Rhen Posted November 21, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 2 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/21/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted November 21, 2019 This weekend my husband and I received the news from our 28 year old daughter and her significant other that they were expecting a child. We are still trying to wrap our minds around this, as we are a very traditional family, and never in a million years thought this would happen to one of our three daughters. Family converged into town this weekend to celebrate the baptism of our first and only grandson, so the news was difficult as we were trying to focus on our daughter, her husband and their baby boy. I know its not right but I cannot move beyond feeling anything but shame and embarrassment for our family, for our daughter and her sisters. She has been with her boyfriend for nearly 7 years and the news we were expecting was a proposal announcement not this. I know how I feel when I hear the news of children being born out of wedlock and its crushing that we are confronted with this now. I am asking for prayers in the hope that we can move on and be supportive of our daughter and this new baby. Has anyone else dealt with this and have any advice. I'm dreading the task of having to tell friends, family etc. I know I shouldn't care about what others think or feel but I do. I'm do devastated and don't know what to do.... Please help. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steward George Posted November 21, 2019 Group: Steward Followers: 110 Topic Count: 10,465 Topics Per Day: 1.25 Content Count: 27,785 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 15,483 Days Won: 129 Joined: 06/30/2001 Status: Online Birthday: 09/21/1971 Steward Share Posted November 21, 2019 Shalom Rhen, Welcome to Worthy Christian Forums. Please feel free to browse around and get to know everyone. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. As soon as you post a few times and after they are approved, it'll tell us that you are "real" person and not a "bot", you'll be free to post throughout our forums and join our chat rooms. Forgive us for this minor inconvenience, however, we've had issues in the past with Spammers! This is a short tutorial video of how to get started with Worthy Christian Forums. As soon as you get out of Newbie status, you'll be able to add your profile picture. You may be interested in reading how WCF functions, and how the forums are set up, and other neat tricks to the forums. Read our insights into WCF. Let me share a little bit of my vision for the ministry in a parable. Let's say I'm throwing a big party and am inviting the world to the party (the forums) and I want everyone to have a great time, eating (reading through posts being fed), drinking (being encouraged to walk in His Word), and having fellowship with one another. In Israel, we have Shabbat meals -- and whenever you have 2 Jews -- you have 3 opinions -- it's GREAT to be opinionated. I encourage discussions ... but during our Shabbat meals ... we never ever get to the point in disagreements whereby food is being tossed and seriously yelling takes place! And if someone comes into the meal ... and starts throwing food ... and yells at everyone -- what do you suppose the head of the Shabbat meal will do? He'll escort those causing problems out of the house! Why? Because the whole reason for the gathering was to learn from one another ... to have a great time of fellowship! Some people like to constantly throw food and yell ... they won't last on Worthy ... because they missed the point of the party ... it's a prequel to the true party -- the Lamb's Supper! All I'm trying to provide is a place to allow true fellowship ... and discussions in love ... in the hopes it will be a catalyst for true REVIVAL based on REPENTANCE! I hope you have a blessed time at Worthy! Please use the REPORT POST feature (which can be found at the top right of all posts) any posts that you believe should be reviewed! We strive to have ALL members abide by our Terms of Service. While this message is "automated", please know that if you have any questions, feel free to shoot me off a private message which can be found at the top right to the left of your name. Your brother in the Lord with much agape love, George Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhen Posted November 21, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 2 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/21/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 21, 2019 Thank you George.... so you are saying I cannot post on a particular forum (like prayer requests) for a while? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Lulu Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 77 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1,271 Content Per Day: 0.56 Reputation: 2,289 Days Won: 1 Joined: 02/19/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted November 22, 2019 I am praying for you and your family. My sister got pregnant at the age of 18 out of wedlock. My mother was devastated. She never got over what she perceived to be an affront to her. Everyone was influenced by her bitterness. She alienated this child and my sister. The ramifications of her bitterness are still felt to this day. This child grew up to be a wonderful man and father. Praise God that a beautiful child will be born into this world. Celebrate this child that God knew would be coming into this world. Be close to your daughter during this pregnancy and birth. She needs you! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 540 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,915 Content Per Day: 5.04 Reputation: 23,650 Days Won: 230 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted November 22, 2019 Somewhat more than 2000 years ago a young unmarried girl became pregnant … she was shunned by neighbours and could have been put to death by the man she was betrothed to . He had compassion and stayed with her and now over 2000 years later we STILL celebrate the birth of that child This is NOT about you but may be Gods way of showing you how much you lack compassion towards others How can you justify praising one illegitimate child and condemning another ? SHAME ON YOU praying for you daughter, her parntner and the child they will have and love even if you don't 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 43 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.92 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted November 22, 2019 18 hours ago, Rhen said: Thank you George.... so you are saying I cannot post on a particular forum (like prayer requests) for a while? Hi Rhen, Yes, you can post a prayer request on the forums. I understand the embarrassment that you're facing with your daughter having a child before marriage. It's sadly disappointing for your entire family perhaps, as you've indicated. I'm so sorry this is breaking your heart over the matter also. Try to understand, in this day and age it has become rather common place for this occur. The most important thing for her right now, is to be open for the Lord to minister to her and become her Saviour if He hasn't yet. She needs to come to Him, and so does her boyfriend. Praying for you, and welcome to Worthy. God bless. Shalom, David/BeauJangles Let your light so shine ~ Matthew 5:16 KJV Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Adams Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 25 Topic Count: 61 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 9,606 Content Per Day: 3.95 Reputation: 7,797 Days Won: 21 Joined: 09/11/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted November 22, 2019 (edited) I was born to a young mom and then taken by social services folk. Nasty. I was bounced all over the place. God is not as concerned as you are. Did the couple have a 'social marriage'? A piece of paper proves nothing. I just got divorced so I know that it means little. In God's eyes is the most important thing and your sense of shame will transfer to mom and baby if you do not take care. We are all less than perfect and I guess God is more concerned with gossip than an unwed mother. Treat them all with care and compassion and just be true to your Savior. Edited November 22, 2019 by Justin Adams 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 540 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,915 Content Per Day: 5.04 Reputation: 23,650 Days Won: 230 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted November 22, 2019 illegitimate [ adjective, noun il-i-jit-uh-mit; verb il-i-jit-uh-meyt ]SHOW IPA SEE SYNONYMS FOR illegitimate ON THESAURUS.COM adjective born of parents who are not married to each other; born out of wedlock: an illegitimate child. not legitimate; not sanctioned by law or custom. Mary was not married to God the father Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 540 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,915 Content Per Day: 5.04 Reputation: 23,650 Days Won: 230 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted November 22, 2019 I have never said He wasn't Gods son but by human definition He was not " legitimate " and His mother suffered scorn and disgrace just the same as other unmarried women would have done Praise God she had the courage to continue and the faith that God would take care of her It has not been that way for all unmarried women who have faced rejection by those that should love them yet those same people who condemn a child born without the benefit of " marriage " worship a child born in ( from human view point ) the same way Even Joseph her espoused was of a mind to put her away quietly as he was not a cruel man and married her only after God sent a messenger to him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted November 22, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 43 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.92 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted November 22, 2019 2 minutes ago, Sonshine said: Jesus is the Father's own Son. Deity is not to be explained. It is to be adored. The Sonship of Christ is to be accepted as a truth of revelation, to be apprehended by faith. Forgive the slight edit. Just a comment here. Amen on that. Our Saviour was conceived of the Holy Ghost, and from God the Father. Jesus is Lord over all. This is Trinity. Hallelujah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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