Guest Biblicist Posted March 21, 2008 Share Posted March 21, 2008 Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Your father needs to find a Biblical counselor, sotphmfm, you and your brother are not able to be wise counsel for your father. What your father is doing is wrong. He should not concern you with the details of their problems. He needs to find an adult. A Christian, to get counsel from. I can't imagine this is easy for you. I'll pray that you are strengthened through this trial. And that your father does what God wants him to do, not what he feels he should do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat8585 Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 1,360 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 7,866 Content Per Day: 1.23 Reputation: 26 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/22/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/18/1946 Share Posted March 21, 2008 My ll year old son would like to ask a question about his parents divorce. My father has no one to talk to, so he talks to me and my mother says that he should be talking to another adult instead of me. What do you think? Lil sotphmfm I think I'm confused. Is this your eleven yesr old son??? Your father talks to you and your mom, is the conversation about the 11 y.o. or the people getting divorced. Who is getting divorced and what relation are they to you and if it's not your son, who is it??? I'm confused, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarletprayers Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 135 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,537 Content Per Day: 1.08 Reputation: 157 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/06/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/29/1956 Share Posted March 21, 2008 I think the very first line in the OP is sotphmfm, the lines after that are the 11 year olds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarletprayers Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 135 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,537 Content Per Day: 1.08 Reputation: 157 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/06/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/29/1956 Share Posted March 21, 2008 what's so confusing? the poster is posting on behalf of her son. hmmmm... I'll adjust the wording below to see if that helps. "My 11 year old son would like to ask a question about his parents divorce." - sotphmfm "My father has no one to talk to, so he talks to me. My mother says that he should be talking to another adult instead of me. What do you think?" - lil sotphmfm (this is the son) did that help? you got it Apple! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotphmfm Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 128 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/05/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/03/1975 Author Share Posted March 21, 2008 from sotphmfm I think I'll set up a user name for my son to make it easier for all. Sorry for the confusion applepi you got it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarletprayers Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 135 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,537 Content Per Day: 1.08 Reputation: 157 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/06/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/29/1956 Share Posted March 21, 2008 from sotphmfm I think I'll set up a user name for my son to make it easier for all. Sorry for the confusion applepi you got it. I'll be praying for all of you! But especially your son! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotphmfm Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 128 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/05/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/03/1975 Author Share Posted March 21, 2008 Thank You I am his mother. He saw that I was on WB one day and has been asking every since to get on. In light of the situation I think it would be good for him to get some outside advise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sotphmfm Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Junior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 128 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/05/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/03/1975 Author Share Posted March 21, 2008 I reckon ya'll are going to have to ejimakate (educate) me. What is *cd, bg, sdoc* ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Biblicist Posted March 21, 2008 Share Posted March 21, 2008 Things like: Mom wants the divorce and dad doesn't. It looks like mom has a boyfriend. Dad shouldn't have to pay child support if he is spending money on us. Specific details of why mom left dad. Dads opinion of the actions mom has taken. Should I take sides? Lil sotphmfm Are these things true? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarletprayers Posted March 21, 2008 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 135 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,537 Content Per Day: 1.08 Reputation: 157 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/06/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/29/1956 Share Posted March 21, 2008 Things like: Mom wants the divorce and dad doesn't. It looks like mom has a boyfriend. Dad shouldn't have to pay child support if he is spending money on us. Specific details of why mom left dad. Dads opinion of the actions mom has taken. Should I take sides? Lil sotphmfm Are these things true? So what if they are, why are they being told a an 11 year old, the only reason for doing something like that is to make the child choose sides. You paint the other parent bad and that somehow makes you good. I've been there, it should NEVER be done to a child, its cruel and selfish. When I was divorced, my ex did it with my kids, you know what happens..........when the kids get older the one doing it becomes the bad guy by default. I never spoke badly to my kids or in front of my kids about their father. Those problems where mine and his, the kids weren't responsible for, or capable of fixing them. As they got older they finally told him he needed to stop talking about me, that I never talked badly about him and they didn't want to hear it any more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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