understood what you felt was relevant to YOU!

Hello, Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. Might I say, I am very sorry for everything you've had to endure from your brother and the older woman and pastor who took advantage of your kindness. Rest assured, God will deal with them. Both of your examples have made me so grateful that I did not allow things to go any further than they already had with my elderly neighbor. I put an end to her behavior in the nick of time. I would almost rather have this lady hate me, than become as dependent on me as that older woman became with you. There are some people that you can not be nice to in this world. It makes me think that some people may be lonely for good reason! Others may know something about these individuals that we don't, and we end up finding out the hard way. From what you have experienced with people who have hurt and betrayed your trust, I'm quite certain you proceed with a lot more caution than you did before. I don't blame you one bit. I, in turn, will do the same. I've learned, everyone that goes to church and refers to themself as a child of God, is not always who or what they claim to be. For some people, it's all for show! They may fool the public, but they can't fool The Lord Jesus Christ. This I know. God bless you.

Well, this is strange for me because I was not raised with an, "Open Door Policy". My family and I have never run an open house for people to feel free to come by whenever they choose. We require people to visit on our terms, by notifying us via telephone first, because it is our home, not theirs! Good for you if you feel the need to allow people to dictate your time. I WILL NOT allow anyone of any age to make me feel obligated to them. Even though she was the only person in the community that was friendly to me and my loved ones when we first moved in, that does not give her license to be manipulative and overbearing. Also, just because she is my elder and very lonely, does not make her innocent. Older people are not exempt from being held accountable for their actions. God does not play favorites, and he sees everybody for who they really are and what their true intentions are. When you mentioned, and I quote, " An opportunity to show the love of Jesus to a lonely person", had you fully read my original post, you would have seen that I tried that in the beginning. My mother advised me to take her a token of appreciation this past Christmas. This woman was the one who insisted that I come into her home, and she walked me through her entire house, showing me all of her personal belongings. That, in my eyes was not nescessary or appropriate. She did not know me well enough at all, and vice versa. Not long after that, this lady began overstepping her boundaries and stalking my every move! It was extremely awkward and annoying. Maybe YOU would enjoy that, but I did not. Also, what makes you so sure she looks at me as a daughter? Her ways and actions suggested to ME that she thought of me as someone she could take advantage of. If you have never been through this, YOU have absolutely no idea what it's like to feel sought after by a person who has become fixated on YOU in an unhealthy manner. Especially someone you barely know. YOU are assuming that she is a sweet, innocent and harmless, little old lady. I have dealt with her, and if I barely know her, YOU most certainly know even less than I do about this woman. Easy for you to be so judgemental. YOU have an, "Open Door Policy", I DO NOT. As far as me needing her one day, I do not depend on PEOPLE, I depend on GOD to provide for me and my family and watch over us. I was not raised to be a clingy and needy person. The Lord Jesus Christ has always, always been there for me and my loved ones, through thick and thicker. I know He will continue to be there. People come and go! I do not owe her coffee or anything else. Besides, she has never offered me or my loved ones anything except intrusiveness. I refuse to be a doormat. Thank you. Proverbs 25:17 Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee. Verse 17. - Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; literally, make thy foot precious, rare; Septuagint, "Bring thy foot sparingly (σπάνιον) into thy friend's house," The proverb seems to be loosely connected with the preceding, as urging moderation. Do not pay too frequent visits to your neighbors' house, or make yourself too much at home there.

Thank you very much!

