The Following of Husband?

[Waiting2BwithHim]

I have a 3 part question that I would like to ask...

 

First is in the Bible it says that the husband should be the leader in the household.

Is this pertaing to just the household or to Church also?

 

Second is if both man and wife have 2 different views on a particular biblical view and there is

no common ground then what should be done in such a situation?

 

Last is if women are to be living in the example of man how does that make her an unique individual

with her own thoughts, views, and personality that God created?

 

I hope the last question is unstandable. If not then I understand.

Thanks in advance for at least trying to answer any of these.

[WIP]

First is in the Bible it says that the husband should be the leader in the household.

Is this pertaing to just the household or to Church also?

 

The husband is the head of the home ....he is not the head of the Church

Eph 5:22 

²² Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. ²⁴ Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

 

Second is if both man and wife have 2 different views on a particular biblical view and there is

no common ground then what should be done in such a situation?

 

They should be go to the oversight or elders and discuss the issue to them.

 

Last is if women are to be living in the example of man how does that make her an unique individual

with her own thoughts, views, and personality that God created?

 

We women look to the example of The Lord, not man.

[Guest ninhao]

 

Waiting2BwithHim, on 27 Sept 2013 - 09:41 AM, said:

First is in the Bible it says that the husband should be the leader in the household.

Is this pertaing to just the household or to Church also?

 

 

Jesus is the head of the Church

 

 

Second is if both man and wife have 2 different views on a particular biblical view and there is

no common ground then what should be done in such a situation?

 

 

If the issue is considered an essential doctrine then I suggest mediation with the Pastor or Church Elders or even trusted Church friends. If the issue isn’t an essential doctrine I think it is ok to disagree and simply discuss the issue presenting each other’s view. It is ok to disagree gracefully.   

 

 

Last is if women are to be living in the example of man how does that make her an unique individual

with her own thoughts, views, and personality that God created?

 

 

Every Christian is equal and individual in the eye of Jesus.

 

Gal 3:26-29  So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith,  (27)  for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.  (28)  There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.  (29)  If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.

[missmuffet]

1. Ephesians 5 describes how a loving Christian husband is the instrument of Christ's love for his wife,and is at the same time a model of Christs love for his Church.That is an honor.

2.Epheisans 4:5 states that communicating truth in love is the key to being heard.Speaking the truth in love is absolutely essential for conflict resolution.A husband and wife may have a differing of opinon but this must be done with kindness and respect.Two different human being are going to have different opinons at times.You have your right to have your own opinion.

3.A Biblical husband is not to take on a role as a dictator,but should show respect for his wife's opinions.

 

If any of the above become a problem the partners should recommit themselves to prayer and submission to Christ first,then to one another in an attitude of love and respect.

[Guest ninhao]

Second is if both man and wife have 2 different views on a particular biblical view and there is

no common ground then what should be done in such a situation?

 

Unless the husband is telling his wife to sin, based on the scriptures I gave, she should do as her husband says.  The church has no place in deciding issues in the home, unless it is a sin issue. 

 

 

 

Hello Butero,

 

The question here is concerning differing biblical view.  For example if, when witnessing, the husband insists the wife promotes universialism  what do you suggest she do ? That is, do you consider incorrect doctrine a sin issue.

[Guest ninhao]

 

I didn't take it as meaning that.  If that is the case, then I would imagine they would have a serious conflict if they attempted to witness together?  You certainly wouldn't want him telling a perpective convert one thing, and her objecting to what he said.  I wouldn't expect him to be able to order her to promote false doctrine, but I also don't think it would be helpful if they had a fight while witnessing. 

 

 

My question is what course of action should the wife take in this situation. Obviously it is untenable.

[missmuffet]

Their are many points of view on this Christian messageboard.Some I must confess I do not understand

[Guest ninhao]

 

 

 

I didn't take it as meaning that.  If that is the case, then I would imagine they would have a serious conflict if they attempted to witness together?  You certainly wouldn't want him telling a perpective convert one thing, and her objecting to what he said.  I wouldn't expect him to be able to order her to promote false doctrine, but I also don't think it would be helpful if they had a fight while witnessing. 

 

 

My question is what course of action should the wife take in this situation. Obviously it is untenable.

 

Keep silent. 

 

 

This is interesting. You suggest if the husband and wife are witnessing and the husband promotes Universalism the wife should keep silent. What do you suggest the husband should do if the wife presents Universalism when witnessing ?

[Guest ninhao]

 

He is the head of his wife.  It is up to him how he handles it.  I just know that common sense would dictate that if my wife and I disagreed over a major area of doctrine like that, I wouldn't go out witnessing with her. 

 

 

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.  For Adam was first formed, not Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.   1 Timothy 2:12,13

 

 

I find this very interesting considering the same incorrect doctrine has been used as example when presented by the husband or the wife. The question remains what should a wife should do if the husband holds blatant incorrect doctrine and if the wife is permitted to question this.

 

Are you saying a wife should not offer correct doctrine to the husband but the husband can offer incorrect doctrine to the wife? 

 

 

[Waiting2BwithHim]

As I read some of the answers to the questions I asked I want to first say thank you for the replies.

Then as I am understanding these replies I believe that I would say ninhao has the correct way of what I am trying to ask.

 

In another way of understanding this I would pose the question why be in a marriage if the wife knows that what the husband

wants her to follow is false and that she can't say anything about it? Shouldn't she first be concerned most with pleasing God and doing what the Bible says then what her husband has to say?