arunangelo Posted July 19, 2006 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 0 Topic Count: 149 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 166 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 7 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/30/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted July 19, 2006 Should not we be faithful in our marriage, even if our spouse is not? God always stays faithful to His covenant with us. When we were unfaithful to Him, He brought us healing by sacrificing His own life. The Lord told Hosea (Hosea 3:1), to return to his wife although she was an adulteress. God further told him to love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they were unfaithful to Him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billie Posted July 19, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 51 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,849 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 14 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/17/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/17/1979 Share Posted July 19, 2006 yes we should always be faithful no matter what our spouse does. however, jesus said to the pharisees anyone who divorces his wife, except for infidelity, causes them both to sin(correct me if i'm misquoting) this seems to indicate that if a spouse is unfaithful, divorce might be the only recourse for the faithful spouse other than staying and being cheated on. God can change anyone's heart but only if they are willing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyRaven Posted July 19, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,981 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/20/1964 Share Posted July 19, 2006 yes we should always be faithful no matter what our spouse does. however, jesus said to the pharisees anyone who divorces his wife, except for infidelity, causes them both to sin(correct me if i'm misquoting) this seems to indicate that if a spouse is unfaithful, divorce might be the only recourse for the faithful spouse other than staying and being cheated on. God can change anyone's heart but only if they are willing. Yes, the way I read scripture, divorce is available to those who have been cheated on, the marriage covenant has been violated. However, until that divorce is granted, the injured party still needs to remain faithful. You do not repay evil with evil, scripture says. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sierra21 Posted July 20, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 160 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,000 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1983 Share Posted July 20, 2006 right on the money raven Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SheepDog Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Yes, the way I read scripture, divorce is available to those who have been cheated on, the marriage covenant has been violated. However, until that divorce is granted, the injured party still needs to remain faithful. You do not repay evil with evil, scripture says. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inusia Posted July 21, 2006 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 20 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/19/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted July 21, 2006 So, can you forgive infidelity of your second half and continue your marriage, accepting the disgusting cheatery, sharing your bed and your private life?Does it make any sense?I think it is better to forgive and to let the betrayer go... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shazza Posted July 21, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 29 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 526 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/25/1965 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Forgiveness is a MUST!!! When we sin, we seek God for forgiveness and what does He do??? He wipes our slate clean. So if we are to be more like Jesus, we are to do exactly the same. Plain and simple Forgive as Jesus forgives us. If a spouse is unfaithful, and they are truly sorry for what they have done, then forgiveness is a certainty and God will bless without measure. God CAN and WILL rebuild marriages that have experienced infidelity. I really love this scripture: 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. Seek God first before ending a marriage, He has a great plan for each and every union He has joined. In Christs Love, Shazza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tams Posted July 21, 2006 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Should not we be faithful in our marriage, even if our spouse is not? God always stays faithful to His covenant with us. When we were unfaithful to Him, He brought us healing by sacrificing His own life. The Lord told Hosea (Hosea 3:1), to return to his wife although she was an adulteress. God further told him to love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they were unfaithful to Him. Hosea and Gomer I tend to agree with Alien, Its what the word of God says, Let no man put asunder for what i a have put together. And its only the harden hearts that the Lord has said then fine get divorce if your partner has committed adultry. On the other hand, if you take the spouse back and they do it again, i think it would be better to let them go. You cannot alow them to abuse you either. But here is an awesome story about God's Love, its absolutely phenominal! I know a caucasion woman who slept with a black man , they were staying in Botswana where Aids is extremely rife. God told the Husband, and told him to sleep with his wife. Not knowing if she had aids, GOSH now this would be difficult. He did, he forgave her, because he knows God is greater and has a greater plan than just them. they are an awesome Ministry on its own. they are incredible for God and He works in them miracoulously very day. So what does God say. Because he knows better! and all things By the way she didn't get aids. Tams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inusia Posted July 21, 2006 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 20 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/19/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted July 21, 2006 I don't believe in future with a man who has been with other woman. And I don't think anyone should save his marriage, unless God intended that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smalcald Posted July 21, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 5,258 Content Per Day: 0.76 Reputation: 42 Days Won: 3 Joined: 06/16/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/22/1960 Share Posted July 21, 2006 Perhaps one of the reasons (besides vow breaking) that God allows for the divorce from a cheating spouse is health. I know that if my husband ever cheated, I could forgive him, but I would never let him touch me again because there is no telling what type of diseases he might have caught. If a woman thinks so little of herself that she would be with a married man, then how many other men may she have been with? Good point. You also bring up another thorny issue. What do you do if you marriage partner tells you they are no longer interested in having sex with you again? As a Christian we are called to lifelong fidelity, so what we are talking about in this case would be in affect a vow of lifetime celibacy, or close to it. I have spoken to two such friends in the past year that are in this situation. It is hard because as Protestants we really don't have supportive institutions to help people live lives of healthy chastity and celibacy. I pointed them to the basic biblical versus on the topic, but also cautioned them that it is doubtful that their wives would change their minds, sexual attraction is very hard to control or to change. It is possible the Holy Spirit could change the situation, it is also possible the answer will be no. One of them did speak to a Catholic Monk and it helped him greatly to speak to another male who was leading a life of celibacy and it encouraged him that he could complete the journey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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