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It's one of the devil's tools. Prayer and reading the word is always good answers. I know for me personally in the same situation, I have talked to my close christian friends about what is going on. We have all been there. Just know the devil is trying to bring you down.

Ok ty. I guess that was my biggest worry that he truly loved this girl and I was preventing them from being happy. And you are dead-on about what you have said here. I AM afraid of going out into the unknown, being alone with a child and maybe a chance to never be married, which is what I've always hoped for ever since I was a little girl. I thank you for your advice and I am picking that bible up again and have been reading since last week. Much appreciation to you all. I guess I will now leave the rest of this up to God. Good for you. If you do choose to go into the unknown make sure that is what God wants for you. If that is what he wants everything will work just fine. It's awesome that you have taken the advice on here. People gave you fantastic advice. Your in my prayers.

No he hasn't implied it. But however, maybe he doesn't know which one of us he truly loves. It's possible that he realized that it's her that he loves. I mean everything she does wrong he says it's someone elses fault, and any advice she gives for our baby he thinks is the advice we should use. He wants me to be good friends with her. He always asks me stuff like oh so you two have so much in common huh? I have tried to be her friend, believe me but she is 18 and i am 25 and it is always so awkward because when we are together most of his attention is on her. Her family invited us to an early christmas party today. Right when my fiance and I pulled up, first her brother came out (who he claims to be good friends with) to say hi to him at his window. Well they were talking and next thing I know the girl comes out of the house and the moment she opened the door and came out his focus went from her brother to her. he could not stop staring at her, so what came up next in my mind was "wow, that's got to be love". Funny thing though, is to me she does not seem at all interested in him if she ever was. Though I've known a lot of stories that with persistence, a man can bring that back with a woman. I had to get something from home real quick so I told him I would go it's not a far distance. I said you can stay here, they were all there but he persisted to go with me. So you see? isn't it quite confusing? I mean if he's in love with her shouldn't he try to stay there Without Me? Im willing to let him go if he really does love her. Then again her on and off boyfriend was there so maybe that's why he wouldn't stay. Like I said... I just don't know. I'm sorry if this is so much but it's wearing on my heart and mind and part of me just wants to give up. If i even mention her name now he'll say no more talking about that (name) and a cussword. What is your motivation in posting this? Do you just need someone to understand? Are you looking for someone to tell you this guy doesn't love you? Are you looking for someone to tell you if you stay with this guy, God will magically make this guy love you? You have received great advice from everyone on here and it appears as if that is not enough for you. It appears as if this guy doesn't love you and is infuated with this girl. He is not in love with her. There is a big difference between love and infuation. I suggest you find a way to figure out the difference. The best way to figure out the difference is to read the gospels. Study Jesus lifestyle, to truly understand what love is. I want to also say that I can't understand what you are going through. You are a mother who might have to make a decision to go into the unknown. Living alone and with a child. You must be worried as to how that will work. As others have said you need to stop living this sinful life and start making some tough decisions. Everything will be much easier if you start reading your bible. The only reason I say that is because almost everyone on here has to do this. When you don't read your bible and pray you are flirting with disaster.

It's sad when the unbelieving media knows that this so called man of God is crazy.

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Sorry not real sure how to set up a link. But here's the story from Fox news. "A priest in Britain is under fire Monday for advising his congregation to shoplift in tough economic times, the Daily Mail reports. Father Tim Jones, a 41-year-old clergyman at St. Lawrence Church in York, England, said that shoplifting

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I don't even know what goes on during church on Wednesday. I've thought about going on occasions but have no idea what happens. Do your churches have a sermon?

I've had some bad experiences the closer I have gotten involved in a church. I'm saying this because it may cause me to have a negative outlook on churches. I have seen a little of what you are discussing. I've seen it more outside of church though. I had Christians come into my work and act like no Christian should. These weren't one time incidents. I think there are a lot of factors that go into why some Christians act cold in or outside of a church.

To me it is about seeking. People don't seek Jesus in the USA. When Jesus does these miracles, these people are openly seeking him. Americans tend to think they know it all so they don't seek out Jesus.

There seems to be a lot of lukewarm Christians around these days. People don't understand the God they supposedly serve. They only see one side of him. The God that forgives everything regardless of anything. They are forgiven and don't need to do anything because well they are forgiven. These people don't fear God because they don't know him. They only know one thing about him. I beleive this is the cause of preaching only of God's grace. Not preaching about God's holiness, rightousness and his hate for sin.

Well here's the thing. he seems like he's trying his best to respect me, I mean he makes sure I'm with him or someone else is when he's around her. But what I don't get is if it is just lust, why all the nervousness when he sees her? Why does he care about her affairs or when something goes wrong with her? (more than when her siblings or parents have problems) Why does he still care about when she's choosing to move out of her parents house? it's these little things that get me bugging. I imagine that a guy who lusts, would only care about getting something, but it seems like more though they have never dated... I guess i'm just gonna keep praying about this as much as I can. As BFP said there seems to be a trust issue here. Trust is extremely important in a relationship. You don't trust him and that's a big issue. The other problem is that if he is just being a friend in this situation, it seems like this could be an issue of you want a sensitive and caring husband but you only want him to treat you that way and nobody else. I could be way off but when you don't have all the details I guess that can happen. Sorry if I am way off base.

