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Ephesians 5:22-28 explains it quite well. We are to submit to our husband's authority, but he is to love us as Christ loves the church. As wives, we are also called to be our husband's helpmate, which means we are also supposed to help them with these decisions, however. 1 Peter 3 even goes so far as to tell us that this is how wives can minister to our unsaved husbands.

When I first read this, I was going to reference the Trinity, and then I was going to reference John 1! So I guess I don't really have anything to say anymore as others took care of it for me!

This is a very difficult situation! I'm sorry that it happened, and I'm glad that you are no longer with this man. My first thought was that you have to tell her. I would want to know if it were me, because you cannot heal something until you know how broken it is. You need to pray a lot about this before making a decision one way or another. People have referenced scripture from both sides, so I don't need to do that, but Phillippians 4:6: Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Proverbs 3:6: In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. There are a lot more, but the point is, He wants us to come to Him with these things before we decide, and before we do them. Keep in mind also, that there is an extremely good chance that her reaction to this isn't going to be very good. She is not likely to be outwardly thankful immediately upon hearing this. I am not saying this to discourage you from telling her. Simply to remind you that when you do, make sure you bring your grace, mercy, and a thick skin. You will likely need all three.