Guest freedomseeker4 Posted August 11, 2005 Share Posted August 11, 2005 Hello, I am new here and looking for some help, accountability, christian friendships. I need someone to help me along as I go through this mess I have made. I am married to a man. We have been married 16 years, been together for 19. Before I married him I had a relationship with another female. I had struggle with same sex attraction since I was yound. After we were married we had kids, I didn't think about women a whole lot. He had a drinking and porn problem and it seemed we fought all the time. He was a christian but backslidden. A few years ago he got more into religion, became legalistic, controlling..etc and still drank some. I decided to seperate and be away from him. During that time I met a woman. I thought that I would be able to be with her and have a life with her..but I became convicted and I also felt I couldnt' do that to the kids. It would be a hard life..so my husband and I decided to reconcile. THings are not that good. My feelings for her are still very strong and he is still drinking. I keep thinking about how good she is to me and how it seems he doesn't really care although he claims to love me. I had become invoved with groups who said it is ok to be gay and they confused me some, turned around scripture..but deep down I know it is wrong. I just want to feel close to God again and have a healthy happy family..just don't know if it's possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisWordIsSufficient Posted August 11, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 342 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/18/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted August 11, 2005 Hello sweetheart, i will be praying for you. It is suggested that people become attracted to the same sex usually because in there life they never had a good example of the opposite sex in there life, or because of somethinf traumatic caused by someone of the opposite sex in there life. My friend turned to Women because all her life her father abused her mother and then when she got married her husband had a porn obsession and fell into drugs and stopped caring for her it would seem, so seeing no good in men she chose to look for the love she never obtained from a man, from a woman. The mistake she realised she made is that she went looking for love in the world again, instead of turning to God. Have you considered the love you desire and feel your getting from this lady is the love your not looking for, seeking for, finding from the Lord? Turn to the Lord. It clearly states in the bible that same sex marriages or the like are not right, and are a sin. People twist it today in some churches because they want unity so bad that it is at the expense of truth. It is fine for you to be loved and love your female friend, but resist your sinful flesh, as hard as it can be, and go for Jesus like you never have before!! The answers are in his Word. The love you seek and lack from your husband is so so abundant in the Lord and will overflow you. Remember that the Fathers love is unconditional. More precious than any worldly love. Read 1corinthians to see what real love is. Its so much more than the world has made it. The world has made it a feeling. The bible states its something you do, something you live. If you believe your husband can clean up his act for you and your children, and youve prayed and the you feel the Lord is telling you to stay, then remember, in 1Corinthians it says that "love is long-suffering" but if he is no longer to be in your life (and with much prayer you will know) then leave. Sometimes were better people, better to our children and most importantly better focused on God, when we are separated from oppressing relationships. I guess in a nut shell, you must Seek the Lord with much prayer and Read his word with the Holy Spirit guiding you and you must repent for your sinful lusts, give your love and time to the Lord. He will then pour out his love on you, and through you to your family which will make things much better. I will pray for you dear. Blessings, Bluebird1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisWordIsSufficient Posted August 11, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 342 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/18/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted August 11, 2005 I just want to feel close to God again and have a healthy happy family..just don't know if it's possible. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MATT 19:26 "But Jesus looked at them and said to them "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." " JER 32:17 "Ah, Lord God! Behold, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. There is nothing too hard for you." taking note that divorce is of course not right by the word of God, we must try, in Gods strength to keep our families together, and with the Lord we can do it, if it God's will. Just a thought, could you talk to your husband about a recommitment to the Lord? Would he be willing for you to spend time with God together? It would be so good for you. Do you spend time with the Lord as a family? If not, give it a try! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest freedomseeker4 Posted August 11, 2005 Share Posted August 11, 2005 Just wanted to say Thank you. I am trying to spend more time with the Lord as a family. We are involved in church and actually I was getting to do something I loved there before all this happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted August 12, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted August 12, 2005 Praying for you, Sister. