darkest_red Posted June 17, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 67 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 885 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 55 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/05/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/23/1986 Share Posted June 17, 2005 I have a friend, Steph, who thinks she may be pregnant. She refuses to go to the doctor or get a pregnancy test though (she says she can't afford it, I think she's just too scared of the results) and nothing- and I have tried everything I can think of over the past few months-will convince her to do either. I don't know what to do, she's really becoming unglued with the worry. It seems like every day she comes up with something else that 'could' be a sign she's pregnant but then she says something that makes her think she isn't. She has put on some weight but as she hasn't weighed herself/been weighed for a few years previously, she doesn't know whether it's been put on over a few years or just a matter of months. I don't whether her worries are just pyschological because there is a chance she may be pregnant or whether they are actually signs. Any advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted June 18, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted June 18, 2005 Yes. Very good advice: DON'T HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Your friend can go to the county hospital and probably get tests and care free of charge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trinity Posted June 18, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 92 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,244 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 63 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/30/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted June 18, 2005 Yes. Very good advice: DON'T HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Your friend can go to the county hospital and probably get tests and care free of charge. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That is correct! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkest_red Posted June 20, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 67 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 885 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 55 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/05/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/23/1986 Author Share Posted June 20, 2005 Yes. Very good advice: DON'T HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Your friend can go to the county hospital and probably get tests and care free of charge. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> A) whereas the above is good advice, if she thinks she's pregnant, it's a little late for that advice now. b) She won't get a test done- free or not, she'll make up an excuse. I've tried to persuade her to go her GP, the walk-in-centre etc but she refuses point blank. I need advice and telling her to have a test done is not going to help as I've already explained that she refuses to go, as great as that advice is. Any other advice please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColleenLovesMischief Posted June 22, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,791 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 21 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/21/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/13/1977 Share Posted June 22, 2005 I don't want to sound mean, but it sounds to me as though your friend really deep inside wants to be pregnant although I'm sure she will deny that, and she is afraid of what the results will be. If she is showing signs and does not go in for testing and child services finds out that she knew and chose to deny care they will take her baby. It happend to one of my friends. You have to express this importance to her. If she has internet access then message me and I will give you my primary email addy so you can contact me and I would be willing to talk or give you my messanger contact. I'll be praying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joolia Posted June 22, 2005 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 11 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/02/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted June 22, 2005 If she won't go anywhere to test, have you considered purchasing a home kit and doing it together? Make it easy and confidential for her - and then if it comes back positive, you can go from there. It needs to be done somehow - do this as a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Constant Posted June 22, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 128 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,946 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/25/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/06/1979 Share Posted June 22, 2005 She si depriving her child, if pregnant, the care it needs by not truly finding out if she is pregnant or not. She needs to be a woman and get the test done. Do it for good reasons: SHE MAY BE WITH CHILD!!!! I hope everything works out for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkest_red Posted June 22, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 67 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 885 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 55 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/05/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/23/1986 Author Share Posted June 22, 2005 I don't want to sound mean, but it sounds to me as though your friend really deep inside wants to be pregnant although I'm sure she will deny that, and she is afraid of what the results will be. If she is showing signs and does not go in for testing and child services finds out that she knew and chose to deny care they will take her baby. It happend to one of my friends. You have to express this importance to her. If she has internet access then message me and I will give you my primary email addy so you can contact me and I would be willing to talk or give you my messanger contact. I'll be praying. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> She does NOT want to be pregnant, if you knew her you would see that. I am not in any doubt that she does not want to be pregnant. She knows about the Social Services side as I work for Social Services legal team. As for the home kit.. she says she can't afford one, though I think that may be an excuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iryssa Posted June 27, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 117 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3,860 Content Per Day: 0.56 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/10/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/13/1984 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Many Pregnancy Care Centres offer free pregnancy tests. They're also excellent places to get counselling...I know the ones in my area are mostly run by Christians (dunno about your area, but find out if you can). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Zayit Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 If she is such a good friend why don't you buy her one, I am pretty sure they are still under $10. Tell her the suspense is killing YOU and you will be with her through everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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