Lomi

Welcome to worthy. DADDY is closer to you than you'll ever realize my friend. HE loves you so much that HE will give up a whole nation just to save you. (Isaiah 43:1-5) Sometimes we asked for strength, then DADDY gives us difficulties to make us strong, asked for wisdom, then HE gives problems to solve, love, then HE gave us troubled ppl to help, favours, then HE gave us opportunities, It may seem that we didnt receive anything we wanted, But we've received everything we needed. DADDY said HIS plans for you is to give you hope for a good future. HE knows your heart, your pain, your fears, HE hears you when you call. Just hold on to HIM. HE really really really loves you more than you ever can comprehend. You are A Designers Original, Fearfully & Wonderfully Made. You are Royalty. A Son of The Most High KING. I'm praying for you, lv lomi

I love the Book of Esther. You are so right that DADDY's will will be done. Oh I need to confess that i'm stubborn sometimes to do HIS will. Thanks for reminding me, I need to seek HIS will always in everything in my life. GOD bless you, lomi

I would love to read what yall think about this? I read a quote from AW Tozer and sum it up in these few notes: DADDY gave us an instrument of Worship. We can worship DADDY in a manner that no other creature can. But when Adam sinned, he took that instrument and threw it down in the mud and their it has lain for centuries, rusted, broken, unstrung, and man instead of playing that instrument & seeking to worship DADDY fills this void with lots of activities & turns in on himself. Are we cultivating the art of Worship? I believe we ought to search for it until we find it! GOD bless lv lomi

I totaly agree with HisGirl.

I'm not sure in what forum you can post it. But i would love to see your website. PM me with it lomi

((((((((Jacqueline))))))))))))))) You are only human. Praying for you GOD Bless. lomi

The Bible tells us how we are suppose to handle our (the Lords) money...... and it tells us about the responsibility to ourselves and our families...... first off, the man and the woman are suppose to leave (depart) from their parents and to join, cleave, become one with each other. this does not mean that their families are to be forgotten, but their responsibility is for each other ....primary... now..... if a person is doing everything they can to make ends meet, handling their finances properly, then, and only then, would assistance be given..... even with our children, if they go spend all their money on booze, or texting cost or computer cost, or other "luxuary" stuff, then they have a need for a battery for their car, then they need to follow instructions that is given to them...... if they do not, that is strike one..... and when three strikes come up, they must (tough love) fend for them selves..... I know of a guy that has been in trouble with booze, and well, now he is having to fend for himself.... otherwise he may never learn..... if you have a bird house and a bird feeder, and you fill the feeder every day, every day, your bird feeder will be empty, and your bird house will be full, if you add more houses, they will all become full..... and all your going to be doing is cleaning your windshields and filling the bird feeder...... you have a bunch of freeloaders..... infidels..... to get rid of freeloaders, stop filling the bird feeders, stop putting up bird houses..... this goes for people too as a landlord, we donot allow some one to live rent free, we may give them some slack, but they must pay the rent, we do not pay the utilities, no matter what, we do not lie to the utility companies either.... if they can not handle the load, they need to learn real fast or they will never learn.... I dont let some one live rent free in my mine, nor on my property, i would rather have a house stay empty, then to let some one live rent free....... yes, there are kids involved, evict the parents, and lease it to the kids.... lol......SRS, DHS, welfare (or what other names it may have) can help.... why let some one else steal your blessings for hard work and proper stewardship????? the best thing you can do is CUT THEM OFF.... mike Thanks. it's hard. but need to hear it. I appreciate it lv lomi

