Guest Rootabagga Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 I have a little bit of a problem I would like some input on. Over the weekend I had my ex- sister in laws kids. Every night I have a "girl talk" time with the kids, if others want to join they can, and something came up. I took the child aside and we talked alone for her sake, she was very scared to talk. She proceeded to tell me that she was abused last summer by her mothers boyfriends friend. I asked her if she told anyone else and she said yes, her mom but mom did nothing. Now where I work in a school setting and hold a Human Services degree, I am by law a mandated reporter. My question is should I go to the parent first or to the law? The mother is not in contact with the boyfriend anymore thus there is no contact with the accussed man. I am planning on calling DHS tommorrow but was curious as to weither I need to talk to the mother. I have never had to make a report where the parent/gaurdian is NOT the accussed. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Kate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adstar Posted August 10, 2004 Group: Royal Member Followers: 12 Topic Count: 75 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,399 Content Per Day: 0.43 Reputation: 1,307 Days Won: 1 Joined: 09/01/2002 Status: Offline Share Posted August 10, 2004 I can only tell you what my conscience is telling me. Go and call the authorities because that "friend" is still out there right now, what child does he have access to now ?????? All praise the Ancient of Days Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittyjo Posted August 10, 2004 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 53 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 523 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/11/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted August 10, 2004 I agree with Adstar!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest godsmartian Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 I agree with the first two. If the mom knew and did nothing about it then it is you who has to say something. The mom had her chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyR Posted August 11, 2004 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 41 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/31/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1982 Share Posted August 11, 2004 Root, I know how difficult it is to be in a situation like this, all too well. You need to report it to the authorities. We are to protect the little Children that God has gifted to us. Think of how many more children the friend has possibly abused. You may create some family friction with this but we will all be praying you, your family, and the young girl through!! God Bless You!! Amy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blessed2 Posted August 12, 2004 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 0 Topics Per Day: 0 Content Count: 16 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/27/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted August 12, 2004 GO TO THE ATHORITIES,AND GO QUICKLY. I KNOW FAR TOO MANY WOMEN THAT HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED BY FAMILY MEMBERS OR ACQUAINTANCES AS CHILDREN,THAT HAVE KEPT THE SECRETOF BEING ABUSED FOR MANY YEARS,AFRAID AND FEELING VERY ASHAMED TO TELL ANYONE. THANK GOD THIS CHILD FOUND YOU TO OPEN UP TO AND SHARE THIS WITH. WE SUPPORT YOU SIS. I WILL PRAY FOR ALL. PEACE TO YOU SIS, blessed2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Rootabagga Posted August 20, 2004 Share Posted August 20, 2004 I have made the report to CPS. I have yet to hear anything from my ex- sister-in-law. I am not going to just come out and ask her about it, because then she will know it was me that reported it. I'm not afraid to let her know it was me but if she were to find that out then she wouldn't allow contact with my neice if she is upset by it. The person doing the reporting can not get information regarding the case, meaning I can't call and see what is going on with it, so I have to wait and see. Keep them in prayer please, The 8 year old's name is Shirley and the mothers name is Ruth. In His Love, Kate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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