Shiloh62 Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 83 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,683 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 51 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/14/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/14/1962 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I am so angry at my father right now. I don't know whether to speak my mind or let it go. I know my father is a big gossip, to the point he even gossips about people in his Bible studies (yes he is the minister) and I have called him on it several times that it is not Godly. Well as some may know we all lived together for a period of time recently, which caused major problems between my father and husband and thus me, and thank you Jesus He provided us with our own place. My father returned to the city he liked, which is about 20 miles away, and we stayed in this small town, and my brother lives here also with his girlfriend. So anyways I talked to my cousin this morning, and she was telling me evrything that has been going on in MY LIFE these last few days . She said that my father has been telling the family at Bible studies everyting going on here!!!!!! Even to the point that we borrowed 20$ from a friend!!!!! So of course I know my brother talks to my dad daily, so I called him up and reamed him. He apologized and said he didn't know dad was telling everyone all our business. So should I also ream dad or let it go? It seems the other times I've said something it goes in one ear and out the other, and he wonders why I don't attend his Bible studies. Does your father realize that gossiping is a sin? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lomi Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 108 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 437 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 62 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/13/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/20/1979 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I am so angry at my father right now. I don't know whether to speak my mind or let it go. I know my father is a big gossip, to the point he even gossips about people in his Bible studies (yes he is the minister) and I have called him on it several times that it is not Godly. Well as some may know we all lived together for a period of time recently, which caused major problems between my father and husband and thus me, and thank you Jesus He provided us with our own place. My father returned to the city he liked, which is about 20 miles away, and we stayed in this small town, and my brother lives here also with his girlfriend. So anyways I talked to my cousin this morning, and she was telling me evrything that has been going on in MY LIFE these last few days . She said that my father has been telling the family at Bible studies everyting going on here!!!!!! Even to the point that we borrowed 20$ from a friend!!!!! So of course I know my brother talks to my dad daily, so I called him up and reamed him. He apologized and said he didn't know dad was telling everyone all our business. So should I also ream dad or let it go? It seems the other times I've said something it goes in one ear and out the other, and he wonders why I don't attend his Bible studies. ((((((((((((Stacey))))))))))))))))) I'm praying for you my sister & hope your dad will listen to you when you approached him, after you cooled down. It's hard I know, i'm keeping my distance with my dad after he did that to me & much more... I pray that DADDY will help your dad & he will come to realize that he needs to set an example. lv lomi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stacey c Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 37 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 913 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 19 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/29/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/02/1969 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 I am so angry at my father right now. I don't know whether to speak my mind or let it go. I know my father is a big gossip, to the point he even gossips about people in his Bible studies (yes he is the minister) and I have called him on it several times that it is not Godly. Well as some may know we all lived together for a period of time recently, which caused major problems between my father and husband and thus me, and thank you Jesus He provided us with our own place. My father returned to the city he liked, which is about 20 miles away, and we stayed in this small town, and my brother lives here also with his girlfriend. So anyways I talked to my cousin this morning, and she was telling me evrything that has been going on in MY LIFE these last few days . She said that my father has been telling the family at Bible studies everyting going on here!!!!!! Even to the point that we borrowed 20$ from a friend!!!!! So of course I know my brother talks to my dad daily, so I called him up and reamed him. He apologized and said he didn't know dad was telling everyone all our business. So should I also ream dad or let it go? It seems the other times I've said something it goes in one ear and out the other, and he wonders why I don't attend his Bible studies. Does your father realize that gossiping is a sin? Yes he knows it's a sin and wrong. Gossip and murmmuring are such nasty devils!!!!!! It's a constant on going battle in my family. Actually some of us fight it (and still occasionaly lose) while others keep right on going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stacey c Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 37 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 913 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 19 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/29/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/02/1969 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Thankyou all for your prayers and advise. I am going to talk to him, but I do need a couple of days to calm down and pray about it. My dad is VERY hard headed and stubborn so prayers for him also would be appreciated. And I need prayers to have my heart softened because I have been burned by him one too many times. Thank you all God bless stacey c Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThePastorsWife Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/14/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/13/1972 Share Posted April 23, 2009 (edited) I would let him know that his gossip needs to STOP and then stop telling him anything. Once you've discovered a gossip in the family, you've got to cut off their supply... that doesn't mean they won't get it elsewhere or just make it up, and honestly not realize they're doing anything wrong! I would get very stern about it each time you confront them (I think it takes more than once because gossips are truly addicts). You might even have to hurl a fit at some point or even threaten to end the relationship, if the gossip is that harmful to you. And never think pastors can't be gossips!! I am married to one and he's the worst gossip I know. Edited April 23, 2009 by ThePastorsWife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spiritman Posted April 23, 2009 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 127 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,131 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 23 Days Won: 1 Joined: 04/22/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/25/1962 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Hi Stacy, Sorry to hear that you're going through this situation. I don't always see eye to eye with my parents either. and I agree with alot that Glory watch said; I've tried and tried to get my dad to change his ways but he doesn't listen. When he doesn't listen I just pray for him and ask the Lord to take care of it. and just keep on forgiving him Blessings Spiritman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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