I'm going to jump in here, if I may. I guess I'm looking at the whole thing from the perspective of how I would handle the situation. I would simply not speak to or even acknowledge the existence of this woman ever again. I don't understand what you mean by 'taking it out on your brother'. This woman has no power over you, your brother or any of your family. You are making her WAY too important but, if you think she's deranged or something, don't give her access to your home or family.. Odds are your neighbors don't want anything to do with her either because they've been down that road already. It IS sad that she's so lonely but you're not obligated to be her friend or confidante....just common courtesy is all that is required and you've provided that and gotten burned in the process. You don't owe her anything else, my friend. MorningGlory, Firstly, I never said this woman had any power over me or my family. I never said I owed her anything either. That is nowhere in my post or comments to other responses. Thank you. Secondly, as far as me "making her WAY too important", as you put it, is not correct either. It seems as if you have misunderstood this entire forum and the reason for my post. I only posted this issue to receive Biblical advice/wisdom/understanding, from my fellow Christian brothers and sisters on how to handle this situation and stay within God's rules. Also, I was curious as to whether or not anyone has ever dealt with this, since I am new to this particular experience of having an overbearing neighbor. As it turned out, 2 individuals have been through this and gave very helpful advice, letting me know I am not alone. They also responded with a lot more tact than you. I did not think that someone with a WORLDY point of view would even bother to "Jump In", as you said. I thought this was a Christian forum, for people with a Christian heart. Thirdly, when I mentioned her taking it out on my brother, I did originally say that she gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to greet her. In other words, she was not as friendly to him as she used to be, seemingly trying to get back at me for my actions toward her. Everyone else seemed to understand that............ Going forward, I would appreciate it if you and others who may share your point of view, did not respond. I am trying to change for the better, not worse. Thanks.

Thank you. God bless.

Thank you. I must say, you made a strong point when you mentioned how being bullied at some point in your life can cause you to be a people pleaser. When I was a child, I was bullied in school. No matter how much I tried to fit in, it never seemed to do much to change things. When I became a teenager in High School, I became a bit more popular and had a group of friends that I already knew from Junior High School to hang out and clown with. Mostly when we were in school. Outside of school, each summer I looked forward to hanging out with my best friend who came to visit her grandparents who lived 1 house over from me. After I graduated High School, I lost contact with each of my friends from school, and soon enough, by the time I started college, my best friend from out of town made herself scarce because she was starting college as well. After a while, I lost contact with her due to growing into adulthood and each of us trying to find our own way. In other words, we grew apart. That was normal. The thing is, I became very accustomed to being alone and having my privacy. I actually preferred it. It takes too much time, energy and effort to build a friendship with someone, and I realize, I do not have the patience for it. To this day, my mind has not really changed. I no longer have a desire for close friends anymore. I appreciate a friendly distance between myself and others. The closer people come, the further away I push them, until I get rid of them for good. Especially if they are pushy. My grandmother always told me, people are only acquaintances, not friends. People are only in your life for a season and they will usually disappoint you in some way. The older I have become, the more I see how correct she was. Mostly because I have lived long enough to experience it for myself. I have built a large wall around myself that I am quite comfortable with and only I choose whom can and can not cross over it. Again, when people get too close for my comfort level, I push them away. I agree that I should have set ground rules in the beginning, but I expected my elderly neighbor to be old and wise enough to respect boundaries. I guess I expected more than she was capable of giving. Just as, she expected more of a close, personal friendship with me than I was capable or willing to give her. I am finding that many people these days, regardless of how old they are, lack common sense and common courtesy. They want respect, but refuse to give it. This may sound harsh, but I am being honest. I have learned my lesson for a lifetime. Be friendly from a distance and always, always set boundaries. Thank you again for your advice. God bless.

Amen sister. Thank you very much. God bless.

My Christian Sister, I hear what you are saying and you are 100% correct. I am thinking about this matter from my own perspective, not God's. I will be the first to admit that I have always struggled with forgiveness. Not to make excuses, but my family and I have been disrespected by so many individuals in the past. Mostly the ones we went out of our way to be kind to. Somewhere along the way, I developed a bitter spirit of distrust and unforgiveness toward people in general, and it doesn't take much for me to cut people out of my life. I find it very easy. My heart has hardened in that respect and it's something my mother is constantly speaking to me and warning me about. I know for a fact that God is speaking to me each day in his own way, telling me to let go of anger and animosity against those who have wronged me and my loved ones over the years, and most recently. It is something I have been trying to work on for a while, and get a grip on so I can make my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ proud. I care what he thinks of me. Not the world. I will seriously consider apologizing to this lady, and pray that God will help her overcome her issues. Thank you for your words of wisdom my sister. May God bless you richly.

