Randal

If neither of you want the baby you can discuss adoption.

I agree and have found the most successful scientists have been Christians. It is their devotion to God that lead them to believe the world has order and therefore seek it out. If interested, Sean McDowell is my favorite Christian apologist to teach on how to refute arguments from atheists regarding science and religion. He has many posts on YouTube.

Thank you all so much for helping. One last question. It appears the general consensus is I do have to tell her, which is what I thought too. Any advice on how? Never having met her, the most I can do is call her up on her cell phone and tell her hey you don't know me and I'm sorry but…

Thanks so much for responding! I've been praying over it but am still so torn. I feel so relieved to know now that I'm not as angry as I thought I would be. I keep questioning my motives. I think my main motive to keep quiet is embarrassment (pride) and main motive to tell isn't vindictiveness but I keep thinking about her doubting all the time like I started to and I just feel so terrible. I can't imaging broaching that subject either though. I think with either answer she hurts and I hate that.

I recently found that the man I've been dating for sometime is actually married. He does in fact travel a lot for work, so it made sense when he was gone. Obviously I have left, but I'm torn about whether or not I tell his wife. I feel I've taken too much from her already, and I don't want to hurt her. But I would want to know. I think my heart is pure in my thought to tell her, but I'm afraid it might be to hurt him. I just keep thinking of all the doubts, and all the questioning, and I wonder if she's going through that too