Shyguy Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 89 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/06/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/09/1974 Share Posted March 13, 2006 When does compassion cross the line into becoming a walking mat? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nebula Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 5,823 Topics Per Day: 0.75 Content Count: 45,870 Content Per Day: 5.94 Reputation: 1,897 Days Won: 83 Joined: 03/22/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/19/1970 Share Posted March 13, 2006 You and me both man! I'm struggling with this as well. I hope we get some good answers here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giaour Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 179 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 3,941 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/28/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/08/1964 Share Posted March 13, 2006 com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giaour Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 179 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 3,941 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/28/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/08/1964 Share Posted March 13, 2006 I guess compassion changes to walking mat when your compassion is misused by others to dominate you into helping. Ask yourself, do I want to help or do I feel pushed into helping. If you want to help, by all means try to help. If you feel pressured to help, resist it and just give moral support instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nebula Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 5,823 Topics Per Day: 0.75 Content Count: 45,870 Content Per Day: 5.94 Reputation: 1,897 Days Won: 83 Joined: 03/22/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/19/1970 Share Posted March 13, 2006 (edited) (Responding to yur fist post - I think we wrote at the same time) Yeah, I understand that - But how does that fit in with "Walk the extra mile" and other words of servanthood Jesus spoke? Where do you draw the line between humbling yourself and not letting yourself be abused and/or used? Edited March 13, 2006 by nebula Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nebula Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 5,823 Topics Per Day: 0.75 Content Count: 45,870 Content Per Day: 5.94 Reputation: 1,897 Days Won: 83 Joined: 03/22/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/19/1970 Share Posted March 13, 2006 OR to clarify - In Jesus' day, a Roman soldier could grab anyone they wanted and force him to carry a load for a mile. This is the illusion Jesus used when He said, "If someone asks you to walk a mile, walk a second." So, the Romans were being abusive. Jesus said that not only should we graciously grant the demand/request, but go beyond and do more. That's what puzzles me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giaour Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 179 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 3,941 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/28/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/08/1964 Share Posted March 13, 2006 I think it goes to your motives for helping. Jesus wants us to help because of love not because of guilt or pressure. Also, think if you would actually be helping or harming. I have a neice that is constantly asking me for money. I used to give it to her until her mom told me that she will never learn money responsibility until she gets a job and earns it herself. So by my helping her, I was actually harming her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chicagoburbite Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 28 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 418 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/16/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/13/1965 Share Posted March 13, 2006 It's a matter of healthy boundaries. There are some excellent Christian books out there on boundries. Allowing someone to overstep your boundries turns your relationship into a codependent relationship that doesn't help either one of you. Don't know whom to give credit to this quote for, but they say, "Unhealthy boundaries are overt or covert attempts to control another person's behavior." Pray and ask God what boundries you need to set. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shyguy Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 89 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/06/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/09/1974 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 This is a very contentious point in a marriage. When one spouse continuely oversteps bounds concsiously or unconciously. Some people just do not have control or have not learned control. This can be in regards to emotional control, finances, love, etc ..... Its easy to love someone so much they break you. At what point does that passion, compassion, and love you have for an individual have to stop for logic. Is it worth risking divorce or seperation? Even with friends mercy, compassion, and forgivness does not mean you should be walked over. At what point does God say enough is enough? ... Does he? ... After all he gives us our entire lives no matter if we hurt him everyday if we repent and turn at the last momment we are saved. At what point do you cut them off. Can compassion only go so far? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BroChuck Posted March 13, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 85 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,634 Content Per Day: 0.22 Reputation: 11 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/31/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/18/1961 Share Posted March 13, 2006 When does compassion cross the line into becoming a walking mat? I believe the moment a person wrongfully takes advantage of the compassion they are receiving is the moment they are using that person as a walking mat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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