stilllearnin'

2bba, thank you for being an example of godly wisdom to us! :hug:

I've really not heard foul language in the chat room, just sexual induendos from young teenage girls. I would be upset about foul language as well. Just how I was raised.

I too have been unhappy about somethings in the chat room. What I see is a young lady who comes in on Saturdays, and talks as close as she can to being vulgar, gets kicked out, then comes back with a different user name. Don't know what to do about it, except hope a moderator is nearby to stop them. I realize these kids need prayer, but I still get aggravated at them. :suspect:

Hmm interesting topic. I was raised in a church where I was taught that I could lose my salvation. I have struggled for years with this, because I wasn't sure how I could lose it, by that I mean, what was the sin I would have to commit to lose my salvation. I came to believe that anytime I sinned I lost it. I answered every altar call given, just to make sure. I constantly prayed for salvation, always living in fear that I had lost it. I still struggle with the question, 'am I really saved?' 'If I was really saved I would not do 'this and this' and I would be doing 'this and this instead.' A pastor once explained to me that with my personality type I tended to look inside myself for answers, and I was not going to find my salvation within myself, it is not there. It is provided by Jesus and Him alone. Hope I am not too far off the subject, stilllearnin'

Welcome, I haven't been coming here all that long myself, but I have come to appreciate a lot of people on here and their different personality quirks . they have great senses of humor, and a love for the Lord and for each other. Glad Y2K got your attention as well, it was a good reminder for me and my family. stilllearnin'

I truly believe God has something wonderful in store for you, not only in the next life in heaven, but in this life as well. You have suffered much, God can use that suffering for His glory, His plans for you are to do you good. You are a strong young man to have come through so much with your faith in God still intact. Hang on to Him. He is faithful always.

Janey, thank you for hanging in there when we were not making sense. You taught some of us a lot, and reminded the rest of us that we need to be careful when we talk 'Christianese'. Some of us have done it for so long, we just think like that. Please continue to ask question, and if we say anything that doesn't make sense to you, please consider it as being us, not you? I am 'stillearnin' myself.

Jeannine, first of all I am glad this person has a friend like you. What you told her was right. She will never be content until she turns everything over to Jesus. If she really is a Christian, she will care what God has to say about this subject. Deuteronomy 18:10-12 speaks of mediums and spiritists as being detestable to the Lord. Also Leviticus 19:31 says, 'Do not turn to mediums or seek out spiritists, for you will be defiled by them. I am the Lord your God.' Anytime anyone does anything that has anything to do with any kind of supernatural power we need to ask ourselves, where does the power come from? If it something the Bible says not to do, obviously this power is not from God, but from Satan. Now I don't know why she thinks she needs a psychic to help her, a Christian counsellor I could understand, but a psychic? Last, but not least in any way, pray for your friend, ask God to reveal to her that what she is about to do is the wrong thing. I will pray that as well, hope this helps. stilllearnin' :t:

I'd say LadyC has inspired mewith her good advice! :hug:

Amen angels4u! Amen!

I would say it is definitely God laying her on your heart. Who will be glorified when your prayers for her are answered: your friendship is restored, and she accepts Christ as her Savior? God will, and because He will get the glory, it must be from Him. Satan would never want you to pray for anyone, and you may be the only one praying for her. I'd say God really trusts you to lay this soul so heavily on your heart.

God is good...all the time! I went to Ladies' Bible Study and this morning and taking the advice LadyC gave me, I apologized to my friends for my husband-bashing, and explained how I was wrong to bash him, and how I appreciated the fact that I had never heard any of them do that. I asked them to hold me accountable if Iever started doing that again. The only comment was that sometimes I might need to vent and that was different from husband-bashing. I don't think so, but the main point was that I(the people-pleaser of the year), was able to speak the truth in love to them, without making myself look good. stilllearnin'

OUch Leonard, sounds like you have been burned. I am ashamed to say that I am the only one who ever 'burned' my husband in our Bible study. I guess that says a lot for the other 3 or 4 ladies, just not much for me.

Wow! LadyC, What excellent advice! I will do that the next chance I get. I'd been trying to say something like that. but couldn't quite get the right words together. I really appreciate that not only is everything the truth and not a phony put on, but it also sets a good example for them. Thank you for carrying enough to give me good godly advice. God is good...all the time, and I am..stilllearnin'

thank you, Barracuda, and Ref, Sorry I did leave some information out, I was afraid of being too wordy. I am trying to be acceptable to change, and have more of a servant's heart toward my husband. At first I blamed him for everything, but now I know I am at fault too. We did not live together before marriage, we knew each other over a year before we started dating, then dated for four months, we had set our wedding date for June 12th, but got married sooner because we were afraid we would sleep together before we got married if we waited until then. (That sounds pretty bad). Yes, I agree I need to only say positive things about my husband in front of my friends, I learned that from my first marriage, but didn't apply it here this time around, I certainly will in the future. Thanks for the Ref I can always use those! stilllearnin'

Hi, I am a first time user of worthy boards. I appreciate the advice given on this forum. Here's my problem: After being a widow for nearly 6 years I married a Christian man on January 31st. I was 44 and he is 37. I have a 13 year-old son and a 16 year-old daughter. He had never been married and has no children. After a few weeks of marriage we were both pretty unhappy a lot of the time. It seemed to me that he was trying to change everything about us, and it seemed to him that I was resisiting everything he was trying to do. ( I was!) HIs changes were really all for the better, but since I am change averse, I was bucking the system, or him I should say. My kids and I are very laid back and do nothing in a hurry, my poor husband does everything fast. So we struggled , still do on occasion, but nothing like at first. Any way I really blew it by telling some of my friends at Bible study that I was very unhappy, then told them about our arguments, and how terrible he was. Next thing I know they are telling me that I should get an annulment, or at least separate for awhile until he realizes that he needs to change his attitude about a lot of things. One of my most soft-spoken friends even wrote me a note and said she felt I was pulling away from God because of my relationship with my husband. I may have been for awhile, but that was when I was blaming my husband for everything, and was not willing to take on any of the blame myself. Through doing some reading, I have discovered that I need to change too. My question is how do I convince my friends that my husband is not the awful man they think he is? I am afraid that the more I protest the guiltier he sounds. They are also suspicious of him because I have money, not tons, but a steady income resulting from a settlement because of my first husband's death. My current husband is bi-polar and is on SS disability. I see him as a godly man who is not trying to take advantage of me, but everyone else seems to think he is. Help! Thank you