browneyedgirl2 Posted January 20, 2009 Group: Junior Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 117 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/16/2008 Status: Offline Share Posted January 20, 2009 (edited) A friend of mine sent me this quesion to ask here. She said she was in a discussion with other Christian singles recently and the subject of kissing came up. One person stated he felt kissing before marriage was as wrong as premarital sex. What do you think about it? I agree with my friend that Kissing is just a way for a dating man and woman to show affection to each other. Now we agree that you have to be careful not to put yourself into a situation where kissing leads to other things. But I'm not talking about going that far. I'm interested in your thoughts. We also agree that kissing on a first date with a stranger is not a good idea, but it it's someone that you've known a long time there isn't anything wrong with it...Thanks. Edited January 20, 2009 by browneyedgirl2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mead Posted January 20, 2009 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 1 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 871 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 17 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/28/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted January 20, 2009 I think if two people are rooted in their walk with Christ, nothing wrong with it to an extent. If either feels the need for more contact than that, they need to exercise self control and realize that in their case it won't be because of lust, imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rick-Parker Posted January 20, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 200 Topics Per Day: 0.23 Content Count: 4,272 Content Per Day: 4.88 Reputation: 1,855 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/17/2021 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/03/1955 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Kissing is OK. Making out is another. A kiss brings affection, making out brings lust. Lust is a sin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrowfromgod Posted January 20, 2009 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 376 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/03/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1962 Share Posted January 20, 2009 ah yes ,,, the date,,, the food ,,,the lovley lady ,,, and yes the kiss ,,, i took my wife out to look at the stars (before we were married )and we would point out stuff and play the shooting star game (askin each other what we wished for) hoping it was (i wish we could get married ) man you take me back 14 years browney and kissing hehehe ,,, i guess its how ya see it ,,, a simple kiss of love ,,,acceptence ,,, a glad your with me kiss i dont see as a problem ,,, but a full contact body grab with all the rubbing ect... (you know what i mean ) ummm i would have to say (only by my experience ) that i never really kissed a woman like that if i wasnt trying to see just how far i could go... maybe its just me (some how i doubt it) ,,, ppl know if they should stop ,,, love in christ arrow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
riel Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 179 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/06/2009 Status: Offline Share Posted January 21, 2009 I saw a Christian movie once about two engaged people who made the choices to wait until after they were married for their first kiss. It started me wondering about whether premarital kissing was right or wrong. A kiss on the lips though may lead to more than just a kiss. Probably the best thing to do would be not to do anything that could start a "fire." However, one can always make it a matter of prayer if in doubt. riel (reborn into eternal life) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
browneyedgirl2 Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Junior Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 117 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/16/2008 Status: Offline Author Share Posted January 21, 2009 Thank you all for your responses. I agree that kissing can lead to other things and quickly if it is allowed to. I think it is a sweet way for a couple to show affection to each other, but I think it has to be with caution... I realize that passion can flair quickly when you really love someone... GOD bless you each one... riel, I love your username. Great choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColleenLovesMischief Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,791 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 21 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/21/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/13/1977 Share Posted January 21, 2009 The best rule would be don't date anyone you wouldn't marry. To know if you would marry them become friends first. Dating has become way too casual. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blien Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 346 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 3,050 Content Per Day: 0.50 Reputation: 46 Days Won: 3 Joined: 10/02/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/26/1982 Share Posted January 21, 2009 The best rule would be don't date anyone you wouldn't marry. To know if you would marry them become friends first. Dating has become way too casual. Maybe I'm just inexperienced here but isn't the reason why you date someone to know if you would like them as a spouse? If you see the person only as a friend no kissing whatsoever then how is it you can find out? The only reason why I would kiss would be to confirm my love for that person physically. I owuld want that person to know that I passionately love and want them so that they dont go flocking off to another person.. ButI would never let myself go beyond kissing into other things married couples do. I dont think it possible to know someone as a potential mate by making them yoru friend first? I dont know, what do you think? Just curious.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColleenLovesMischief Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,791 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 21 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/21/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/13/1977 Share Posted January 21, 2009 The best rule would be don't date anyone you wouldn't marry. To know if you would marry them become friends first. Dating has become way too casual. Maybe I'm just inexperienced here but isn't the reason why you date someone to know if you would like them as a spouse? If you see the person only as a friend no kissing whatsoever then how is it you can find out? The only reason why I would kiss would be to confirm my love for that person physically. I owuld want that person to know that I passionately love and want them so that they dont go flocking off to another person.. ButI would never let myself go beyond kissing into other things married couples do. I dont think it possible to know someone as a potential mate by making them yoru friend first? I dont know, what do you think? Just curious.. You should be friends before you begin dating. That friendship initially is very very important if you plan to build a solid relationship. Dating is to determine their suitability for marriage. Friendship is a must first to do it right. As I said before people have become too casual about all of this. Myself heavily included. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blien Posted January 21, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 346 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 3,050 Content Per Day: 0.50 Reputation: 46 Days Won: 3 Joined: 10/02/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/26/1982 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Gotcha! Now it makes sense! Yes I totally agree!! Friend first then on to dating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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