First of all I would love to thank all of yall, for replying & giving me advice. I appreciate it a lot. It is very hard to say no, I've realized with all yall saying here, that i was actually playing right into their hands. I'm such a wimp. I didn't see they've used me, cuz i've done a lot more things for them (i love giving it's just me) and still i'm not treated as part of the family. No wonder my hubby doesn't want to go to them or talk to them Last night my in-laws had a thanksgiving dinner, and Guess what I was not invited. My hubby didn't go, cuz he says if i'm not invited, he will not go there. I begged him to go, but he stood his ground. Am I wrong in reconciling him with his family? I send them a message to tell them that I don't have the money & don't think I'll be buying their groceries for them anymore. This morning I feel so guilty in doing that, what about their lovely kids. Their children calls me & dasen (hubby) their parents. Even their school will contact us instead of their biological parents. Was i right in telling them a bit of my mind over the phone last night? Will this ruin my changes to become a part of this family? I'm just so hurt & confused about this. love, lomi

Thank yall so much. I went to my friend last night and Had a long talk with her. She was in a bad condition. I had to clean her up. I can't stand it when she's hurting like this, so i told her if she's not going to open a case, i will do it for her. Guess what she told me, it was her own fault. Can you believe it? I stood my ground & said I gave her 24hours to decide what to do. I hope I did the right thing in giving her an ultimatum. She deserves so much better. Thank you everyone for yall advice & prayers, it is much appreciated. Love yall lomi

Lomi, Have a long talk with your friend. Tell her that you are giving her the best advice you can, but if she chooses not to take it, it is her choice. That you will continue to pray for her but can no longer let her be a drain on your spirit and your mind by being manipulative... (I think that is what she's doing). Then pray together with her and ask her to work it out. Sounds cold, but... sometimes we let people overwhelm us and they want us to solve all their problems, but are unwilling to take the steps to help themselves. It's a vicious cycle that we have to break. Love ya.

Lomi... Just my opinion mind you - BUT you and your husband have gone the "extra mile"... stop enabling these people to live this way. If they do not have food - they will get it. They don't have the urge or the need to because you are providing it... If you still own the house - I would work out some kind of deal with the municipality and put it on the market for sale. You do not owe them anymore. He needs to get a job and support his family and they both need to stop leaching off of you. God knows what you have done for them - and now - they need to do for themselves. Blessings.

Family, how do you draw the line with in laws? k, let me explain. My hubby had a home, and when we got married we he gave this to his sister (because she had no place to go), I rented a home, but also moved out and gave it over to my dad & brother, which btw they never paid the rent & I ended up paying for it till 2 years back. They where kicked out afterwards I stop paying. We decided to start afresh and started renting a place of our own. We still renting it and it's home to us. Last week we received a letter from the Municipality and they want to auctioned the house as taxes, water & lights have not been paid for 4 years. We signed all the papers over in her name and she haven't paid a cent on it. The amount outstanding is R150,699-00 ($15,069-90 us dollars) and they want it by the end of April. She gets paid more than both me & hubby's salary together. Her husband quitt his work 3 months ago, cuz he doesn't like some people at the work. I still buy groceries every month with my own money, and not once was there a thank you. My hubby told me several times not to buy groceries, but i can't see that the children must go without food. My sister-in-law is a wonderful person and loves to help everyone else, and always end up with no money to buy food. Her hubby also love brand name clothing and must get new clothes every month. Now all the family members want us to pay the outstanding amount so the house will not me lost. My hubby is in a state and feels like shutting his family out of his life for good. I feel like kicking each one of them (I have a really bad temper). I don't have thatkind of money. How do I sort this mess up. They will ruin my hubby's reputation. I don't care what people say or do to me, but when they start with my hubby, well that's a different story, I go banana's. My hubby is already stressed out about his adoptive mom, now this is also going on. The thing is we are Indians, and the oldest have the responsibility on everyone of the family. We have to look after everyone. I tried to pretend everything is ok, but it's not. How do I tell my in-laws to sort this out on their own & leave me alone. Cuz they came to me & not my hubby. He don't want anything to do with them, especially after they treat me always like nothing cuz I'm not fully Indian, but I'm a half breed (mixed race - colored). love lomi

