Is this a reason for divorce?

[missjenny]

To all above who have reasoned in their minds the right and or wrong of divorce-

God our Father and Jesus Christ The Son by the testimony of The Holy Spirit hates sin and hates divorce. Therefore you cannot have one and add to it the other and come out of it with a better result! At the marriage of Church and Christ do you wish for the possibility of divorce? Do you read 1Cor 13 and are able to go away with divorce as possible? There are higher places to go with God than the me, myself and I and need of release from suffering! The imitation of Christ Jesus to Love unto the destruction of self is the path of life as He has so illumined this path to us who are willing to see.

Do not fear this path for the greatest promise in all of God's Word is our strength

John 16:31-3331 Jesus answered them, "Do you now believe? 32 Indeed the hour is coming, yes, has now come, that you will be scattered, each to his own, and will leave Me alone. And yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me. 33 These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world."

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If we just walk in the light of His presence within us we can do all things whatsoever is in our lives given us to do having this mind

Phil 4:13

13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

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Prov 18:24

24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,

But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

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When all else is against you and Christ's presence is all that remains the closeness - you will not be able to tell where you begin and He ends!

This is what I pray for all the Family of God in these "the last days". Do we not burn in our hearts for the Glory due our Lord?

Love Steven

I understand your concern. However, I am wondering how evil you consider porn to be??? IT is NOT just a problem to just live with until the addict gets over it...however long it takes. SO< how much evil should a wife put up with?? How much damage should happen before she says enough is enough??? It is not just a trial that causes a suffering that one selfishly wants to be released from.

Therefore, beware those who preach righteousness without understanding. Job preached righteousness...however, he went thru what he did because he did it with NO understanding of what the people who he was preaching to were going thru. He went on hearsay and stayed a distance from those who he preached too. Job 42:1-3 Righteousness without love (love hates evil) is nothing. 1 Cor. 13:1-3

[sheya joie]

Just a reminder (again) - this thread is from May 2005, and the lady who posted it last visited Worthy the day after she posted it. So I doubt if she will see our advice.

[Guest man]

Just a reminder (again) - this thread is from May 2005, and the lady who posted it last visited Worthy the day after she posted it. So I doubt if she will see your advice.

I was thinking the same thing also.

But I think it's a good thing to discuss this. The OP may be dated, but there are others who are in similar situations.

Just a thought.

[sheya joie]

Just a reminder (again) - this thread is from May 2005, and the lady who posted it last visited Worthy the day after she posted it. So I doubt if she will see your advice.

I was thinking the same thing also.

But I think it's a good thing to discuss this. The OP may be dated, but there are others who are in similar situations.

Just a thought.

True - but we also already have many many many threads here at Worthy on the divorce and remarriage topic - lots of redundancy.

[enoob57]

I understand your concern. However, I am wondering how evil you consider porn to be??? IT is NOT just a problem to just live with until the addict gets over it...however long it takes. SO< how much evil should a wife put up with?? How much damage should happen before she says enough is enough??? It is not just a trial that causes a suffering that one selfishly wants to be released from.

Therefore, beware those who preach righteousness without understanding. Job preached righteousness...however, he went thru what he did because he did it with NO understanding of what the people who he was preaching to were going thru. He went on hearsay and stayed a distance from those who he preached too. Job 42:1-3 Righteousness without love (love hates evil) is nothing. 1 Cor. 13:1-3

However we rank sin: this not so bad, this is bad, this is simply intolerable this truth God reveals

James 2:10-13

10 For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all. 11 For He who said, "Do not commit adultery," also said, "Do not murder." Now if you do not commit adultery, but you do murder, you have become a transgressor of the law. 12 So speak and so do as those who will be judged by the law of liberty. 13 For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.

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one infraction of the perfection that is in Christ and we are guilty of all infractions!

So if we who are guilty of all sin every time we sin, where do we think we have the ability to judge others?

Matt 7:1-2

7 "Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.

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how much evil should a wife put up with

I will let the most vile sinner setting in heaven with the redeemed answer that for you! So forgive me I believe I might be that person- so I will tell you this there are sorrows greater than words are built for. I have known porn, may My Father forgive me my shame! I have seen and done things, some, when thought of bring anguish and tears immediately as now! I know the ends of many of the roads of sin and everyone there are people whom need to know that they can be separated from the death that saturates their lives and that they can know the Love of God that brings life to dead things. So as you have thought of me-- so think again. For until these Words were spoken

Luke 23:34

4 Then Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do."

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all mankind from the first to the last were bound for hell. Now these Word's the Son spoke to the Father do you suppose He also included the vile, lover of lust, man you speak of- I tell that it was!

I will also tell you this if Jesus was this way in His own body...

John 8:3-12

Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, 4 they said to Him, "Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. 5 Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?" 6 This they said, testing Him, that they might have something of which to accuse Him. But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, as though He did not hear.

7 So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, "He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first." 8 And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. 9 Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. 10 When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, "Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?"

11 She said, "No one, Lord."

And Jesus said to her, "Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more."

12 Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, "I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life."

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.....He will be that way in ours bodies- IF He lives within it!

Luke 6:37-38

37 "Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you."

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I know the sin of immorality is evil and like vomit of the most foul kind, its stench reaches all who are around it, but you must know that life came before sin and one must always separate the sin and the possible life that God could place into the sinner. If you could examine my life now you would think that I was one of the most moral men you have ever met one who holds the greatest respect of women and with tears of joy that is unspeakable to me- I AM! Love Steven

[Massorite]

I grew up with an abusive Father...and it has strongly, strongly affected my life. Please let NO one tell you that having an abusive father is better then having none at all...because in your case this is what it is. Porn is abusive, plain and simple...and anyone saying otherwise is ignorant of it. Porn is also evil....and we are to hate evil and cling to what is good.

Gal.5:19-21

God of course wants us to stay married...OF COURSE...but not at all costs. (destructive costs) God would never put rules/mandates above the welfare of people.

I was also in an abusive marriage where my husband was a voyour. It was something in itself that grew to where he became disrespectful of me, which lead to verbal disrespect, then emotional and sexual....besetting sin grows like cancer.

The church I was involved with, which was my own parents church as well, demanded that I go back to my husband after I left the situation....because the mandate about not leaving your husband and so forth was so formost in their mind that they didn't take into account what I was trying to tell them about what was going on within the marriage. Subsequently I was shunned.

Never allow abuse. Never allow your children to learn that it is ok to allow abuse/evil.

Another poster said something about giving him a "get help or else"....this is very, very important!!! Please do it.

You go missjenny.

[Massorite]

Just a reminder (again) - this thread is from May 2005, and the lady who posted it last visited Worthy the day after she posted it. So I doubt if she will see our advice.

Now that is a killer revelation.