Adjefrica

Several of you having been praying for my situation which was a split in our family. It has been a very hurtful ongoing process for a year. I managed to muzzle my mouth and stay out of it. The Lord heard our prayers and is slowing changing things around for us. There has been a partial healing. Now to pray that the healing will be complete. A hurtful truth was open to me however, that my son does not know the Lord. I am not sure how he fell through the cracks when he was raised exactly the same way as our 4 other children. Now my prayer request is for salvation for my son.

I have pierced ears. I also know the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal loving, forgiving Savior!

I've heard it said that love and hate are not opposite. The true opposite of love is apathy.

Happiness depends on happenings. Joy does not. Joy is being anchored in Christ and knowing that what ever storm is raging in your life , you will remain steadfast in Him. He takes pleasure in us when we come to depend on Him in all things, in every way, with our whole being, trusting, obeying, loving Him and loving others like we love ourselves.

When we pray sometimes the Lord answers immediately in the way that we want. Other times, we pray and there seems to be no answer. If you look at my post, "split in the family", you will see that I have been praying on a situation for 8 months. I know the Lord hears our prayers and I know that He desires His agenda (love, forgiveness, etc) but sometimes we just have to wait for the answer. He still gives us free will to make our own choices. Just like Jonah......He did NOT want to go to Nineveh. God let him make his own choice, but He never left his side, even when he was in the belly of a whale. You may be in a place that is uncomfortable right now but God is with you. He hears your prayers. He loves you. Hold on to those truths and just wait on Him. In today's "instant" everything, waiting is very difficult. Do not give up hope!

Again, thank-you for all your prayers. I am sure the Lord hears us and will answer in his time. I am continuing to pray, stay out of it, and give my sorrow to the Lord. I am trying not to entertain the "what-if" scenarios.

People say things to hurt us all the time and we also do the same thing, not even knowing that we have hurt someone. I hope by now you have let go of it, because it is not worth the effort of pain. Anyway, you will probably never run into this lady again, unless you live in a very small town. Keep you chin up and be happy God made you pretty!!!

Thank you all for your prayers concerning this matter. I know in the scope of problems in the world, this one is minor. However, my heart does hurt at times and I just turn to the Lord and ask him to bear yet another burden. I am so grateful to all of my brothers and sisters in Christ and grateful to the one whose yoke is easy and burden is light.

Thank-you Ron for your response. I will stay silent and keep praying unless God opens a door to communicate. The thing I do wonder is the thought that Kelly might not even know the Lord. We are to forgive each other over and over again as the Lord does for us. I personally feel terrible when I hold on to a grudge in my heart. I see her bitterness growing and growing the longer she holds on to this. I also know in the long run she is just hurting herself. Ron, would you please pray for our family? I would appreciate it.

I think its all in the willingness to forgive. Go to God. Let Him know your true feeling. Say something like this, I hate what he/she did, I do not like the hurt that this person caused, God if it were up to me I would not forgive them, but I know it is not up to me and because you love and forgave me, I give you this whole stinking situation. I am tired of it all anyway. If you want me to forgive, I confess, I cannot do it. I am willing however, to let You do it through me. Today, I give it to you and ask that you do what needs to be done. And, if you want me to love this person, I will be your pawn. Love and forgive them through me. Replace these awful feelings with your peace and love. Thank-you Lord for taking over this problem. I will no longer worry about it because it belongs to you now. Thank-you for the release. The words do not have to be exactly like that. Just be real with the Lord. He knows how you feel anyway. No sense in hiding it. You have nothing to loose but everything to gain......His peace! God bless you in this situation!

For the forty years I lived in Missouri, my spouse, children and siblings with their families would get together for holidays. It was wonderful. Mom and Dad were the hub of this wheel. There were many of us when we got together because there were five children, spouses and many children. Did we particularly like everything about each member? No, but we still had a common love for each other and would put our differences aside to fellowship with one another in Christ. It was wonderful! Now, my five children have grown and they have their own spouses and children. We have 23 all together when we have a gathering. Nearly 8 months ago a situation occurred that caused my daughter-in-law (Kelly) to separate herself from my daughter (Sarah) and her family. Now when we have a family gathering, Kelly and her family will not come if Sarah is there. Sarah has reached out to her numerous times to try and talk and remedy the situation, even apologizing and asking for forgiveness if she did anything wrong in handling this situation. We still do not know exactly why Kelly is mad at her. Kelly will not speak to her. Kelly is extremely sensitive and if I would speak to her, I may loose my son and grandchildren forever. I have never experienced anything like this and am hurting to see this split in our family. I have spent much time in prayer but do not know if there is something else I should be doing. If anyone has helpful suggestions I am open. My mom's advise is to keep out of it and keep praying. In the mean time I am seeing my whole family in sorrow over this split.