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What happened was extremely bad - for my sister to have gone over my head to try to get them to be around this person was sadistic. She needed to be told. I would never cross boundaries and contact her step-children to attend a function where an unsafe person was. I don't even have her step-children's contact info. My children are adults, and I see your valid points. But also, what she did tore my family apart - which I hope my children see. I told my children that she was named executrix of my father's estate, and attempted to control me, telling me she was keeping part of the money my father left for me. For my husband & I to remain quiet would have been insanity - she needed to be told to not meddle. Her motivations are not honorable. She has done other things since I gave her their contact information - which I now deeply regret. I am intuitive - she is trying to make my family hers. She waited until I was out-of-state having surgery, and contacted them and they got together, and sent a photo of her, parked right in the middle of them. I knew she was trying to put herself in my place - I could read her.

I am really beginning to see this more as an attack. My husband & I are completely overwhelmed to the point of exhaustion. For my sister to do something at such a terrible time is sadistic. It bears the earmarks of an attack - what better time to do something ugly than when already weakened and burdened. I see that praying for a hedge of protection is right - I have started to do that again - I had stopped awhile back due to getting hit with physical debilitations. I see that praying for my sister is also necessary. Her actions did divide my family and caused incalculable damage which we are trying to repair. But she has refused to respect my wishes to cease contacting my children. I am the one who tells my children the truth of what they need to hear - and sometimes those truths are not welcome. I do have to work on my delivery and learn to remain quiet at times. But my sister flounces in, who tries to be "the fun aunt" and can look quite appealing, as she would not tell them the hard things. "Everything's good" is her philosophy - which is worldly. People in sin want to be around others who are in sin - not the person who stands for the truth. That is why Christian's are hated - "men love the darkness because their deeds are evil..."

Thanks. I have been. Maybe God is calling me to more. A pastor I spoke with told me to pray for her salvation.

Thank you for your take. I suppose it can be seen as controlling, but there are things I cannot share as to why I did not want my adult children near another family member that I deem unhealthy. It's very serious. My sister violated my trust and the privilege I gave her of giving her my children's contact information. She invited them to an event where someone who did something extremely evil was there, when I specifically told her not to do it. When I confronted her, she pummeled me with all that was wrong with *me* even telling me my children don't like me, and refusing to admit her own motivations or wrongdoing. I re-read our exchange, and I was very reasonable. How can you have a relationship with an individual where the prevailing rule is that *you* are the *one* with the problem? In essence, a relationship based on a lie. God is truth.

Thank you. Sometimes I think when we're isolated, we just need another believer to confirm things we already know. I think the enemy is hammering me - I need support as I am bone-weary. I don't need another problem, and think my sister is nuts to tamper in my family now of all times. I think the enemy is using her - please pray because I am not in any condition to deal with more.

You grasped it - I think she does want what I have. She has been extremely disrespectful - it is sadistic that she would do this knowing of the heavy medical trials we are undergoing. You are right - confronting her - "speak the truth in love..." has been useless. She just attacks me. It may be hard to get my children to block her - they don't see what I do - they just see her being super nice to them (for nefarious reasons - I think if she could get me out of the picture she would - and step into my life) Will you please pray that my children will see the truth about her?

My husband has been excellent. We have normal family problems, but the one my sister created caused SEVERE damage. I am trying to rebuild, but my arrogant sister is pushing her way in! It's sadistic that I'm having terrible medical problems and she would do that. I've told her to stop contacting them and she won't! I know Christians are persecuted and I know God has promises. I'm waiting for Him to answer some heavy prayer requests. I can't understand someone thinking they can butt into another person's family. I think she has something psychologically wrong - I think she wants my family to be hers because she never had one. When my husband & I were out of state, she got my children together and parked herself in the midst of them and someone texted us the photo. I am very intuitive and picked up on it. She is trying to make my family hers and wedge herself between us. She even made a remark: "Your children don't like you! They know what you're like!" I've forgiven things, but I can't stand by and let her tear my family apart. I don't know if "just praying" will suffice.

Oh my - I never had people share this openly - I never share my experiences except with my husband. On occasion, I have felt an evil presence in the room - it's usually as I'm falling asleep - I have a sense of something trying to overpower me. I can't talk, but I fight it until I get the word "Jesus" out and it breaks it. Then I say a brief warfare prayer. Not many Christians will share something like that. My daughter saw one in the night. I've sensed an evil presence in people - you know they are of "the spirit that is now at work in those who are disobedient..."

