HisFirst Posted January 29, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 21 Topic Count: 315 Topics Per Day: 0.11 Content Count: 3,491 Content Per Day: 1.26 Reputation: 2,582 Days Won: 3 Joined: 09/25/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted January 29, 2017 (edited) Just now, Ezra said: Not at all. "Silence is golden" in many situations, and the Bible commends those who keep silent rather than spout nonsense. A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards... Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him. (Proverbs 29:11,20). I see the wisdom in that Ez, but my issue is if I say my opinion (not nonsense, just what I think on a matter we talk about), feelings get upset because it may not be how the other person sees it and then the silence or complete end of subject, dismissed and new conversation. And because of that, we can never really delve into any subject at all. I always hold my peace, for the sake of peace. But I'm not being honest then am I? I hope I'm not coming across as a spoiled brat - but there comes a time...... Edited January 29, 2017 by HisFirst Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Patriot21 Posted January 29, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 28 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 15,710 Content Per Day: 2.45 Reputation: 8,526 Days Won: 39 Joined: 10/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/27/1985 Share Posted January 29, 2017 I have said nothing. And I just said nothing. so ha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted January 29, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 958 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,641 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,083 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted January 29, 2017 (edited) I do pray for the problem to resolve, so that there is peace within. I also pray that the end result will be to the benefit of both parties. By some comparison, I have found that I have not done well by waiting out discord. I end up exploding at some point, and then rebuilding what I smashed in my angry release of words and emotion is an ever more difficult task than was enduring the situation before. Being right and demanding acknowledgement of it does have it's consequences. So I guess I suggest don't wait so long that the anger and hurt builds up to a breaking point. Be incremental take on discord early on when it is smaller and easier to overcome, if you can. If not, might as well expect a hard landing when you finally do explode with your anger/hurt no longer contained. In reading Psalm 119 this morning in preparation for attending morning fellowship services I have spent time at Psalm 119:125-128 and found myself led to think of situations where there is discord in my life that is not solvable by me. I compared that to how the psalmist was handling his angst and problem. Maybe there is some guidance to be found there, I don't know. Yet I share of it in case there is some enlightenment there for anyone suffering a wrong. I am studying the stanza Ayin in the fuller light of the entirety of the Psalm, always fearing the taking out of context a short passage or verse to force justification of a point as I may want it to be made, instead of th eway God has intended it to be used for benefit.. God bless and may He guide you well. Edited January 29, 2017 by Neighbor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted January 29, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.34 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted January 29, 2017 15 hours ago, HisFirst said: I see the wisdom in that Ez, but my issue is if I say my opinion (not nonsense, just what I think on a matter we talk about), feelings get upset because it may not be how the other person sees it and then the silence or complete end of subject, dismissed and new conversation. And because of that, we can never really delve into any subject at all. HisFirst, It is inevitable that feelings will get hurt when you point out the error which someone else promotes or holds to. But you cannot tip toe around a subject for that reason. As long as you believe (and know) that you are speaking the truth in love (as we are instructed to do) that is all that should matter in a public forum. On the other hand, in personal relationships, there are times when you must simply remain silent to maintain peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DayByDay Posted January 29, 2017 Group: Nonbeliever Followers: 1 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 28 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 32 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/29/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 29, 2017 If you are around someone who is mature and responsible, speak up. But, for those who don't come to this forum :-) better to be quiet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Thallasa Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 23 hours ago, HisFirst said: Firstly, I'm not talking about here on Worthy, although it would be applicable in any scenario. My question is : Is this hypocritical? Aren't we to tell the truth? God know's what we are thinking - yes, I know we need tact, but sometimes the truth isn't nice but needs to be said. Sometimes silence comes across as agreement to something you totally do not agree with. Am I making sense? I am having a bit of an issue with this, as I always seem to have to keep my mouth shut but I want to speak also but know the other person will either get upset or not speak for awhile........ John 1 vv46,47 6 And Nathanael said to him, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” *Jesus actually praised Nathanael for his honesty even though the comment was negative. Jesus saw Nathanael coming toward Him and said to him, "Behold an Israelite indeed , in whom is no deceit!" Well would it not be a good idea since you wish frankness to say whether you are male or female .It is difficult to address a ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisFirst Posted January 30, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 21 Topic Count: 315 Topics Per Day: 0.11 Content Count: 3,491 Content Per Day: 1.26 Reputation: 2,582 Days Won: 3 Joined: 09/25/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 10 hours ago, Thallasa said: Well would it not be a good idea since you wish frankness to say whether you are male or female .It is difficult to address a ? Hi Thallasa, I'm female and I guess I'll have to edit my profile as having "not telling" is not being very honest but it is for more privacy than anything but I think by my replies to ppl, it's obvious what gender I am. (Although we haven't communicated before ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisFirst Posted January 30, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 21 Topic Count: 315 Topics Per Day: 0.11 Content Count: 3,491 Content Per Day: 1.26 Reputation: 2,582 Days Won: 3 Joined: 09/25/2016 Status: Offline Author Share Posted January 30, 2017 To everybody who has taken the time and replied to my original post in this thread, thank you very much! You guys and gals have helped me enormously!! I really appreciate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Thallasa Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 (edited) On 30/01/2017 at 9:02 AM, HisFirst said: Hi Thallasa, I'm female and I guess I'll have to edit my profile as having "not telling" is not being very honest but it is for more privacy than anything but I think by my replies to ppl, it's obvious what gender I am. (Although we haven't communicated before ) I understand that on certain forums one must be careful ,but here is very safe ;For me the problem becomes one, of making oneself 'neutral ', and we are not made 'neutral ' . Edited January 31, 2017 by Thallasa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Thallasa Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 On 30/01/2017 at 9:05 AM, HisFirst said: To everybody who has taken the time and replied to my original post in this thread, thank you very much! You guys and gals have helped me enormously!! I really appreciate it. Vous etes tres bien venue . Me, I am too direct sometimes on the net for brevity . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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