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I always keep these short and sweet, and I will just repeat what I experienced here in Toledo at the Cherry Street Mission yesterday. Amen. As I walked into the mission I saw (in a vision) what looked to be vendors selling to the homeless people in the hallway where you walk to the bathrooms. I say that because they were actually excited to buy from them. Then I looked in the cafeteria, and saw it had become a huge conference room for dynamic Christian speakers. The homeless people were actually serving (working with the kitchen staff) themselves and the general public during their conferences. It (had become) was a message of truth center, and it was a conference center as well.

Jesus has been challenging us to accept confrontation when it happens with courage. And it has been awesome overcoming fear in those times, striving towards the faith measurements for the bride's dress. Now we are attempting to understand how we have all been bound, loosed striving to never be bound again. The question is can we accept the psychosomatic attributes of people who are bound as well? Their feelings are also to be loosed, and accepted. So we have to explain things about our imperfect selves, to them who saw us bound and struggling now being perfected, and want some of it for themselves without being judged. Even when they are homeless, wreckless and possibly drunk.

"As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace ..." (1 Peter 4:10) What gift(s) have you received? How was it 'given'? And, how do you use it? (I want to hear about your experience: not an explanation of how Spiritual Gifts work).

My husband and I have been married for almost two years. He is a wonderful Christain man. He loves giving back to the church, dedicating himself to helping family and church family, he is hard working, and so much more. When we first met I immediately knew he was different than most people and that he processes things differently. It is very difficult for him to put himself in someone else's shoes, or understand that others interpret situations differently than he does. There is no ill-will towards anyone, he just cannot empathize well and often misinterprets or misses nuances of meaning. I know this and try to adjust my interactions with him accordingly, but I feel like effective communication is always a struggle. I want to find a better way to communicate with him and to help our marriage grow. When I tell him that I want to connect more and grow our marriage he becomes offended and interprets it as me saying he is a bad husband and our relationship is terrible, which is not the case. When I try to clarify my meaning he shuts down or becomes angry. I have attempted to follow advice saying to dedicate myself to biblical wifely duties and pray that he will become more active and open to growing our marriage. However, it seems the more I dedicate myself to selflessly serving him the more he takes for granted what I do and the more he begins to expect it. If I fail or forget something, like washing his undershirts, he rebukes me as if I am a child that has misbehaved. When I try to tell him how I feel he shuts down or gets upset. So I have tried to be more subtle. I asked if we could start reading the bible together and praying before bed, but again he interpreted it as me saying our marriage is terrible. It isn't terrible, far from it, but before we have children I feel that we need to be able to work better as a team, communicate more effectively, and have a more Christ-centered relationship. Prayers and advice would be greatly appreciated.