TimberWolf

In a very similar situation at the moment... Infatuation and love can be one in the same (as mentioned earlier); at least, this is what I believe. Or if it is only infatuation, it can lead to love. What I do not agree with is the whole "is she the one" concept. God brings people into our lives for specific reasons. We have free-will to either obey Him, our intuition or a combination of emotion and all of the others mentioned. I was in a very toxic relationship and had pre-marital sex. This was about 3 years ago. I met a girl at University a few months ago who I absolutely adore, yet she has specifically told me she does not want a boyfriend and does not want to be "courted" after I told her that I liked her. However after meeting her and getting to know her allowed me to once more let my "heart" come alive. I was broken after my last relationship and other life events (I am a recovering drug addict, 2 years clean) and it took me a long time to reconnect with my heart. Maybe God is showing you a part of yourself you have either denied, suppressed or felt ashamed about, that needs to be let free? Maybe she is merely a key to something that will unlock door(s) for you for further relationship, relational insight or even personal growth. Do not disallow yourself to feel what you are feeling. It is your heart coming alive, protect it, as the Bible states, but do not deny yourself the feelings God created us to experience. We are so pedantic when it comes to "don't do that, it is sin; you cannot feel like this, it is lust" etc. etc. Pray, seek wise council, but most importantly be honest. If she cannot handle your honesty and feelings (don't do the whole "you are the love of my life thing" so early on) then either the time is not right, or she just is not worth it because she does not accept you completely and whole-heartedly. Unfortunately it also happens that she might only consider you a friend and nothing more. In that case, brother you will torture yourself if you keep hanging onto her. If you decide that you love her and want to pursue a romantic relationship, and she does not want to, I would remove her from my life because the "pain" you're feeling will get considerably worse (that's my situation at the moment). On a last note, you need to look at what this person's effect is on you at the moment. Try and ignore the feelings of love and infatuation and rationally explain to yourself (and God) what you "feel", but what the "reality" is (hope that makes sense). You might feel in love; she might be a Christian etc and thus you might think she is a "good Christian girl; wife material" but she might actually not be someone who adds value to your life. These things are difficult especially since you have never felt like this. I hope this helps!

I also struggle with anxiety a lot. I do believe there is a place for medication with regards to anxiety/depression. I have tried coping without medication for months on end, busying myself in physical labour, academic work and a social life- it just got to the point where i Could not take it any more. Especially as a man, it was difficult for me to accept that I could not control my anxiety and accompanying depression even though I went through 9 months of hell (in prayer of course). God has blessed all of us with various gifts; seeking the help of a psychiatrist if your anxiety is debilitating is relying on the wisdom/knowledge/insight of another's gift to help you and find the right medication. It has helped me terribly and I find life a lot easier. I would worry about the most random things.