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisWordIsSufficient Posted August 12, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 342 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/18/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted August 12, 2005 its great that your family go to church together. But also spend time with the Lord at home, just your family and God. Maybe a family bible study might help. Make the study on Love, or on Jesus and who he is. still praying for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liss Posted August 14, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 11 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 311 Content Per Day: 0.05 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/23/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted August 14, 2005 spending time together... with the Lord and also just doing things as a family. it is also a good thing to not forget to spend your quiet time with God in private. you already know that homosexuality is wrong in the eyes of God... focus on the family you have ... and pray contiually... God will give you the freedom you need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RJD Servant Posted September 13, 2005 Share Posted September 13, 2005 Hello, I am new here and looking for some help, accountability, christian friendships. I need someone to help me along as I go through this mess I have made. I am married to a man. We have been married 16 years, been together for 19. Before I married him I had a relationship with another female. I had struggle with same sex attraction since I was yound. After we were married we had kids, I didn't think about women a whole lot. He had a drinking and porn problem and it seemed we fought all the time. He was a christian but backslidden. A few years ago he got more into religion, became legalistic, controlling..etc and still drank some. I decided to seperate and be away from him. During that time I met a woman. I thought that I would be able to be with her and have a life with her..but I became convicted and I also felt I couldnt' do that to the kids. It would be a hard life..so my husband and I decided to reconcile. THings are not that good. My feelings for her are still very strong and he is still drinking. I keep thinking about how good she is to me and how it seems he doesn't really care although he claims to love me. I had become invoved with groups who said it is ok to be gay and they confused me some, turned around scripture..but deep down I know it is wrong. I just want to feel close to God again and have a healthy happy family..just don't know if it's possible. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Accountablity Christian then I am the one that will hold you to the truths of Gods Word not our feelings or want and desires. I will hold your to his promises and the conditions that come with them . Sin will always be sin in the eyes of God and only he can deliver you from the inward thoughts of your heart. He is the Almighty God who will judge every action done in our life so we begin by placing our Lives in his hand. We begin by drawing lines in the sand of Moral Rights and Wrongs and leave the legilizm to God. You have a husband that will take you in and strive to change if you change and choose God only as the Love of your Life. My husband knows that my only true LOVE is God and then Him and he has the same answer back for me. Your earthly love of the flesh is lust and fleshliness that compiles the sin that is with in you. Gay life syle has always been Sin. Sodom and Gomorrah and the plains around it were burned to the Ground because of the Gay lifestyle of sin. The world and the churches can ordain them and have their own churches but they are and abomination to the eyes of the Almighty God. God did not condone Satans sin of Pride in heaven he was cast down what make you think he will look the other way at the sin in this world around us. He does not. I was raised upon working with EX Homosexuals and Gays that have been deliverded by the Power of the Living God for nothing is impossible with God. So right now do you want to start a straight and narrow way of living and give up your rights to all that you desire and lay down your life to have Christ. This is giving up your will and wants and desires and placing your Flesh upon the alter to be sacrificed unto death so that the Blood of Jesus can change you and wash you and make you whole. Bringing you in to new life in the Spirit rehelm where it can and will conquor every battle you will ever have to face in life. Because when you become a christian everything is not peace as we battle the world and the manner in which we live life before Christ. We begin to change our minds into the mind of Christ and work on making the Love of God help us stand. Work with your husband and tell him you need to kneel together and repent of sins of the passed and the present so that you both can start and new life in Christ together. Now he might have legilizim in his faith but right now you need taunted lines in your life and as you make stronger committments in Christ you will find the word working underneath your feet Christ the solid rock I stand. If you make wishy washy lines in your life then you will fall through the cracks. Read the word to back all you do and say to one another and find the moderation with which to live for Christ. But go with his strong lines for now untill you can find a way to stand and find the truth in the things you are living in. He must not control you He must be a partner in you must help one another to obtain the truth and get to where you life needs to be in Christ. When you obtain this exsample your children will be able to stand in this world too. Pray and seek Gods face and let his LOVE Obtain your Heart that no one can come in and take it from you in the flesh. Pray for wisdom to deal with life one day at a time and stop the arguing with one another and go to God for healing and deliverance and Victory. You can live their!!! You Can Be a OVERCOMER!!!! I will be praying for you to follow Christ Do it for yourself and family NOW!!! Today Right this moment. Get a Thomson Chain Bible KING James Version, and obtain a Amplified Bible and these will help you find the truth that you need. If you can not obtain these let me know and I will Obtain them for you and you will never be the same without these to Bibles in your life. I give them to every one. RJD Servant Chat with me at hotyarn@yahoo.com any time of the day or hour!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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