It's hard when you've done so very many hours of work that went unappreciated. The betrayal of my sister is hard. 3 years is a long time - you are right - it is a fight for their safety and spiritual well-being. Interesting thought from a different angle - I tend to worry - I don't want them lured in my sister's fake "party people" personas. I love her but she has issues she has to deal with. I have given them truth - I guess now is the time to see if it works. It's like a test I guess.

Well-spoken. I too look around as Habakuk did - and view what is wrong being forced upon us while what is right and truth are suppressed. The fight is not far-off, it is on our doorsteps. I have felt what you are - and Habakuk and David - "There is none who do right..."

Thank you for caring - I've needed this forum - a body of believers. I agree that it is a spiritual battle. Although I've been through many battles I still have a difficult time knowing what our responsibility vs God's. Will you pray for wisdom? My husband & I are facing trial upon trial - and now have my sister - who I care about - betray my trust. Things in the world are going crazy and it seems the people in it! No one does right.

That resonated with me. You were fortunate that you were able to disentangle her from your life - it's almost like tentacles of darkness. I sincerely hope and pray that God will deal with her about her lies - and if she does not come to the truth that God puts a shield where she can not cross - that she will be forever prevented from contacting my children.

Thank you for the suggestions. The situation is more complex. My husband nor I were raised Christian. I became a believer before the birth of our first child. My husband was a jerk (now a great guy) and involved with a terrible group of friends. The only reason we married was because my foolish parents kicked me out at 17 because my two older sisters & their husbands moved back in. My husband didn't become a Christian until YEARS later. We had a difficult marriage - but now a good one. So our children were not raised in a 'stable' Christian home. I tried harder than anyone I knew to raise them right. My ex-family are people I do not want around my children. I thought I could trust my sister, but I made a mistake and learned she is untrustworthy - but the horse is already out of the barn and I would like to ask prayer that God spiritually works in some way that she can not locate their numbers - similar to the angels blinding the men in Sodom as they attempted to gain entrance to Lot's house. Or prayer that our children will refuse their calls, emails, and texts. My adult children have had the same cell numbers for years - there is no way I could convince them to change numbers. My children do not follow the faith I taught them - although I see momentary returns to the faith. My son's friend got him involved in Buddhism, and I can not reach him. In public school years back my daughter was exposed to satanists, my other daughter married a Catholic - but is now divorced. My sister and her husband are the drinker/ partygoers, friendly, worldly, joking (fake) people that think "they" have it together. My husband and I are trying to get our children to follow the "narrow road"- which means avoidance of people and activities, but my sister and her husband have a worldly 'appeal' - which I deem unsafe, and I regret giving my sister their contact information. PLEASE pray. I know I've been under spiritual attack and satan is using my sister to lure my children into her life because she never had a family. I just have a weird sense of a threat - I don't know if any of you had sensed things - or felt uneasy about it. I feel uneasy. Please pray. Or if you have any advice given these facts I would appreciate it. I'm trying to win my children's hearts but I think there is a battle.

I underwent a medical procedure and was damaged and am now disabled. I have been at home and forgotten. So I am looking for advice. My sister never had a family and I had given her my adult children's cell phone #'s. She abused it and invited them someplace where an unsafe individual was that I did not want them around. We had a blowout over it where she lied and blamed me for HER mistakes. She caused unbearable trouble in my family, so I told her to leave my family alone. Unbelievably, she completely ignored my request and is contacting my children. It is causing unbearable harm in my family and she refuses to butt out - my husband called her a bully. She is an unbeliever. I prayed but think satan is using her. I'm getting attacked in my mind because I worry she will lure them - I think she wants to make my family hers. I told her she needs psychological help but she blocked my emails yet contacts my children. My husband says to ignore her but I think she's a threat - and I don't like her pushing her way into our family causing trouble. She and her husband are worldly. I so regret giving her their contact info that she has abused. What would others do?

I am suffering. I am uncertain what to do in these circumstances. What would you do?

OK thanks.