@kwickphilly My sister, you are correct. In fact, my mother tried to tell me that I should have made it clear from the beginning that I am a person who enjoys privacy and I do not like frequent visitors stopping by unannounced. Mom also told me that I should have recommended that she called first. If my mother could read this, she would say, "I told you so." Lol!! I did bring this on myself without realizing it. My thought was, since my family and I are fairly new to the area, we should try to make friends with whomever seems like they want to be friendly. I just expected her to befriend us within reason and know her boundaries. I think I expected too much in this case because everyone has different ideas about friendship. As far as the two of us having nothing in common, I truly believe that to be the truth. Each conversation I've ever had with her has not been in regards to anything other than neighborhood issues. She always seemed to try and make up things to talk about just to keep me outside conversing with her. Probably because she was/is very lonely. The thing is, although I understand she is lonesome, she should understand that I am a fairly young person and I have family and other responsibilities to occupy my time. My family, especially my mother who is also an older woman, needs me. She has health problems. So does my brother. They are both on disability. I am all they have and vice versa. Needless to say, I love them. Aside from The Lord Jesus Christ who comes first in my life, my mother and brother are also a high priority with me. I wish that she could have respected that. She is older than my mother, but my mother is still my mother and she will come before others. Except God of course. Besides, I barely know this lady and she barely knows me. She wanted to become too close too soon with someone she just met. Why didn't she see that? Sadly, she ended up wearing out her welcome. As a result, she has chosen to take it out on my brother, and I do not appreciate that at all. Neither does my mother. He had nothing to do with the way I responded to her. This says something about her character. I believe she should be held accountable for her actions and ask for forgiveness as well. Sometimes, the older generation think they can get away with anything because of their age. God sees everyone the same way in that respect. He judges by the heart, not age. Do you agree sister?

Hello again, It really comes down to individuals I suspect. For about the last decade, I have been going to a retirement home that my grandparents were residents at prior to their passing and I do karaoke entertainment for them on the weekends, usually Saturday and Sunday evenings. There are many who keep to themselves, and there are many who are very sociable and interactive. There are a few that are quite clingy, they will even follow me to the bathroom for example. It can be unsettling, so I do relate to what you are feeling. Thankfully my neighbor lives behind me, so our backyards meet up and she has never walked around the block to knock on my door. She doesn't come out and approach my mother, it seems to be just me she is interested in talking to, and I know everything about her and her family, down to medical issues. I admit that when I head out to my backyard, I often find myself thinking, ' I hope she doesn't come out here .' I feel bad about it, and when she inevitably does come out I cringe a bit, shut down the mower, and try to keep the conversation as brief as possible. I know it is loneliness that drives her, and why she fixates on me I will never understand. I would think she would be more interested in chatting with my mom since they are closer in age. I just operate from the understanding that God is placing this opportunity in front of me for His reasons, and so I oblige her, as inconvenient as it may be at times. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this issue, and I don't really have any wisdom to help you deal with it. There really is no solution to the guilt that I feel myself, and that I assume you feel as well, if you find one let me know lol. Just try and make the best of it, perhaps you may be the lifeline God has placed there for this woman. Pray about it and see what the Lord would have you do, for me I know that reaching out to the elderly is something He has placed on my heart to do, maybe it is His will for you also. God bless. Wingnut, I thank you again for understanding what I am facing. It definitely helps that you have a similar experience. That's worth just as much or more than actual advice. I do believe that my neighbor's behavior is due to her own personality and upbringing. Not her age or the generation she is from. My late grandparents were a lot older than her, and they were not that way. They respected boundaries and taught the rest of us to do the same. We've never had any complaints from neighbors who lived close to us. In other words, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Thanks again and God bless.

