Iryssa Posted November 8, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 117 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3,860 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/10/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/13/1984 Share Posted November 8, 2006 LadyRaven...well said indeed. Seriously, guys, there's a lot of wisdom in that post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Floatingaxe Posted November 8, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 62 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 9,613 Content Per Day: 1.44 Reputation: 656 Days Won: 9 Joined: 03/11/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/31/1952 Share Posted November 8, 2006 And really, unless such a couple is engaged, I really don't see how they could be intimate enough to be there alone at night Even engaged couples are not married and need to behave in a manner that is above reproach. Avoiding the appearance of evil is appropriate, as we are responsible for the messages we send with our behaviour. If others believe we sin, then we sin in causing them to believe that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RGR Posted November 8, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 512 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 8,601 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 125 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/16/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/04/1973 Share Posted November 8, 2006 Colossians 3:5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.(NIV) Romans 13:13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. 14 Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature. (NIV) 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. (NIV) Just from these three verses (and there are many more verses if you need more!) it is quite clear what an affront sexual immorality is to God. I know you are saying that you're not interested in sexual intimacy, but come on, what do you think being in the same bed with someone is going to lead to? What you're asking is akin to an alcoholic asking can he go to the bar and not drink! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyRaven Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,981 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/20/1964 Share Posted November 9, 2006 And really, unless such a couple is engaged, I really don't see how they could be intimate enough to be there alone at night Even engaged couples are not married and need to behave in a manner that is above reproach. Avoiding the appearance of evil is appropriate, as we are responsible for the messages we send with our behaviour. If others believe we sin, then we sin in causing them to believe that. I didn't mean in bed hun, I just meant, alone, like watching tv.... I never go into a dudes house and unless my kids are up, no guy comes in mine unless we're to the point that we're engaged. Of course I also have an odd view of what engagement is, it's not the common one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sierra21 Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 160 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,000 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1983 Share Posted November 9, 2006 And really, unless such a couple is engaged, I really don't see how they could be intimate enough to be there alone at night Even engaged couples are not married and need to behave in a manner that is above reproach. Avoiding the appearance of evil is appropriate, as we are responsible for the messages we send with our behaviour. If others believe we sin, then we sin in causing them to believe that. I didn't mean in bed hun, I just meant, alone, like watching tv.... I never go into a dudes house and unless my kids are up, no guy comes in mine unless we're to the point that we're engaged. Of course I also have an odd view of what engagement is, it's not the common one. I don't mean to be critical- but I think it's okay for a couple to spend time alone together as long as they both know what is "crossing the line". If you are both convicted in your belief, this should not be an issue. However, when children are in the picture I entirely agree with you LadyRaven. Children don't understand the concept of "dating". This "dating" can be really confusing and scary for them. But for childless couples, i think it's alright as long as you're both on the same page. Blessings, Sierra Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eric Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 2 Topic Count: 50 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 4,073 Content Per Day: 0.51 Reputation: 43 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/02/2002 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/10/1923 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Is it ok for a boyfriend and girlfriend to sleep in the same bed at night? Not having sex, but just sharing a bed. I've searched the internet for a while but I'm not able to find the answer. Jacob, you have asked a question and have had all the correct answers.......So give it a miss, brother, sooner or later the 'urge' will develop and you will feel so ashamed. I'm speaking from experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyRaven Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,981 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/20/1964 Share Posted November 9, 2006 And really, unless such a couple is engaged, I really don't see how they could be intimate enough to be there alone at night Even engaged couples are not married and need to behave in a manner that is above reproach. Avoiding the appearance of evil is appropriate, as we are responsible for the messages we send with our behaviour. If others believe we sin, then we sin in causing them to believe that. I didn't mean in bed hun, I just meant, alone, like watching tv.... I never go into a dudes house and unless my kids are up, no guy comes in mine unless we're to the point that we're engaged. Of course I also have an odd view of what engagement is, it's not the common one. I don't mean to be critical- but I think it's okay for a couple to spend time alone together as long as they both know what is "crossing the line". If you are both convicted in your belief, this should not be an issue. However, when children are in the picture I entirely agree with you LadyRaven. Children don't understand the concept of "dating". This "dating" can be really confusing and scary for them. But for childless couples, i think it's alright as long as you're both on the same page. Blessings, Sierra See here is the thing, I don't believe in dating. I believe in courtship...which means picking your mate from amongst your close friends. You don't pair off until you are ready to be engaged. SInce you are not paired off, you really have no right to be alone with the other person after other people are supposed to be in bed...(I was raised that the home was for family and close close friends, others you met in public or had outside gatherings with also. Acquaintances you weren't close with might come to a group event inside, but not one on one...and this includes female friends, so if you get an invitation into my house for anything other than a group event consider yourself a very special person to me) Until then, you are simply friends. And I believe the notion that engagement, biblically is more than just saying "I want to get married to you" it's the commitment, privately, that marriage is publically...without the sex. IOW, if you cheat while you are engaged, its adultury, not fornication and if you leave someone you are engaged to, it's the same as a divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iryssa Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 117 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3,860 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/10/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/13/1984 Share Posted November 9, 2006 And I believe the notion that engagement, biblically is more than just saying "I want to get married to you" it's the commitment, privately, that marriage is publically...without the sex. IOW, if you cheat while you are engaged, its adultury, not fornication and if you leave someone you are engaged to, it's the same as a divorce. I'll agree with you there...this coming from the experience of being with somebody who did not take engagement so seriously...that hurt (though God has healed me so much...and brought me someone so much better). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sierra21 Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 160 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,000 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1983 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyRaven Posted November 9, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,981 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/20/1964 Share Posted November 9, 2006 And I believe the notion that engagement, biblically is more than just saying "I want to get married to you" it's the commitment, privately, that marriage is publically...without the sex. IOW, if you cheat while you are engaged, its adultury, not fornication and if you leave someone you are engaged to, it's the same as a divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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