What can we as Christian(especially single Christians or Christians who are dating) learn from David & Michal's relationship in the bible?

[bartmac123]

David & Michal's relationship does lead to marriage which is recorded
in 1 Samuel 18:27.  However, I was wondering how Christians who are
seeking to date/court  someone or are already in a courting/dating relationship can learn from David & Michal of the
bible.

A) We start off with Michal loving David which is clearly stated in 1
Samuel 18:20 (which could also suggest/hint/indicate that Michal &
David did know each other before getting married, and so we can sort
of assume that this was Not really an arranged marriage which is a
common custom in ancient times, and also still quite a common custom
presently practiced in the region of South Asia( Indian subcontinent
).  To be more specific, it is Not like an arranged marriage where the
man and woman may Only communicate for a really short period of time(
like 5 minutes to an hour or so), and then decide to get an arranged
marriage with the blessing of the man's family and the woman's family

B) As premised by point A) above  David & Michal did know each other
for some period of time prior to their marriage.  Therefore, we can
probably assume that David knew that Michal had a household idol in
her possession which is evidenced in 1 Samuel 19:13.  Since David &
Michal are both Jews in Ancient Israel, we have to wonder why David
was Not troubled by the fact that his betrothed had a household idol
which categorically violates the 1st commandment of the 10
commandments.  So from a modern perspective, Christians who are
dating/courting should make note of behaviours/actions that
categorically violates their Christian faith.  For example, if the
person who you are courting/dating is repeatedly & knowingly listening
to inappropriate music(i.e music with sexual connotations, bad
language, etc.) then those would be clear warning sign that you should
end the relationship, and Not marry said person

C) When we read 2 Samuel 6:16-23 , we know that they are already married because it was previously mentioned that David married Michal in 1 Samuel 18:27. However, could Christians who are still in courtship/dating learn something from 2 Samuel 6:16-20 even though 2 Samuel 6:16-23 recounts a story about David & Michal after they were married ?  Let me explain.  The narrative in 2 Samuel 6:16-23 which emphasizes Michal's strong feelings of severe disgust/spite/embarrassment when she sees David's dancing during worship which may have been Unsophisticated/Inelegant/"Uncool" from her perspective.  Subsequently, Michal harshly criticizes 2 Samuel 6:20 by saying a condescending manner:

(2 Samuel 6:20b)......“How the king of Israel distinguished himself
today! He uncovered himself today in the eyes of
his servants’ maids as one of the foolish ones shamelessly uncovers
himself!”

Based how we read 2 Samuel 6:16-23 , we can probably assume that
Michal was very arrogant towards David because he was dancing during
worship. Do Not get me wrong, I understand if a spouse/(partner in
courtship/dating) might mildly rebuke whomever they have
married/presently courting/dating for singing too loudly in worship or
dancing in a goofy manner.  But I believe that Michal's response in 2
Samuel 6:20b is a lot harsher and a lot more critical than a mild
rebuke.

 

D) Finally, if we are Christians who are in courtship/marriage, we can
probably make some noteworthy assumptions from 2 Samuel 6:23 which
states:

(2 Samuel 6:23) Michal the daughter of Saul had no child to the day of her death

Some readers might say that due to Michal's overly harsh criticism of David, God would Not allow Michal to have children which is probably why Michal Never had any children till the day of her death, even if David may have continued to have sexual relations with Michal during their marriage.

However, another perspective could lead us to assume that due to
Michal's overly harsh criticism of David , David himself Stopped
having any kind of sexual relationship with Michal which is probably
why Michal Never had any children till the day of her death.

 This 2nd perspective would bring up the questions:

 

"Should Christians who
are in a courting/dating relationship just end their relationship ASAP(
which is sort of symbolized by David Not having sex with Michal after
her overly harsh criticism) with their partner after an experience
similar to the one David had with Michal  in 2 Samuel 6:16-23 ?

In others, should we single Christians clearly make note of the fact that we should Never date/court someone who is overly harsh & excessively arrogant in life like 2 Samuel 6:16-23's Michal?"

Edited August 3, 2021 by bartmac123

[Leonardo Von]

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What can we as Christian(especially single Christians or Christians who are dating) learn from David & Michal's relationship in the bible?

One of the greatest mistakes of David was to take again Michal as spouse. Once she had other husband, he should give up on her (see Deut 24:1-4).