@kwickphilly My sister, you are correct. In fact, my mother tried to tell me that I should have made it clear from the beginning that I am a person who enjoys privacy and I do not like frequent visitors stopping by unannounced. Mom also told me that I should have recommended that she called first. If my mother could read this, she would say, "I told you so." Lol!! I did bring this on myself without realizing it. My thought was, since my family and I are fairly new to the area, we should try to make friends with whomever seems like they want to be friendly. I just expected her to befriend us within reason and know her boundaries. I think I expected too much in this case because everyone has different ideas about friendship. As far as the two of us having nothing in common, I truly believe that to be the truth. Each conversation I've ever had with her has not been in regards to anything other than neighborhood issues. She always seemed to try and make up things to talk about just to keep me outside conversing with her. Probably because she was/is very lonely. The thing is, although I understand she is lonesome, she should understand that I am a fairly young person and I have family and other responsibilities to occupy my time. My family, especially my mother who is also an older woman, needs me. She has health problems. So does my brother. They are both on disability. I am all they have and vice versa. Needless to say, I love them. Aside from The Lord Jesus Christ who comes first in my life, my mother and brother are also a high priority with me. I wish that she could have respected that. She is older than my mother, but my mother is still my mother and she will come before others. Except God of course. Besides, I barely know this lady and she barely knows me. She wanted to become too close too soon with someone she just met. Why didn't she see that? Sadly, she ended up wearing out her welcome. As a result, she has chosen to take it out on my brother, and I do not appreciate that at all. Neither does my mother. He had nothing to do with the way I responded to her. This says something about her character. I believe she should be held accountable for her actions and ask for forgiveness as well. Sometimes, the older generation think they can get away with anything because of their age. God sees everyone the same way in that respect. He judges by the heart, not age. Do you agree sister?

Thank you KPaulG. May God bless you.

Thank you Nigel. God bless.

@wingnut Thank you for understanding what I am dealing with. It's nice to know I am not alone in this. Although she is from a different generation, I have never dealt with an elderly person whom has acted in this manner. For me, it is a bit much. Most elderly people I have known will speak and be friendly from a distance, and continue on with their day. This is a new and unexpected experience for me and my family. I guess this is why I feel uneasy around her. Yes, I did tell her she was welcome at our home, but usually when people exchange phone numbers, they have show manners and common courtesy by calling first, not just popping up unannounced. After all, she told me the same thing, but I was not constantly showing up at her residence unannounced and uninvited. I went to her home 1 time only. Respect has to go both ways in order to cultivate a friendship. God bless.

@kwickphilly Thank you, I will definitely do that ASAP. God bless.

@ angels4u Thank you for your advice, and I sincerely appreciate it. The scripture you gave to support your advice is helpful and it is quite possible that God may have been using me to help my neighbor overcome her loneliness by spending time with her. However, my family and I did try to be as friendly as possible to her but she began overstepping her boundaries. In Proverbs 25:17 it clearly states the following: Proverbs 25:17 Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; lest he be weary of thee, and so hate thee. Verse 17. - Withdraw thy foot from thy neighbour's house; literally, make thy foot precious, rare; Septuagint, "Bring thy foot sparingly (σπάνιον) into thy friend's house," The proverb seems to be loosely connected with the preceding, as urging moderation. Do not pay too frequent visits to your neighbors' house, or make yourself too much at home there.

Thank you for your warm welcome kwickphilly, I look forward to being your sister in Christ. After I have 5 posts, how do I go about moving this topic to another forum?

