Kalashnikova Posted February 22, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 228 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/05/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted February 22, 2006 I broke up with a man 5 years ago and still can't get over him. Is this unusual? What is the longest time it took you to get over a broken relationship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InternalFlame Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 77 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 422 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/30/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/24/1985 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I would have to say that it really depends on the situation, and your personality. For example, my first boyfriend only lasted a few months and though it hurt a lot, it took me about a month to get over him. My last relationship lasted a year and a half and it took me a good four months to completely get over it. The only reason I was able to get over it at all is because I knew that God's will was being done...and I trusted Him to bring me to the right man. Have you really given this to God? Do you trust Him to bring you to the one you are meant for...I mean, really trust? If you have, yet you still feel this, then perhaps He is trying to tell you something about that relationship that is still not settled... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 733 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 3,017 Content Per Day: 0.43 Reputation: 128 Days Won: 1 Joined: 01/01/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/09/1966 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I was in a relationship with someone I truly loved deeply. I knew God wanted me out of that relationship and I agonized over it! I didn't know how on earth I could shut off those feelings. God asked me if I loved Him more than I loved her. Naturally, I did/do, so I ended it. It hurt so badly I felt it physically. I was as big a wreck as I had ever been in in my life. My friends were really scared for me. After one week of feeling sorry for myself and grieving, I desperately turned to God and told Him that I knew if I didn't give the situation over to Him, I would never heal from this. Not with the way my heart works. Left to my own way, it would years before I could go a single day without thinking about her. I was determined to lay it at God's feet and absolutely TRUST Him with it... and me. It wasn't easy, but I held to it and one month later, just one month, God had healed me completely and I was set free from the agony and torture that I put myself through over it. I walked away from it whole, healed and healthy in every way... not to mention so much wiser. I'm convinced that this is the only way to heal from a broken heart. But for a broken heart to be healed, God has to be given all of the pieces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
50_Cent's_dog Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 18 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 377 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/24/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/31/1977 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I broke up with a man 5 years ago and still can't get over him. Is this unusual? What is the longest time it took you to get over a broken relationship? I have not had a girlfriend since I was 15 years old. Now I am 29 years old. I am serious too. Life gets lonely but God promised me Psalm 128. Until then I gotta quit falling in love with women that are married. That is what really hurts liking a woman that is already taken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marnie Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 811 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 7,338 Content Per Day: 1.08 Reputation: 76 Days Won: 2 Joined: 10/06/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted February 23, 2006 I dont know if you ever "get over" a broken relationship with someone you truly loved, regardless of why it ended. I think the best one can do is pick up and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RebekahDavid Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 320 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 3,166 Content Per Day: 0.45 Reputation: 23 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/31/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted February 23, 2006 I totally agree with Keith. The only way to heal is to give all the pieces of your heart and this situation to the Lord. Love your sister in Christ, Rebekah David Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iryssa Posted February 23, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 117 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3,860 Content Per Day: 0.56 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/10/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/13/1984 Share Posted February 23, 2006 *nods* Marnie, I think you hit the nail on the head... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalashnikova Posted February 25, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 228 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/05/2005 Status: Offline Author Share Posted February 25, 2006 Yes, I did. Thank you for your kind words. I would have to say that it really depends on the situation, and your personality. For example, my first boyfriend only lasted a few months and though it hurt a lot, it took me about a month to get over him. My last relationship lasted a year and a half and it took me a good four months to completely get over it. The only reason I was able to get over it at all is because I knew that God's will was being done...and I trusted Him to bring me to the right man. Have you really given this to God? Do you trust Him to bring you to the one you are meant for...I mean, really trust? If you have, yet you still feel this, then perhaps He is trying to tell you something about that relationship that is still not settled... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalashnikova Posted February 25, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 228 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/05/2005 Status: Offline Author Share Posted February 25, 2006 Thank you. I was in a relationship with someone I truly loved deeply. I knew God wanted me out of that relationship and I agonized over it! I didn't know how on earth I could shut off those feelings. God asked me if I loved Him more than I loved her. Naturally, I did/do, so I ended it. It hurt so badly I felt it physically. I was as big a wreck as I had ever been in in my life. My friends were really scared for me. After one week of feeling sorry for myself and grieving, I desperately turned to God and told Him that I knew if I didn't give the situation over to Him, I would never heal from this. Not with the way my heart works. Left to my own way, it would years before I could go a single day without thinking about her. I was determined to lay it at God's feet and absolutely TRUST Him with it... and me. It wasn't easy, but I held to it and one month later, just one month, God had healed me completely and I was set free from the agony and torture that I put myself through over it. I walked away from it whole, healed and healthy in every way... not to mention so much wiser. I'm convinced that this is the only way to heal from a broken heart. But for a broken heart to be healed, God has to be given all of the pieces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalashnikova Posted February 26, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 228 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/05/2005 Status: Offline Author Share Posted February 26, 2006 I'm 30. The last time a went out was 6 years ago. I don't fall in love with married people. I broke up with a man 5 years ago and still can't get over him. Is this unusual? What is the longest time it took you to get over a broken relationship? I have not had a girlfriend since I was 15 years old. Now I am 29 years old. I am serious too. Life gets lonely but God promised me Psalm 128. Until then I gotta quit falling in love with women that are married. That is what really hurts liking a woman that is already taken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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