I wonder if anyone has faced what I am now facing. My sister invaded my boundaries by texting my adult children to attend a function where there was someone who I deem unsafe there. I was livid and she caused unbearable stress in my family. When I confronted her, she pointed the finger at *me* rather than owning up to her own mistakes. I told her to cease contacting my children - I regretted that I had given her their contact information. She refused and announced she can contact who she wants! I contacted a Christian counselor who told me that she violated my boundaries. I waited a few months and attempted to reconnect. The first thing she did was point the finger at ME. I gave her a heavy dose of the truth back and she didn't like it. Then my daughter told me she's been texting her! She has no respect for others' boundaries. I can't believe someone would keep pushing themselves into your family like that. She never had children, and I told her she doesn't understand. I told her that my children are not hers. My husband said she's delusional - that she insists she has children - but they're not hers - they are stepchildren. I tried so hard to reason with her - to no avail. I re-read our conversation this morning and I spoke truth - she wanted to remain in the darkness. It hurts. I told her I was sorry that rather than face truth she was willing to sever a relationship. Have others dealt with this? She keeps trying to get my adult children hooked in with her. Now I don't want her involved in their lives. I even contacted a lawyer to see what my options are - an unfortunate drastic step. He said unless my children complain, she can continue doing it. She does not have a love of the truth, and I don't want her wooing them into her darkness. My adult children are not spiritually mature, and cannot see the real issues and what she really is. Can others pray for this? It has caused my husband & I much grief.

Unsure what's going on here. I am not on FB.

Are there bible studies here? I have gone through a lot and am having some difficulty navigating the site. Concentration issues.

So you are also disabled now? You then know how difficult it is! I crave a connection to other believers. There was unbearable turmoil with my siblings, so I lost my sister, then a friend died, and I can't get to church and have found myself alone - with the exception of my husband - who is good to me. I am now trying to live in a 'virtual world'. This is obviously where God has me.

Encouraging. I keep asking "How long Oh Lord?" I do believe satan is influencing them. I'm just so ready for God to act.

That was encouraging. I appreciate your prayers - I have asked God to take me on and off because I'm dealing with too much. I'm being hurt by the political climate of "opiophobia" and have the most painful syndrome known to man with under-treated pain: CRPS and nerve damage. Then I have family problems, financial issues, relational issues, and isolation added in. I've sought God, read the bible - yet it goes on and on. You are correct that there are wolves in sheeps clothing. I can't get out now to find a body of believers - I'm living a virtual life. I'm weary of it. The church is a mess and is more about leadership positions and who you are - the exact opposite of what Christ preached. Only those with "standing" get attention. I went to church on Christmas, and had to sit down on a couch in the lobby of our church where a Christmas tree was. One of the self-appointed church mongrels came up and told me the couch was a decoration and I was not allowed to sit on it. I go to church infrequently so I didn't know and got up. A man came up to me and said: "Don't listen to her, you're allowed to sit there!" So this is going on in churches! Then I forced myself to go to get out of the isolation, and the same woman said: "You looked terrible in church, not well at all." I have to add that I keep myself nice, am my right weight, but I've been through surgeries and pain issues. But I still keep myself nice and her 'attack' was unwarranted and untrue. I never did a thing to her. My husband got mad and said "she looks terrible all the time!" She's obese. So I'm going through deep waters and "Christians" do things to wound your spirit further. Her mouth was satan's mouthpiece. Add in all the other issues and it is overwhelming.

Please pray - I unfortunately gave my sister my children's phone numbers - the story is long - but she abused it and is contacting my adult children when I told her not to. Please pray - she's got something wrong that she does that. I think it's satan again - using her.

Thank you - I'm dealing with so much I need encouragement. I think God has me here for a reason - just unsure how to handle all that has been thrown my way. I think satan is attacking my thoughts - but when I see the craziness going on in the world and when that craziness touched me, it seemed God was sick. Deep in my heart I know He has to be all I've thought Him to be - it's just I'm in a firestorm of trials and He has not helped - or hasn't helped yet - or He's awaiting change within me.

And I think the evil one wants it that way. It is frightening to me that the truth is not held to. That churches act the opposite of what Christ laid down about not treating some better than others. I saw this blatantly practiced in churches, then they get up and teach the bible. It makes me wonder if many who say they believe are satan's minions in disguise. My one sister claims how spiritual she is, and acts superior to others, as if God conferred special wisdom on her, yet she doesn't practice basic principles to "not associate with a gossip." She supports and encourages another evil sister who is a despicable "Christian" gossip. As far as you would say I have anger - I wouldn't call it anger. I would call it chagrin that I don't see much truth practiced among believers. There are some - I see that as well.