carant2000_2001 Posted April 18, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 10 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 145 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/30/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/12/1957 Share Posted April 18, 2006 hi everyone, i have a problem and need advice from anyone who can give it right now. let me start at the begining my children and i attend church,great right. well heres the problem we take neighbor kids along as many as my car allows and have been doing that for a long time. we've had argument between children but they always seem to work themselves out. the last year a little girl and her sister have been riding to church with us. i have trouble with the 5 year old she is very bossy, she doesn't mind so for awhile i wouldnt let her come i felt so bad because her sister came, i wouldnt take the little one because she is so mean to the other kids. forgot to mention they also go to scouts with us. this little girl runs around will not listen to anyone. we took her out to eat at a fast food resturant my daughter came to the counter to help carry things back to the table, in that few minutes she had came to help me carry the food, she emptied out a salt shaker on the table not much in it but still. i feel terrible for saying you cant go to church with us. someone please help. their is no help at her home believe me i've tried they tell my daughter she only a baby. in Christ, carolyn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelak Posted April 18, 2006 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 21 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/14/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/08/1952 Share Posted April 18, 2006 hi everyone, i have a problem and need advice from anyone who can give it right now. let me start at the begining my children and i attend church,great right. well heres the problem we take neighbor kids along as many as my car allows and have been doing that for a long time. we've had argument between children but they always seem to work themselves out. the last year a little girl and her sister have been riding to church with us. i have trouble with the 5 year old she is very bossy, she doesn't mind so for awhile i wouldnt let her come i felt so bad because her sister came, i wouldnt take the little one because she is so mean to the other kids. forgot to mention they also go to scouts with us. this little girl runs around will not listen to anyone. we took her out to eat at a fast food resturant my daughter came to the counter to help carry things back to the table, in that few minutes she had came to help me carry the food, she emptied out a salt shaker on the table not much in it but still. i feel terrible for saying you cant go to church with us. someone please help. their is no help at her home believe me i've tried they tell my daughter she only a baby. in Christ, carolyn I think I would excuse myself from taking BOTH kids anywhere with me. This is a sticky problem. Jesus said ....."Suffer the children to come unto me, for of such is the kingdom of Heaven." It seems like a soul is at stake, I believe you are going to have to "suffer" through this, since you have already started it. She will mature and stop acting up Im sure. Good job tho Hang in there! Shelak Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shepherdsgrace Posted April 19, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 880 Content Per Day: 0.13 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/28/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted April 19, 2006 Everyone is different. But I would never take children with me that would not obey me. There is too much at stake. And although it is a shame to have to consider it there is the fact that you are liable and the parents can sue if anything should happen to their child. So my answer is pray and receive wisdom from the LORD what you should do. Do not be afraid to say no. It is never right to allow one child to ruin all the pleasure of the rest. People say that you are reaching out for Christ. That may be true. It is also true that all of the rest of the children are involved also. So. You need wisdom from the HOLY SPIRIT. Rethink your goals and why you are doing this. What is the result so far? Seek the LORD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted April 19, 2006 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted April 19, 2006 A child who remains uncorrected WILL NOT 'outgrow' such disobedience. That's what grown-ups are for...... It seems a suitable restriction to me. I wouldn't take her anywhere until she decides she want to behave well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CellShade Posted April 21, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 27 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 397 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 7 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/22/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted April 21, 2006 Dunno I am in the fence here, but I think Shelak may be right. The kid need's God. Think of it, she still doesn't have the complete understanding of good and wrong, and maybe constantly telling her '' do not do this or do not do that'' while will take time, it will work out as God will see your heart and hers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandli5 Posted April 21, 2006 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 15 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 559 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/06/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/29/1975 Share Posted April 21, 2006 One thing is for sure, God sent you to them to help them. I think I would talk to there mother, or father. Whom ever is there at there home. I would discuss this with them, and ask if you can take matters into your own hands, or if they can talk to them. Tell the parent you really do want to take them to church with you and give them a break during those hours. If the parent gets upset, which I do not see happening since it is a babysitting job to them (I would think) just back out nicely. If the parent understands and says they will ask the child to calm down, then that would be great. While your there, ask the parents to join you sometime, to see how they like the church. Can't hurt. God will let this work out, pray about it. God is awesome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bacat852 Posted April 22, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 108 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/09/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted April 22, 2006 Hi Carolyn: Love and prayer is what this little girl needs. As other brother's and sisters have shared you were placed in this little girls path for that reason. I will be praying for you to have wisdom. In years past in teaching sunday school and working with children from various backgrounds the Holy Spirit is the one that will draw and change the childs heart. Don't give up just keep trusting the Lord for the answer. God bless, I am praying Bettyann Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carant2000_2001 Posted April 23, 2006 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 10 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 145 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/30/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/12/1957 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 thank you all for your prayers, these children really need to be in church that why i have such a problem telling them no. today we did a community service project with scouts, i took these girls along with us. we put bags out for the homeless & needy for personal items to be collected next week at the same time, they we're so good. praise the Lord maybe its sinking in. tomorrow they are going to church with us. we'll try again. thank the Lord for such a beautiful day in Christ, carolyn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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