GoldenEagle Posted October 7, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 7, 2016 23 hours ago, Butero said: It was a direct response to a post by Brakelite, and I am happy I did respond to him, because I see we don't disagree to the extent that I thought, and I may have been given the name of a minister that preaches the Word of God as it should be preached. I will have to look him up, but I am on the look out for true ministers, since they are so hard to come by these days. I would listen to a hard nosed, hell, fire and brimstone holiness preacher. I am completely turned off by the Chuck Swindoll types. Perhaps it's a generational thing? I don't see most people under 40 or 45 (Gen X and Millennials?) responding well to the whole hard nosed, hell, fire and brimstone preaching. But hey if it works for you go for it. God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted October 7, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 7, 2016 Law #7 The Law of Proactivity In the physical world, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. This is also true in the spiritual world. (See Romans, 5:20, 7:5-6, Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:21) Reaction phases are necessary but not sufficient for the establishment of boundaries. What does Galatians 5: 13-15 caution about limiting these reaction phases? Once you have reacted, it is time to rejoin the human race and establish connections as equals, loving your neighbor as yourself. Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose, and what they stand for as opposed to reactive people who are known by what they hate, what they don’t like, what they stand against, and what they will not do. Where are you on this? Are your boundaries still more reactive than proactive? When have you seen someone, after years of trying to please everyone, go ballistic when their pent-up rage explodes? Maybe that is your story. Share your perspective on this behavior. God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dok Posted October 7, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 57 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 43 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/14/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted October 7, 2016 (edited) On 9/16/2016 at 4:05 PM, Dok said: I think your description of reactive is a little too harsh ---- could be misunderstood. I was reactive for years, rather introverted, but with Jesus I'm proactive. It sure helps out to be the "great stabilizer" in family matters, one who is consulted by "kids" and grandkids, among others. Edited October 8, 2016 by Dok Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted October 11, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 11, 2016 On 10/7/2016 at 6:14 PM, Dok said: I think your description of reactive is a little too harsh ---- could be misunderstood. I was reactive for years, rather introverted, but with Jesus I'm proactive. It sure helps out to be the "great stabilizer" in family matters, one who is consulted by "kids" and grandkids, among others. Hiya Dok please explain further? God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted October 11, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 11, 2016 Re: Law #6 The Law of Evaluation We need to evaluate the effects our boundaries cause others Hurt and harm are not the same – pain may eventually lead to growth. Re: Law #7 The Law of Proactivity Boundaries must express what we stand for , not just what we are against. I think it's a good idea to solve problems on the basis of our values, wants, and needs. God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted October 11, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 11, 2016 Law #8 The Law of Envy The Bible speaks strongly against the envious heart (James 4:2). But what does envy have to do with boundaries? Envy is probably the basest emotion we have. Envy defines 'good' as what I do not possess and causes me to hate the good that I have. What is so destructive about this sin is that it guarantees that we will not get what we want and it keeps us continually dissatisfied. What things do you tend to envy most? As bad as envy is, I'm not saying that it is wrong to want things we do not have. God has said that He will give us the desires of our heart (Psalm 3 & 4). The problem with envy is that it focuses outside our boundaries onto others. What truth does Paul set forth in Galatians 6:4? What is the focus we are called to here? People, who do not have boundaries, feel empty and unfulfilled. They look to another’s sense of fullness and feel envious. This time and energy needs to be spent on taking responsibility for their own ‘lack’ and doing something about it. Your envy should be a sign to you that something is lacking in your life. When you feel envy, ask God to help you understand what you resent, why you do not have what you are envying, and whether you truly need it. Ask Him to show you how to get there or grieve what you cannot have and be content with what you do have! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dok Posted October 11, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 57 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 43 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/14/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted October 11, 2016 6 hours ago, GoldenEagle said: Hiya Dok please explain further? God bless, GE "....as opposed to reactive people who are known by what they hate, what they don’t like, what they stand against, and what they will not do." Maybe "some" reactive people? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
preciouspearl Posted October 13, 2016 Group: Senior Member Followers: 11 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.20 Reputation: 516 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/02/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/03/1987 Share Posted October 13, 2016 im currently reading boundaries in dating i read the regular book and do the workbook after. i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed. i think they are good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted October 13, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.35 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted October 13, 2016 1 hour ago, preciouspearl said: i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed. If you gave up on them because of this, they can't be all that good. One of the fundamental principles of life is KEEP IT SIMPLE. All this talk about boundaries has no relation to Bible truth. Here's the *boundary* Christ set before us (Matthew 5:39-42): 39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also. 41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. 42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted October 14, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 14, 2016 14 hours ago, preciouspearl said: im currently reading boundaries in dating i read the regular book and do the workbook after. i gave up on them cos i was overwhelmed. i think they are good. It's a lot to take in and processing takes time. Hang in there! Having healthy boundaries in relationships is key! God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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