GoldenEagle Posted September 22, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 22, 2016 Law #5 The Law of Motivation The Law of Motivation says this: Freedom first, service second. Besides the fear that we will lose love and the fear that people will be angry with us, other false motives keep us from setting boundaries. Which of the following false motives have been behind some of your actions? A) Fear of loneliness. B) Thinking that to love means always to say yes. C) Thinking that good people will always say yes. D) Trying to overcome the guilt inside and feel good about yourself. E) Paying back all that you have received. F) Trying to gain people’s approval, people who may represent your parents, whose approval was withheld. G) Over identifying with the other person’s loss, and feeling the sadness you think your ‘no’ word would cause them. What life experiences and early relationships helped cause these false motives? We can let God work on the fears, resolve them, and create some healthy boundaries to guard the freedom we were called to. Freedom is one of our treasures. What does 2 Corinthians 9:7 tell us about giving? (KJV version here) What does Romans 12:19 instruct us about revenge? (KJV version here) What does Isaiah 29:13 teach us about fear? (KJV version here) What does Galatians 5:1 teach us about freedom? (KJV version here) What does 1 Corinthians 13 teach us about loving others? (KJV version here) What are your primary motivators? What do you want your motivators to be? What do you need to do in order to change? God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dok Posted September 22, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 57 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 43 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/14/2011 Status: Offline Share Posted September 22, 2016 (edited) Boundaries.......... What are your primary motivators? What do you want your motivators to be? D. Overcoming that old, obnoxious guilt from long ago; hearing the Holy Spirit 24/7. Totally accepting who I am in Christ Jesus. Primary motivator is for others to see Jesus in me. I often do that with humor, a smile, and at other times in what one would refer to as the counseling mode. Praying that I will share with others whatever God leads me to share .... no holding back!! Praying for loved ones and friends. WDo / mT + mE ---> mR Edited September 23, 2016 by Dok Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr3ams Posted September 22, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 18 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 60 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 36 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/23/1965 Share Posted September 22, 2016 (edited) Honestly, I wouldn't be able to apply this anywhere. After raising three kids and 24 years of marriage, I'm pretty sure we all know where the boundaries are and which ones not to cross. Edited September 22, 2016 by Dr3ams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted September 23, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 23, 2016 13 hours ago, Dr3ams said: Honestly, I wouldn't be able to apply this anywhere. After raising three kids and 24 years of marriage, I'm pretty sure we all know where the boundaries are and which ones not to cross. How about passing on some of that knowledge to your kids? Or sharing what you've learned with others? God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr3ams Posted September 23, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 18 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 60 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 36 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/23/1965 Share Posted September 23, 2016 1 hour ago, GoldenEagle said: How about passing on some of that knowledge to your kids? Or sharing what you've learned with others? God bless, GE Thanks for the advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwikphilly Posted September 23, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 96 Topic Count: 307 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 18,136 Content Per Day: 4.63 Reputation: 27,817 Days Won: 327 Joined: 08/03/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 23, 2016 Blessings GE,dear Brother Quote Re: #1 I think we need to respect others right to say no. I struggle with that because I want to help people. Sometimes I feel if I just say something I'll help them see God's love or grace. But the Holy Spirit is the only one who can change a heart or mind. I need to work more on letting go. GE I would like to share with you that I used to really struggle with letting go or knowing when to walk away,I too want nothing more than to help & especially to shine Gods Light that others see the Love & Grace of God,just like you do I don't really have anything to tell you to help you work on that because I don't truly know how Holy Spirit made that change in me,I do know that I persisted in prayer ,asking for His Discernment and to SHOW ME,TELL ME,LEAD ME The more I seemed to "think less" about it with my unreliable heart & mind is probably about the time I learned to listen more & see more with the eyes of my heart & my spirit f or Understanding,if that makes any sense to you? These days I don't have nearly as much difficulty in "kicking the dust from my feet",just as Holy Spirit prompts us toward the opportunities or Ministry Moments ,He also Leads us AWAY & makes it known to us that our ASSIGNMENT is over or "not there"........ Quote King James Bible Therefore said he unto them, The harvest truly is great, but the labourers are few: pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he would send forth labourers into his harvest. Luke 10:2 I believe there are far too many that we can be made useful for that to squander those Pearls we are given before swine & that does not mean that those folks are not worth preaching to,helping or Saving.....we just might not be the ones to do it through,,,,we might just be the "planters" but not the waterers.....or visa versa....we must pray to do Gods Will for us,what He would have us to do,we can too- often get in His Way...which is also a BOUNDARY Remember Chico & the Man?...."It's not my yob!" With love-in Christ,Kwik Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted September 23, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 23, 2016 3 hours ago, Dr3ams said: Thanks for the advice. I was actually inviting you to participate in discussion here too… ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IamHis Posted September 25, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 6 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 10 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/23/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted September 25, 2016 Boundaries, by Cloud and Townsend was 'Gold' to me. It has literally changed my life. Thanks for sharing your perspective. I would love to do a women's study on the book at my church. Has anyone done the workbook that goes along with the book? Jessica Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted September 28, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 28, 2016 On 9/24/2016 at 9:47 PM, IamHis said: Boundaries, by Cloud and Townsend was 'Gold' to me. It has literally changed my life. Thanks for sharing your perspective. I would love to do a women's study on the book at my church. Has anyone done the workbook that goes along with the book? Jessica Hiya Jessica (IamHis) How has the book impacted your life? Thanks for stopping by the thread and welcome to Worthy! God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenEagle Posted September 28, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 764 Topics Per Day: 0.18 Content Count: 7,626 Content Per Day: 1.81 Reputation: 1,559 Days Won: 44 Joined: 10/03/2012 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 28, 2016 On 9/22/2016 at 6:10 PM, Dok said: Boundaries.......... What are your primary motivators? What do you want your motivators to be? D. Overcoming that old, obnoxious guilt from long ago; hearing the Holy Spirit 24/7. Totally accepting who I am in Christ Jesus. Primary motivator is for others to see Jesus in me. I often do that with humor, a smile, and at other times in what one would refer to as the counseling mode. Praying that I will share with others whatever God leads me to share .... no holding back!! Praying for loved ones and friends. WDo / mT + mE ---> mR This one is a tough one for me too Dok. What kind of guild do you struggle with? Humor is a good tool. What's the counseling mode? God bless, GE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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