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Hello, I have started doing some research on my spouses behavior which has led me to believe "narcissism" is the most logic explanation. I know this discovery will be discredited by the narcissist, just because of the nature of character. What can I do to lovingly point out there is a problem? I am being disrespected, put down, hated on etc. Have I maid mistakes in our relationship? Absolutely. Grave ones and I took responsibility and asked God and my spouse for forgiveness. I know God has forgiven me. For my spouse, my mistakes are just more fuel on the ever-burning fire of anger, disapproval and a reason to treat me poorly. Forgiveness does not exist, neither does my marriage. We have 7 children and both "claim" to be Christians. Thank you for your help!

Hi! I just hope someone could enlighten me with some christian advice that would help me get through with this. Its me finding it hard how to deal with my emotions everytime my husband gets to hang out with his friends, though he goes out very seldom just during reunions in his school-day friends & classmates. Our relationship is great no doubt we love each other have all the time for each other and grows better everytime. I just notice for three years of marriage I don’t know why it felt uncomfortable whenever he spend his time with them and enjoy their company. I admit, I’m a stay-at-home mom, an aloof type who doesn’t go out with friends always unlike him, being a leader on his school-day pals & is a friend to everybody. It felt bad like I’m ruining his social life. On the other hand I feel like I’m no part of it whenever he goes home and doesn’t share to me what had happened. Its like I’m missing a piece of his life that I don’t know about. I have no problem with our common circle of friends. He even spent all of his time to us his son everyday. However, I can’t deny the fact that it makes me uncomfortable when me and my son left out at home while he takes time with others and asking me to extend few more hours with them. The other thing is that one of his college friends is his ex’s but they’re good friends now but regardless, I feel the same way with his other friends. Do I make myself selfish? I’ve been honest with him with this situation, we did talked and Ive tried to embrace this situation and get along with it but the moment he can’t limit his time it pisses me off and makes me feel less-priority. Its kinda unhealthy for our marriage and I need some fixin’.. Thanks. What are your thoughts? What were your experiences? Am I not alone?