Guest Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) A question. Edited January 25, 2022 by Melinda12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted January 23, 2022 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted January 23, 2022 4 minutes ago, Melinda12 said: This is a serious question. Once a man has viewed porn in his youth, can he ever have a normal healthy loving relationship with a woman, is any marriage doomed ? Surely no good normal woman could or would wish to live up to such images. How can a man respect and love a future wife? When she has discovered the material in old boxes never meant to be seen by anyone, how can she get over the feeling of revulsion and fear? It is evil. Evil that coils around a man's very heart. It may be naive to ask, but why is it even sold and what about those involved! Those girls have sold their souls. Nobody can unsee what has been seen. What is best to do to repair the marriage? Yes, viewing porn is a sin. If a man or woman is tempted and views porn once and has asked God of forgiveness and genuinely repents that is ok. But porn can be an addiction and that is not ok. We should pray for all those involved in porn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) Just like in prostitution, I truly feel so sorry for the people involved in all stages of such a thing. Edited January 29, 2022 by Melinda12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted January 24, 2022 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 88 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,888 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,635 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted January 24, 2022 Porn is definitely evil and damaging. But yes, it is very possible to recover from it, even from an addiction to it, and certainly from the "dabbling" that many do with it. The problem of "living up to those images" is a real concern, and is probably one reason that even fantasizing in one's mind is a sin (Matthew 5:28). That said, think of it this way; a man who has never engaged with porn or such things marries a very beautiful woman and has a wonderful, God-honoring relationship with her in every way. Then his wife dies. Sometime later, he remarries, and this time his new wife is not nearly as outwardly-beautiful. Would we be concerned that his second wife cannot "live up" to the physical attractiveness of his first wife? Well, I suppose it's possible, but we don't really think about such things. As we grow up, we (hopefully) grow in the understanding that outward beauty is just one aspect of beauty, and is not the most important aspect, and is an aspect of it that changes and fades over time. Maybe she is less outwardly beautiful, but that doesn't mean this man can't be attracted to her, or their intimate physical relationship cannot be wonderful and fulfilling to both of them, etc. As a former "dabbler" I am thankful that God did not allow me to plunge into those kinds of images regularly or become addicted. Even then as I remember how they affected me back then I can see how very easily damaging they are to the participants, and the viewers. But as God has led me away from that, and to a deeper meaning of Biblical marriage and love and relationships and intimacy, he has grown me to realize the beauty and worthiness and desirability of his design for those things, and to eagerly anticipate having a God-honoring, dedicated marriage of my own one day, if he is so willing to bring that into my life. And one aspect of that growth is to be far less preoccupied with standards of physical beauty (and certainly with physical beauty alone as any kind of important component). I see this as just one more way that God's word and truth and working in a person's heart can change and grow them in ways that are not possible otherwise. "But Jesus looked at them and said, 'With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.'" -- Matthew 19:26 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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