Hello, I am posting in regards to issues I have with a lonely and overly friendly, elderly female neighbor who lives across the street from me. My family and I lost our home and relocated in September 2013, and are still fairly new to the community in which we reside, and no one really made us feel welcome except her. In fact, the neighbor who lives beside us has been unreasonable with us and others, in many ways. She began by waving and speaking to us in a friendly manner. We did the same. Then, my mother advised me to give her a token of our appreciation during Christmas of 2014. She insisted on inviting me into her home and gave me a tour of each room, family photos and other personal belongings. I did not think this was necessary or appropriate, since we do not know each other that well. But, she is seemingly very lonesome. She explained how her nephew is the only family member she has in town, while the majority of her immediate family resides elsewhere. We ended up exchanging phone numbers, and since she no longer drives, I told her to call me if she needed me for anything. I also told her she would be welcome at my home. She told me the same thing. She began making it her duty to walk over to my home unannounced and uninvited, almost every other weekend. Mostly on Sunday afternoons after church. Each time, she claimed that she was just checking on me and my family to make sure we were okay. Although we exchanged phone numbers, she never opted to call first. I may be wrong, but I feel as if she had an agenda. Once, I invited her into our home because I felt obligated to do so. I have regretted this ever since. She became too friendly and clingy for my comfort level. Each time I stepped outside my door to sweep or do anything related to outdoor work, she would immediately come to her front door or come stand on her front porch and yell, "Hello, how are you doing"? It's almost like she was staring outside her window to see when I come outside. I felt stalked. She seemed to develop a disturbingly inappropriate fixation on me, more than anyone else in my family, or in the neighborhood. I tried waving to her and speaking as friendly as possible, then turning around to continue my work, letting her know I am busy. Then, she would stand and stare at me for a while, then say something else. Soon, she would walk over and stand at the front of my house or driveway, and keep talking to me anyway. It's like she was demanding that I stop what I was doing so I could accommodate her. She did this to me twice, last month. The first time, I waved and spoke friendly to her from a distance, but I was very short with her. That obviously was not good enough for her. She came and stood at the foot of my driveway, and I told her to have a nice day. She had no choice except to walk away feeling disappointed. The second time, I became so annoyed with her, that I gave her the cold shoulder because she seemingly did not want to take the hint that I was not in the mood to talk to her. Especially when she could clearly see I was busy. Not just sweeping. I never said anything disrespectful to her, but my ways and actions spoke volumes about how annoyed and harassed I felt by her. She walked away again, more disappointed than before. I did not want to hurt her feelings or be disrespectful due to her age. However, she made me very uncomfortable, and had become quite a nuisance. I allowed my anger to control me because I was at my wits end with this lady. Although she goes out of her way to say " Hello" to everyone she sees outdoors, I almost feel as if she was fixated on me personally. I did not appreciate this. I am a 37 year old single and heterosexual woman who has a family and other responsibilities. She is a widow in her mid 70's, retired and lives alone. She is not my equal and we have nothing in common. Why couldn't she understand that? Since that encounter, I can tell that her feelings are hurt. She has kept her distance from me and my family and tries not to come outside when I am present. At times, my mother has spotted her sitting on her porch, walking to her mailbox, staring directly at our house. Still she never comes over, or says anything to me when I am outdoors. For that, I am grateful to God, because now I can work outside in peace. Recently, she gave my brother the cold shoulder when he tried to greet her after he came home. Now, it seems as if she is taking her resentment out on him, to get back at me. He has done nothing to her. Since she is known as the friendliest person on our street, she has most likely tried to turn everyone against us. Since they were never friendly to begin with, they surely are not now that this has occurred. I have prayed to The Lord Jesus Christ regarding this incident and have asked him to forgive me for not handling things in a more gentle and Christain-like manner. He has also given me discernment in realizing that this woman obviously has a problem that she is unaware of, and needs prayer. How can a person whom goes to church almost every Sunday and calls themself a Christian, behave in this manner, and think it's okay? A woman her age should see the error of her ways and take responsibility for her actions and try to correct it. Loneliness is not an excuse. Am I right or wrong? (I will only accept and respond to those who present Biblical/Godly advice, not Worldly advice. Going forward, I am only trying to please my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and become a better person. Not worse. Thank you and God Bless All.)