sierra21

I'm taking a World Religions course in university and the other day we were discussing Judaism and the old testament. The prof went on to talk about Genesis and the story of adam and eve, and Noah's ark. He stated that most Christians consider these stories to be symbolic not literal. This bothered me because I have always believed the Bible to be literal as per more than a few verses. When I raised my hand and told him so, he said that he never met any Christian or Jewish scholars who took these stories literally. I felt about 2 inches tall because he basically looked at me like I was an idiot for "actually" believing these stories. So i guess I was just wondering if other Christians believed the creation stories to be literal or symbolic?

I didn't say that I didn't buy the fact that fornication is a sin and that you must never do this. What I don't buy is that our society today is any worse than other societies in the past- in terms of premarital sex. Quite right...my apologies! It's all good.

So my fiance and I talked about this again last night. We both came to the agreement that we both do not have a problem with social drinking, it is not a sin according to the Bible, and we would need to find some way to ensure that no one abused alcohol at the wedding. So what we're thinking is just having wine, and then an assortment of tasty non-alcoholic drinks like punch, sparkling juice, and pop. This way the people who would like to have wine when we toast can, or they can also choose a non-alcoholic beverage...and no one can really complain either way. We're not big drinkers which is why we don't want to have a bar. Also somehow I think if we had a bar it would be more likely that people would over-consume? I doubt that anyone will since it will be mostly family, a few friends...and none of them ever really get drunk. But i deffinitly don't want my wedding ruined by a closet drinker

AWESOME! I'm so happy for you! Sierra

I've had quite a few relationships in my 21 years, but what I found is that although the wonderful "newness" and "infatuation" stages are amazing, they also fade. You're never going to find that woman that makes you crazy happy, never upset, and in a nutshell, perfect for you in any and every way. Reality is that there is no perfect woman. Love is an emotion and a feeling, not an existence. When you find the person you are meant to be with you may be frightened by this thought, but in a way it is comforting because it is faith. You know that deep down you love that person, and even though at the moment you aren't a waterfall of emotion, its still there, and it always will be. I'm praying for you. sierra

I didn't say that I didn't buy the fact that fornication is a sin and that you must never do this. What I don't buy is that our society today is any worse than other societies in the past- in terms of premarital sex.

My fiances family has said that they do not want alcohol at the wedding. They haven't given a real reason other than the fact that they're Christain and they have chosen not to drink. I just don't understand why their choices must dictate the choices of others. I would really like to have wine and a bar, as well as offering some non-alcoholic options (punch, pop, etc.). I just wish that I wouldn't have to worry that someone will be offended and blah blah blah! I want everyone to have a great time although this seems impossible!

Through your rationalization, you have become smarter than God. When we as a society were doing the sex and marriage thing His way, people were staying married. Now, that we are doing them your way, we are pushing the 50% divorce rate. You need to go back and study God's establishment of blood covenants. The first time a woman has sex, she is entering into a blood covenant with the man. God ordained this covenant to be made and held for life. Is marriage about sex. If you will look at the Biblical marriage principal, sexual pleasure was not the top of the list. When exactly was society doing things the "right way"? Can you give me dates because I really dont buy this.

I dunno as much as I try to stop myself from thinking that speaking in tongues is weird, I still think it. I've only seen someone do it once and it freaked me out. I think I have a good relationship with Jesus yet, when people go kinda weird in church it creeps me out. I know deep down that I will never take it to that extreme (although I have been brought to tears once, but thats a whole other story). I don't know, I'm not trying to offend anyone, just saying that I feel uncomfortable around the extremes.

Umm i do not consider my family as "sinners" because they drink. We are a good christian family and just because we choose to have a social drink does not make us any less.

Sometimes I think God is talking to me...but it's really just me telling myself what I need to do. Maybe that's how it works for some people...God puts the thought into your head...its not as blatant as we think?

This advice is all good...but is there anyone out there who had to deal with the same problem?? Any more ideas for how to make everyone happy??

Yes i have thought about this

Yeah we thought of that too...but I guess my argument is that people who don't drink have made that decision, they can make the decision to not drink regardless of whether of not alcohol is present. Now if we dont have any alcohol, those who would like a drink arent given any decision at all. Is that really fair?

Ok, I have a bit of a problem. My fiance and I are getting married next summer (YAY!)- but our families are conflicted in terms of alcohol. His family does not drink and alcohol whatsoever, and my family likes to have wine or a few cocktails SOCIALLY. Now we don't know what to do about the wedding. He's worried that if we have alcohol at the wedding his family will be offended, and I'm worried that if we don't have alcohol at the wedding my whole family will think we're cheap. We both drink socially, and while I completely disagree with getting drunk, I have no problem with people have a few at family gatherings, parties, etc. So what do we do? Is there any comprimise that we could come to? HELP!

I think eventually internet dating is going to become "normal". I think it's a whole new way to meet people, and just because you aren't talking to them face to face doesnt mean a thing. Yes, it allows a new level of anonymity, but YOU HAVE NO IDEA who your neighbour REALLY is, or what your new friend at church REALLY DOES on their spare time. Life is unpredictable and risky...I guess you can make the choice to stay away from internet dating sites...but it may work for others so why bash it?

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HI Nevella, I tried a few dating sites. Mostly because I just didn't have anywhere else to meet men. I tried a few different ones but eventually settled with e-harmony. This site is AMAZING. The first guy I met off there was my now-fiance and it was awesome. They have you do a bunch of personality quizzes and set you up with someone that you are most compatible. They take into account your religious and moral values. I really recommend that you try this site. If anything the compatibility profile that they give you is insightful in your search for the right guy. God Bless! Sierra

I've noticed this as well

OK question- do you mean like having a dance (social event) within church- or dancing while singing in worship (as in jumping, lifting your hands)? sierra

i love ur response! i dont know if this is an appropriate request or not (most likely isnt but i will ask anyways)...could u adress the awkwardness factor of the first night? GOOD QUESTION!! ANY FURTHER ADVICE ALL YOU WONDERFUL MARRIED MEMBERS??? :-) Awesome advice so far! THanks!

I was just thinking...what happens if you were raped? Is your virginity truly lost? (this didn't happen to me I was just thinking about it.)

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awesome comparison tah. sierra

So the other day I was in Church...it was really awesome...the music was so great and I was just singing my heart out and praying to the Lord....asking for forgiveness for a variety of things and just thanking him for the wonderful life he's given me and the amazing family and friends he's given me and suddenly I felt really overwhelmed...my heart felt really full and I just about started to cry (I did have tears in my eyes, but I didnt sob or anything like that). now I think I just had a really amazing experience with God...but what does this mean for me? sierra