diakonos777

Well by being physical I meant sex of course.

In my opinion these two girls are probably just experimenting. When I was in high school just a few short years ago girls were always holding hands. And you say the one just had a boyfriend so they're just experimenting as young people do. Just pray they will "come to their senses" if they really are being physical. Wishing you luck. Dawn

HI I just wanted to let you know that I was 19 when my husband and I got married. We just celebrated our two year anniversary last month. Our situation is a little different (and no i wasn't pregnant I always have to throw that in because that's what people thought when we married), but if you truely love him and you seek God then I say go for it. Sure its hard at first, but if try as hard as you can at your marriage it will work out. We had people against us and we are proving them wrong. I dont love my husband any less just because I'm only 21 now then anyone who is 25 when they get married. You have to be mature and be able to compromise with eachother. Also I know times are different but 100 years ago or more people were getting married when they were teenagers so I really dont understand whey people are so concerened with the age thing now. Why not have someone there to support you when you are having a hard time in college or something like that. It all depends if your ready and you can handle the things that will be thrown at you and not walk away when the going gets tough. I will wish you good luck and Gods Love. Dawn

GodAlways I'm really sorry you are going through this. It kind of reminds me of my childhood. My stepdad was sort of this way. Not as harsh as your husband instead of jumping all over me he ignored me completely and it got to the point where all I did was stay in my room if he was home. He pretty much ignored my mom too. Thank God my older brothers and sister were out of the house by then. And I mean ignored too. I remember one time my mom was trying to say something to him and he walked right out of the room and left. On one valentines day i had my boyfriend over (now my husband) for supper before our school dance and when my stepdad found out he left and didnt come back until the next day i guess he stayed at a hotel somewhere. I hard on my mom huh? You know it wasnt just hard on my mom is was hard on me too. Seeing the way she was treated and then they way he treated me. He had children too. They were all boys and when they would come stay for the weekend he was all fun and games with them. I can remember sitting in my room listening to them all laugh and i was crying cuz i wanted to have fun with them but of course i was left out. I guess what i'm saying is that you have to think of your children they pick up on stuff and they are going to know how you are being treated and how they are being treated whether your children with him are being treated better then your son they will know. And your daughter will think its ok to be treated that way by her husband when she is married and your son might think its ok to treat his wife that way as well. My mom finally got out of this relationship and I had to go through my parents divorce and then my mom and stepdads but i was so happy to have my mom leave him it was so awesome. I know divorce is sad and is hard on the kids but you know what living this way in the end will be way harder on the kids. just my two cents but I'm praying you will make the right decision. Dawn

Well I guess I"ll "defend" myself? After some thinking the only two reasons I guess that I don't always go to church is that 1) I work nights and I find it hard to get up anytime before noon on any day 2) I've been going to church all my life and yes sometimes it's over and over ok 3) some of the people there are very judgemental considering the fact that the pastor is my father in law so its not the pastor I have a problem with its some of the people in the congergation. When my hubby and I got married they all thought right away that I was pregnant and we had to cuz we were both very young.(It's been two years almost and if I'm pregnant than wow what a long pregnancy) I guess none of them seemed to think it was because we loved eachother. wow go figure I just learned something about myself. huh well what do you know. Thanks for making me think Nebula. So anyways I guess its a combo of all those things. We could find another church but I do love my father in law and the way he preaches he is a very smart and wise man. So I wouldnt feel comfortable in any other church. And I really dont think I believe any less than my husband does. I strongly believe in Jesus and what the bible teaches.

Hi I'm not new here but I never post anything because I am shy and I'm afraid of the backlash that I could get here. Anyways a queston that I have is this. My husband and I were just debating this and and I thought it would be great to have you all tell me what you think. I wanted to put it in contrversioal but I couldn't. So here goes....My husband is the son of a Lutheran pastor and was brought up to go to church every Sunday and I was also brought up that way as well at least by my mom. After my husband and I have gotten married I have become lazy in going to church (not that I believe any less than him) but his point is that he doesnt believe people who say they believe and are just to lazy to devote one hour out of the week to God. And he compares their "beliefs" to a sin that a normal person would commit like adultary. He says that if he has committed adultary and has asked Jesus for forgiviness and after repenting is it considered a sin??? He has come to the piont of some people not wanting to hear the word of God, they would much rather hear themselves and not some boring man up on an alter telling them what not to do. And I have come to the point that just becuase I dont go to church all the time, doesnt mean I dont believe any less than him. For example I do read the Bible, I pray, and I do spend a lot of my time a lot of scriptures out on this website. So am I being lazy in the eyes of God?