When people disregard this scripture I always think these people are putting God to the test. It reminds me of a scripture as to why this is a bad idea. Judges 11:30-40 And Jephthah made a vow to the Lord: "If you give the Ammonites into my hands, whatever comes out of the door of my house to me when I return in triumph from the Ammonites will be the Lord's, and I will sacrifice it as a burnt offering." Then Jephthah went over to fight the Ammonites, and the Lord gave them into his hands. He devastated twenty towns from Aroer to the vicinity of Minnith, as far as Abel Keramim. Thus Israel subdued Ammon. When Jephthah returned to his home in Mizpah, who should come out to meet him but his daughter, dancing to the sound of tambourines! She was an only child. Except for her he had neither son or daughter. When he saw her, he tore his clothes and cried, "Oh! My daughter! You have made me miserable and wretched, because I have made a vow to the Lord that I cannot break." "My father," she replied, "you have given your word to the Lord. Do to me just as you promised, now that the Lord has avenged you of your enemies, the Ammonites. But grant me this on request," she said. "Give me two months to roam the hills and weep with my friends, because I will never marry." "You may go," he said. And he let her go for two months. She and the girls wnet into the hills and wept because she would never marry. After the two months, she returned to her father and he did to her as he had vowed. And she was a virgin. From this comes the Israelite custom that each year the young women of Israel go out for four days to commemorate the daughter of Jephthah the Gileadite.

It depends on what your temptations are. If seeing lustful things in a movie causes you to sin then yes. Each person will be different and have different things that are temptations. I've previously posted on here that it is not a sin to see a sin. My general answer for that question is no.

It's not a good idea. By the way you can't save anyone. God may use you to save a person. Only God has the power to save people. Pray for God's will in your life. I am single and it is very difficult at times. But we should desire God's will for our lives. His will could be for you to be single the rest of your life or be married. Don't comprimise or try to make a deal with God. Trust his will in your life.

Just like in his books, Ray Comfort is right on the money and has tremendous wisdom regarding this subject.

I think that denominations really hurt the gospel and fellowship. The new testament constantly talks about unity. When you see a united church it does great things. How much greater would it be if more then one church could be united? I've seen churches of different denominations unite and do special things. Unfortunately this is not the norm. The norm is to bash other denominations. I've struggled trying to find a church because of this. Most churches I have been to care more about numbers then anything else.

While the inconsistancy of understanding is used by those who will not believe as one reson for it, I do not see it as a major stumbling block. Most Christians do not even know why the different denominations exist, or what their differences are. And the unsaved really don't know. All they see is a church building and they all look alike. I do believe that the different denominational splits, the splitting up of the body of CHRIST, is a detriment to the spread of the gospel. I live in a little town where each church (there are about 6 of them) has just enough people to survive. If all of these peope were under one roof and putting thier time and effort into sharing the gopel and helping the poor and widowed, then they would be a force that couldn't be stopped. But, paying 6 pastors, providing housing for 6 families, maintaining 6 buildings, and generally wasting all their money on redundancy results in nothing being done except Sunday morning services and a few weekday meetings. Churches surviving just to survive is the real damage of dividing the body into different denominations. Well said.

Amen.

I'm curious about what you are saying about the women's lib movement. Please explain. I know that I open doors for everyone. There have been some situations that have discouraged me from doing it though. Sometimes women think guys do it because they are hitting on the woman. One other thing I have seen is a women wait for a guy to open the door for her. And when I say wait, I mean she waited for the guy to walk 20 feet before she would go in. Maybe I'm wrong but that seemed silly to me.

asecretchord if you like Abraham and his faith just wait until you get to Joseph. I want to post more but I will wait until you read about him. You are encouraging me by you reading the bible and asking about the things you don't understand. Very impressive. Keep up the good work and I hope this is a rewarding experience for you reading through the bible.

So you don't want free will? God created us with free will and I don't know how he could make us perfect and give us free will. Only Jesus could fulfill that. That is why he is our saviour.

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Good book I think you should read "Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships." by Chip Ingram

It would be nice if this post wasn't so vague. I will try to give my best advice though. Just an example of an area in my life that I know is a problem area. I play in basketball leagues and I am very competitive. My anger will show up when I play b-ball. One thing I make sure I do is pray before every game. Also I try, when I get angry to remember my past failures and try to walk away. If like me, you probably have never been proud of letting your anger do or say things that you regret. Don't forget those experiences because they will make you not want to make the same mistake. I hope this helps and I like you really struggle with my anger.