LynD , Why don't you let your Husband be the Head of the household as God intends men to be ?
Give him the bills and the responsibilities to take care of - it is HIS job. You do your part as a helpmeet like the Bible says , try and find work to help your Husband .
Too many men have been upstaged by their wives (with good reason no doubt) but if you trust in God DO what he says with good grace and love to your man. I was married to a non-believer for 38 years so I have some idea of family-problems.