Guest Zcopeman Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 bbs71, I just would like to recommend that you check out www.focusonthefamily.com They have things to help people with marital problems, and possibly a phone number to contact a counselor to speak with. I know that I listened to the radio broadcast 2 days ago, and it was on troubled marriages, and how God restored some troubled marriages. Some had the same situation which your facing. I hope that this may have been some help for you, and I'll pray for you . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Falling Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Hey BBs, I am glad you came to confess today, I understand completely what your going through. I am looking for a little support too. I have been married for 11 years and I had an affair with a coworker this year. I ended it because the guilt and my distance from God ate me up inside. the people here helped me get the strength to do that. My husband experienced a miracle that helped him to confront me and forgive me. I had to tell him everything. It was humilitating. I realized everything I shared with the other man I had taken from my husband, the trust, the friendship, the little stuff the love and our commitment. I have been trying to continue the way I vowed, God helps me. I have to pray everyday for strength. I do not think my husband can accept it was more than just a nasty mistake. I was close to this person for 9 months and still see him every week and it is very hard to stop feelings, but I see it degrading my family when I think about it I will pray for God to intervene for you because you have admitted your weakness, and sought to become right with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted April 17, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Hey BBs, I am glad you came to confess today, I understand completely what your going through. I am looking for a little support too. I have been married for 11 years and I had an affair with a coworker this year. I ended it because the guilt and my distance from God ate me up inside. the people here helped me get the strength to do that. My husband experienced a miracle that helped him to confront me and forgive me. I had to tell him everything. It was humilitating. I realized everything I shared with the other man I had taken from my husband, the trust, the friendship, the little stuff the love and our commitment. I have been trying to continue the way I vowed, God helps me. I have to pray everyday for strength. I do not think my husband can accept it was more than just a nasty mistake. I was close to this person for 9 months and still see him every week and it is very hard to stop feelings, but I see it degrading my family when I think about it I will pray for God to intervene for you because you have admitted your weakness, and sought to become right with him. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wow, and I thought I was the only one that has had this happened. I pray for everyone! In time with positiveness and God's strength, it does get better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lnknprkn Posted April 18, 2005 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 16 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 41 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/05/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted April 18, 2005 Tell no one more of this,,,, End this affair......speak no more to anyone about it as long as you live... NEVER confess this to your husband... Never confess this to anyone you work with or with anyone in your family.... Burry this down deep in your soul and NEVER let it out again!!!!!!! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> carrying that burden in your heart is not what is best to do. its healthy and when you look back to it, may even cause depression. what i would do is speak to my pastor, and have him listen and have him pray with you for forgiveness. at the peak of your marriage, confess to your husband and tell (and SHOW!) to him that you feel guilty and only want him to be the man in your life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest D Smith Posted April 20, 2005 Share Posted April 20, 2005 I wrote that back in March, and many things to support it after that date too... I guess I should say once more why my advice is the only best advice that will work, however I would only end up saying things I have already written well on already... I will only add this time that I stand fully behind all that I have written , and that my advice protects the family... I'm not interested at all with the guilty party feeling "healthy" by attempting to transfer the burden onto others who had no fault in this at all.. Yes, this means that the burden will stay with the guilty person forever,,,,"Too Bad" If the sin is in the past, then there is no reason in the world to drag this into the future by telling the husband and wreaking his life,,,,, If the guilty party in this marriage wants to confess, then the Lord is always listening, and there are churches with pastors that are sworn to never speak to others what is said in confession... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerioke Posted April 20, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 97 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 5,850 Content Per Day: 0.84 Reputation: 128 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/19/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/11/1911 Share Posted April 20, 2005 I wrote that back in March, and many things to support it after that date too... I guess I should say once more why my advice is the only best advice that will work, however I would only end up saying things I have already written well on already... I will only add this time that I stand fully behind all that I have written , and that my advice protects the family... I'm not interested at all with the guilty party feeling "healthy" by attempting to transfer the burden onto others who had no fault in this at all.. Yes, this means that the burden will stay with the guilty person forever,,,,"Too Bad" If the sin is in the past, then there is no reason in the world to drag this into the future by telling the husband and wreaking his life,,,,, If the guilty party in this marriage wants to confess, then the Lord is always listening, and there are churches with pastors that are sworn to never speak to others what is said in confession... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I would say that you've shown how much you've grown Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orr v'emet Posted April 20, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 26 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,672 Content Per Day: 0.23 Reputation: 11 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/12/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted April 20, 2005 I wrote that back in March, and many things to support it after that date too... I guess I should say once more why my advice is the only best advice that will work, however I would only end up saying things I have already written well on already... I will only add this time that I stand fully behind all that I have written , and that my advice protects the family... I'm not interested at all with the guilty party feeling "healthy" by attempting to transfer the burden onto others who had no fault in this at all.. Yes, this means that the burden will stay with the guilty person forever,,,,"Too Bad" If the sin is in the past, then there is no reason in the world to drag this into the future by telling the husband and wreaking his life,,,,, If the guilty party in this marriage wants to confess, then the Lord is always listening, and there are churches with pastors that are sworn to never speak to others what is said in confession... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Give me a break! I will say what I have said before too and that is you shouldn't be dishing out "advice" that is not biblical. How 'bout you take some time to examine what God's word is on the subject before you propose this "advice" as the "only best advice that will work". It's rediculous. Or at least...if you're not suggesting this advice is Biblical then please note that so all reading can take it with a grain of salt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest D Smith Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 (edited) If the sin is in the past, then there is no reason in the world to drag this into the future by telling the husband and wreaking his life, Learning what has happened will kill him, don't kid yourself about that,,,there will be real harm done to a person who has done nothing wrong and deserves to be protected. I cant wave my hands and back-up time to make this wife not run around on her husband, oh I wish I could, but cant. but I can offer advice that picks up the story where it is right now, and works to bring both the husband and the wife to a better future. There is really no point in sinking this marriage is a sea of guilt and anger....If the wife gets careless and speaks to ANYONE about her sins of the past that is a non-professional, she risks harming the one person in the world she is most sent into the world to protect. Her husband. If the guilty party in any marriage wants to confess, then the Lord is always listening, and there are churches with pastors that are sworn to never speak to others what is said in confession... Edited April 21, 2005 by D Smith Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerioke Posted April 21, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 97 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 5,850 Content Per Day: 0.84 Reputation: 128 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/19/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/11/1911 Share Posted April 21, 2005 If the sin is in the past, then there is no reason in the world to drag this into the future by telling the husband and wreaking his life, Learning what has happened will kill him, don't kid yourself about that,,,there will be real harm done to a person who has done nothing wrong and deserves to be protected. I cant wave my hands and back-up time to make this wife not run around on her husband, oh I wish I could, but cant. but I can offer advice that picks up the story where it is right now, and works to bring both the husband and the wife to a better future. There is really no point in sinking this marriage is a sea of guilt and anger....If the wife gets careless and speaks to ANYONE about her sins of the past that is a non-professional, she risks harming the one person in the world she is most sent into the world to protect. Her husband. If the guilty party in any marriage wants to confess, then the Lord is always listening, and there are churches with pastors that are sworn to never speak to others what is said in confession... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'll bet yer losing all kinds of sleep over this. Go on, find yourself another topic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sadiebug101 Posted April 21, 2005 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 16 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 49 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/16/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/08/1987 Share Posted April 21, 2005 i agree do find another topic...? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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