God can speak things into existence, but not us. It sounds like the 2.0 version of the "name it and claim it" doctrine. Speak all day long, but without the inspiration of the Spirit, there aint nothing to it folks. (Mark 11:24 [KJV]) Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them]. We need to shut the TV preachers off and get into the Word for ourselves. Without the Word in our spirit, we will believe anything and follow every doctrine that comes along. This scripture is what many "name it and claim it" people hold as proof of their faith. What they do not include in this is the preceding verse Jesus spoke, "For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain,

Family, Sorry to be a nuisance again. Can you please help me with advice. What do you do when you try to help a person, but it seems that person don't want to get help, but they still came and ask for help? I've prayed & told her several times to do it, but she's forever not doing it. It's been going on like this for 1 year. I'm worried & stressed out, but I'm also getting fed-up with it. I care a lot about my friend, but she doesn't seems to listen. I'm afraid she'll end up dead. (sorry i can't elaborate more). And I can't do anything about it, cuz I made a promise i'll not interfere, but be there for her always. I am very strong on promises, and don't break promises once I've made them. I believe in promises, but I'm thinking I was stupid that day to tell her I'll not interfere. GOD bless, lomi

Thank you so much. DADDY is awesome. lomi

Everyone has flaws my sister, but DADDY's (GOD), grace is sufficient for all of us. I'm praying for you. DADDY loves you more than you ever can comprehend. Nothing can separate you from HIS love. HE called you by your name & made you HIS. Just look up to HIM & tell HIM all your struggles & fears, HE knows everything. HE is able to do exceedingly & abandantly in your life. You are a Designers Original, wonderfully & fearfully made. You are prescious in DADDY's sight. HE is mindful of you & have written your name on the palm of HIS hand. lv lomi

(((((((((P Joseph))))))))))) You are a Child of the MOST HIGH GOD. HE loves you. HE created you. YOu are a Desingers Original, fearfully & wonderfully made. Everyone makes mistakes. Just look to DADDY, HE will carry you & guide you. YOUR identity is in HIM, the day you decided to follow HIM. GOD BLess you, lv yr sister in CHRIST lomi

((((((Scott))))))))))))) Let go it out, we are here for you. you can PM me, any time. lv yr sister in CHRIST, lomi

I can't live without chocolates. We need to fix this. I have to have chocolates everyday. YOu don't know what happens if i don't have one a day. I'll start fasting & pray (I am very serious), for someone to come up with a plan. DADDY will help, I know HE will lv lomi

wow. beautiful. lol, my whole family so it before me. we just love all animals. thank you for sharing lomi

((((((((Scott)))))))))))))) I will be praying for you. I can relate to all what your going through. I may not understand it completely, but one thing I know is, I know how it feels to cry yourself to sleep, to feel tired of feeling tired. I know how is feels to be so depressed, angry & hurting. Trust me, i know, and I messed up a lot of times. People don't understand, But GOD does. People will dissapoint you, but you know what GOD (i call HIM DADDY), will never fail you. HE knows your heart, HE knows your pain, HE sees your tears, HE calls you is own. HE will never leave you, nor forsake you. Please don't leave worthy, there are people that go through the same what you going through. There is people that cares. And Scott, try and search for a job, i will be praying for that as well for you. DADDY will provide, then you need to leave that place, concerning your girlfriend, she may have done a lot, but you are a person with feeling and I think you need to let her go. Too loose someone to death is hard, and it will take time to get over it. I lost my mother 9 years ago, and it still hurts a lot, But GOD is with me, just like HE is with you. HE loves you. You are prescious in HIS sight. You are fearfully & Wonderfully made. Read Isaiah 43:1-5 Just hold on to DADDY, keep praying & studying HIS Word. HE is with you. HE will never leave you, nor forsake you. 1Thessalonians 2:8 "We care so deeply for you, that we were determined to share not only the Gospel of GOD but our lives. That is how dear you were to us." Can you go on You-Tube and listen to the song of Paul Baloch